Those of you with a significant other?

I will admit to cooking really delish meals for my husband because it makes him happy.

He loves curries, roasts, steaks, etc etc etc...You know, all those things we "shouldn't" have.

Like you I don't do it to make him fat, or sabotage any diets I just want him to be happy and not be "stuck" eating all the diet foods that he really doesn't like but I need to be eating right now.

I do that all the time, but my fiance is skinny as a stick and never gains any weight anyway.

I do the exact same thing..... :frown:

This is interesting to me because I feel like I am the opposite. My SO is the one that buys the junk food - I DON'T buy it because I love him (although it makes him grumpy sometimes!)

Yes, I do this. I'm glad its not just me! I'm trying to stop now, though.

I will admit to cooking really delish meals for my husband because it makes him happy.

He loves curries, roasts, steaks, etc etc etc...You know, all those things we "shouldn't" have.

Like you I don't do it to make him fat, or sabotage any diets I just want him to be happy and not be "stuck" eating all the diet foods that he really doesn't like but I need to be eating right now.

Oh goodness.... I eat all of those delicious meals! If those are "bad" for me, then I eat horribly! I don't eat "diet" foods and I don't think anyone should if this is intended to be a lifestyle. Steak and curry and roasts are not bad for you!

Take it from a gal that LOVES to cook and even moreso, I love to hear the words "Baby, this is delicious" come out of my boyfriends mouth... when you can make a really healthy meal and have them say the same thing, you feel 100x more amazing. I made a whole-wheat pasta chicken lasagna the other night (350 cals per cup) and I was sure he would hate it, but he loved it.

It isn't love if you taking away from the years they could be spending with you down the road. Know what I mean?

My husband isn't watchign what he its, so he doesn't mind when I make sweet things for him. However he's picky about his food. I love casseroles and things like that but its a waste of money to make it for my family when 2 out of the 6 of us will eat it so I tend to bake or experiment new recipes on my coworkers, and they love me for it!

i definitely do that... I LOVE baking and cooking, but i usually don't like to eat the things that bake. i'm not as big a fan of banana bread as he is, so i make a loaf, eat one piece and give the rest to him! problem is, he's diabetic and really shouldn't be eating in such high quantities (if i know i'm giving him the goodies i bake with artifical sweeteners though). i too need to stop doing this, because he has finally admitted that he wants to lose a bit of weight (he's a little overweight, but not huge), and because of the diabetes, it makes it that much harder to lose. so together we're turning over a new leaf, and trying to help out each other!

to be fair though... i also do this with my parents... constantly giving them leftovers. i think that's a payback for the many years that my mom has done that for me (and still does).

I love baking for my family, and I'm pretty darn good at it!

If I make a regular cake, the three of us will snack on it for a few days until it's gone I try to find HEALTHIER alternatives. For example, rather than making a pumpkin spice cake from scratch. I mixed one can of pumpkin with one box spice cake (nothing else!) and baked as directed. Cut out the oil, eggs and icing and was unbelievably good!

Ok, so normally I don't like to naysay people on forum's, but since you have put this on a public forum, I will share my opinion, as honestly as possible, without trying to sound rude, bc it is not my intention at all.

I previously lost 25lbs - but have gained it, and more back since - which is what I am currently trying to loose again atm.

When I was going through my previous weight loss period, I didn't have any processed anything, or even gluten. So, no processed sugars, no baked goods, no desserts, etc etc etc.

I had a friend at that time, someone I even considered a very close friend, possibly even my best friend as I had known her since high school, had known her for 9-10 years at that point, we had a lot in commomn, etc. She knew what I was trying to do with my health and weight and was *mostly* supportive, except for one thing. Any time we would be out for a meal, or if I would be over at her place and we would be eating dinner, aftewards she would always suggest or even bring out a dessert and ask me if I wanted some. I would politely decline, reminding her that I was off sweets (even though she already knew). She would then persist - saying things like, "c'mon Becca, eating one brownie won't hurt" etc. It really used to upset me, bc she knew what I was trying to do - to me, it seemed as if she was trying to get me to eat it, bc she herself wanted to eat it as well, but maybe felt guilty about it (even though she was very thin, didn't over indulge, etc). It got to a point where I had to have a serious word with her about it, let her know how much it upset me and ask her to please stop completely. She even got a bit upset about it, which I thought was ridiculous.

Anyways, my point is this - perhaps you should sit down and consider why it is that you give your boyfriend sweets. Is it truly bc it is a way that you show your care and affection for him, or is it bc you are living vicariously through what he is eating (as my friend was trying to do with me)? If it is the latter, I would suggest that you stop - pushing someone to engage in an unhealthy habit, esp someone you care about, is really not fair on them.

Granted, he is an adult, and ultimately has to make his own choices (as I did refusing my friend every time), but perhaps bc he loves and cares about you as well, he would find it difficult to refuse your gestures even if wants to or knows he should stop eating the sweets so much.

Again, I do not mean this in a rude or accusing way towards you, but it is just my opinion of the situation from the information you have provided.

My bf atm is also trying to loose weight as well, so it really helps that we both are, bc it means we only have good/healthy foods in the house, and any time we are together and one of us wants a chocolate or something, the other gives encouragement not to do it. So, if your boyfriend is serious about wanting to loose some weight, maybe you can offer to help him as well.

Anyhow, whatever you decide to do, good luck to you in your progress. :-)

My boyfriend was over 100 pounds overweight, so about 265lbs. He lost a tremendous amount of weight and is now a healthy weight. That being said, he came from a household that fed him cakes, cookies, brownies, ice cream, Italian ice and candy every single day out of LOVE...and thats just the sweets. Even though I love him, I won't even tempt him with baking cookies, making unhealthy food, etc. If he wants it, he bakes or cooks it himself. I came from a household that cooked healthy (household of chefs, nurses, doctors and dieticians), so I have a whole different view of what cooking out of love looks like. And I have never been overweight, not even in the slightest.

I am not vilifying you, I am just giving you an example of what "love" cooking can do.

Don't get me wrong, we still have cake, cookies, muffins....but its limited and only when we both can enjoy it because whats the point of baking without enjoying it with someone you love. Plus, limiting it makes it more special when you can enjoy it together.

yeah. guilty but my husband has a hard time keeping weight ON, so it's harmless. Last night I made a pina colada cake "for him". But of course I tasted a little here and there to make sure the flavor was right

I am guilty as charged. My husband must have a naturally high metabolism because he can eat what he wants, whenever he wants, and has maybe put on 5-10 lbs in the last 12 yrs. I do buy the chips, dip, ice cream, sodas, etc, ......all for him, because I rarely eat any of that. I can't force him to eat like I do, even though I have snuck in some healthy stuff. Whole wheat pasta, whole grain breads, fat free/low fat salad dressings, light soups and mayo. He doesn't complain. As long as he gets his chips with dip.

I luff my fiance....and i bake him cookies....then i eat them.

his metabolism is great. i cook whatever he wants