38lbs down. No one has noticed.

people don't make comments for various reasons, clothes don't make comments because they cant, but their labels never lie

I read this on MFP.
It takes 4 weeks for you to notice.
It takes 8 weeks for your family to notice.
It takes 12 weeks for the world to notice.
I think these are close to right. But as always YMMV.

People don't usually say anything unless you mention it first, they don't want to admit that they noticed you were overweight in the first place. So I suspect that you do look different, they are just trying to be polite.

My thoughts are who cares? :flowerforyou: You are doing this for YOU not THEM! One day you are going to walk in there like BAM! and they are all going to be like WTF! On that day (if I were you) I would just raise an eyebrow at them and say "what?"

On a side note, it wasn't until I had lost about 80 pounds before someone noticed. Now I hear people pretty much every other day say things to me like "you are looking really good" and "have you lost weight"... maybe a couple pounds. :laugh: :laugh:

^^^^ This is awesome!!^^^^

There seems to be a kind of "tipping point" at which it suddenly becomes obvious, and at which point people will start remarking on it. It'll come. Three sizes down is stellar, keep going!

As far as seeing it yourself, sometimes it takes a while. I have lost 104 pounds so far, and still when I look in the mirror, I don't really see the difference. I just see the giant fat person I used to be. It is only when I compare new pics to old pics that I can see it!

I think that sometimes other people notice, but are afraid to say anything because they are afraid they might be wrong, and it would be awkward. You have done fabulously, just keep up the good work. I promise they WILL notice, and you will feel so much better!

People get uncomfortable talking about weight loss. It's even more uncomfortable if the person was very large to begin with or has tried (and failed) to lose weight multiple times before. So, most people just don't discuss it.

When people start to see long-term results, they will feel more at ease talking to you about it. Just give it time.

I started out at 255 and now am down to 198 - 202 and I still look at myself and find the "fat" parts of me. But the other day I was walking in front of a big picture window on the street, saw my reflection and didn't recognize the dude in the reflection.
My perception can really get screwed up sometimes and I really beat myself up. My best friend always tells me to "Put down the bat and quit beating yourself up!". I need to look at where I was to really grasp where I am at today!
38 lbs is awesome and should be congratulated every single day.... so congrats!

On a side note, it wasn't until I had lost about 80 pounds before someone noticed. Now I hear people pretty much every other day say things to me like "you are looking really good" and "have you lost weight"... maybe a couple pounds. :laugh: :laugh:

Believe me people noticed 80 pounds lost. Some people do not know what to say and others see and they are talking about it to others and not you and some want to wait to see if you keep it off and others are just plan old haters.:ohwell: :grumble:

Like many have stated you are doing it for YOU, but it is still inspiring and motivating when other acknowlege the change. Hopefully we have love ones who will eventually do so.

I've lost just over 30 pounds and almost no one has noticed... but that's OK. I believe that people who really care about you notice HOW YOU ARE when they look at you, not HOW YOU LOOK. I once neglected to notice for days that my husband had shaved off his mustache. However, I can tell in an instant that he has a migraine without him saying a word, just by looking at him. So, maybe you should be celebrating that the people you know care so much about you that they aren't focused on how round your tummy is today. Maybe that isn't what is important about you to them.

Bear in mind that people's weight can be a very sensitive subject.

For someone to comment on weight loss is, in a strange way, a back-handed insult at saying "you used to be fat". And to comment on anyone's weight for any reason can draw attention to what might be a subject they'd rather not discuss.

If someone you worked with had been gaining weight and were now 38 lbs heavier, would you go up to them to say "something's different about you - are you getting fatter?". Course not. I know it isn't exactly the same thing and I know I'm stretching the point, but I'm just trying to help you to see that other people aren't going to know that you're open to comments about your weight, even if they're considered positive ones.

Try not to take it to heart. You've done brilliantly so far. Of a bigger concern, to my mind, is your inability to see the weight loss yourself. You might have issues there that need to be addressed. If you have any "before pics", take a look at those and compare to some you've recently taken. I think you'll be surprised

Good luck with it all.

I'm the same way! I'm down from 260 to 216 and I haven't had many comments one way or the other. My pants from a tight size 22W to a 16W and finally I am begining to get a very few people ask me how much weight I've lost. I totally like what Om_Nom_Nom says! he is exactly right!!!

You have done great so far! It isn't in vain!

I think noticing weight is so difficult for people. I know that I felt like I had been gaining before I started MFP, but I had several people tell me how I looked like I had lost weight. I finally weighed myself and for the first time in my life I had hit 300 pounds! Obviously they weren't right. Now that I've lost 23, none of them have said a word, but I do know my belly isn't a "dunlop"ed over my belt spare tire thing anymore, and once in a great while I get a compliment from someone, but not a lot. Keep at it!

People are egocentric and they are too busy looking at themselves half the time. Furthermore, some people are just haterz and they don't want to acknowledge it in you because then they feel bad about themselves and their lack of effort or progress. Your body is changing, regardless if anyone "notices" - it takes time. One day you are gonna wake up, look in the mirror, and go "WHOA! PEEP THAT NEW COLLARBONE!" or "DAYUMMMM, MY *kitten* IS LOOKING NIIIIICE." The important thing is not to throw in the towel. You got this.

Totally agree with this!!!!^^^^^^

Have you bought new clothes yet?

^ Exactly! No one noticed my weightloss either until I bought more fitted clothing. Good job on your weight loss!