Tired of Bar Scene. Now What?
Like most of you 20 somethings...I work long hours during the week and enjoy sizing the most out of my weekends. A large majority of my age group spends gratuitous amounts of time and money in bars/clubs/lounges...and while that was fun for the first year or so...The appeal has faded to a 'special occasion/celebration only' sort of status.
So that leads me to my question...Where are other fun places to mix it up with opposite sex who share similar lifestyle preferences?
So that leads me to my question...Where are other fun places to mix it up with opposite sex who share similar lifestyle preferences?
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I felt the same way. I actually ended up meeting my husband on Match.com I heard they now offer activities per age group/interest which they didn't when he and I were on there. Maybe take a couple classes if you can? Something that interests you. Like I love cooking, and I took a few of those. Met a couple friends that way.0
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Gave up on the bar scene years ago and I don't miss it at all. Last time I was in a bar was February, and it was the only time this year. Find classes workout or otherwise that you like. That way you are meeting people with similar interests. You can meet new people just about anywhere. Plus since we stopped going to the bars, my weekends are so much more productive and we save so much money.0
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I felt the same way. I actually ended up meeting my husband on Match.com I heard they now offer activities per age group/interest which they didn't when he and I were on there. Maybe take a couple classes if you can? Something that interests you. Like I love cooking, and I took a few of those. Met a couple friends that way.
Cooking classes! That's a great idea..I love to cook! I always thought those sorts of classes would be more suited towards the 30+ crowd.0 -
I'm 22 and I get what you mean completely. I don't think it's a good place to meet people in general, but it doesn't help when it just gets boring going out night after night.0
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I got this. I cannot drink so the bar scene is a total no go for me. I don't have the money and I have alcoholics in my family so I try to avoid drinking.
I always met people through school or work. Another good way is to do activities you enjoy. I've made good friends by volunteering at animal shelters or going rock climbing with my friends. I also loved my self defense class and had a great time pairing up with the guys to practice (most of the girls weren't strong enough to fight me). I also go to the game shop near by and play in card tournaments. It's tons of fun, much cheaper than a bar and the regulars are awesome.
Just remember, stick with activities you like. They'll give you the best chance of running into someone who loves the same stuff you do.0 -
Try new hobbies which opens you up to a whole new social circle!0
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Yeah...bar scene not my thing. I've met more people just expanding my interests and being willing to travel a little bit further than where I live. But do stick to things you like...that way you are not trying too hard and you'll be your true self when you meet new people.:bigsmile:0
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So that leads me to my question...Where are other fun places to mix it up with opposite sex who share similar lifestyle preferences?
What about MFP!
How you doin'?
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Yeah, I'm in the same boat!0
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Bar scene is terrible for meeting girls...except every other place is even worse. work or gym? hah....please.0
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School for me works.0
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Volunteer your time to a cause that's near to your heart! Not only will you be giving back to society, you'll meet up with other people who are passionate, energetic, and generous.
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I am 24 and completely skipped the bar scene somehow LOL. I go to sports pubs once a month with my husband. I've been in an actual bar a couple times but usually with family.
I don't socialize much at all but maybe try meetup.com or if you have a job see if you can network through that. If you go to school still you can network in clubs and extra activities on campus.0 -
Try the internet?0
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So that leads me to my question...Where are other fun places to mix it up with opposite sex who share similar lifestyle preferences?
What about MFP!
How you doin'?
LOL mfp seems to be the spot now.0 -
The bar scene is a ton of fun for a period of time and then it just get's tired. I was a bartender for years so I was in it deep and when it was time to go I ran for the door... Luckily I had my adorable wife leave with me, I actually met her there!
I think if I was single and needed to meet someone now it would probably be through my business contacts ( I have some really cool clients) or I would take a stab at a Match.com. I think the stigma of dating sites is unwarranted if you are using a legit one and honestly trying to meet someone you would enjoy...0 -
I have social anxiety, so crowded places like bars are not my favourite place to be. If I'm not drunk, then I am just uncomfortable. And if I'm drunk, then I'm not going to be creating any meaningful friendships or anything like that. Besides, most bars I go to are gay bars and I just go for the drag shows and then leave.
I meet people through doing theatre. I never really had friends until I started doing theatre. But theatre folk UNDERSTAND me or something cheesy along those lines. So I mean, if you have something that you love to do and love being involved in, do that thing, get involved in that thing, and you'll find people that also like doing/being involved in that thing and sharing a common passion is one of the best ways to connect to somebody, I think.0 -
When I was 22 I met my now-husband on Match.com .. A friend of mine was using it and meeting so many really great guys so I figured why not? People gripe about how much it costs ( I think I spent around $70 for 6 months? ) .. but honestly it was the best $70 I've ever spent.. all the men I met were serious about dating and relationships and they were willing to spent some money on their membership to prove it.0
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Volunteer your time to a cause that's near to your heart! Not only will you be giving back to society, you'll meet up with other people who are passionate, energetic, and generous.
^^^^^THIS^^^^^0 -
Volunteer your time to a cause that's near to your heart! Not only will you be giving back to society, you'll meet up with other people who are passionate, energetic, and generous.
AWESOME!0 -
Church is often a good place to meet wonderful people.0
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Lots of great suggestions in this thread, thank you.
To clarify...I'm not looking for my soul mate or anything...Just some more like minded people who I can open up new social circles with. I love meeting new people and sharing experiences.0 -
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See if your town has Livingsocial Adventures.. I've done 2 so far, and its a great way to meet people who have similar interests 0
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Check out meetup.com, it's free to join, (good for all age ranges) then you can put in your interest in the find group box and they will show you all the groups in your area that are on the site. Once you join a group (you can join as many as you want) you will receive notices by email when the group has something scheduled and if there is a fee, how much (for example, one group I'm in went bowling and we just had to pay to get into the bowling alley-the group got a discounted rate) you RSVP and go if it's something you're interested in doing.Lots of great suggestions in this thread, thank you.
To clarify...I'm not looking for my soul mate or anything...Just some more like minded people who I can open up new social circles with. I love meeting new people and sharing experiences.0 -
the bar scene is highly overrated and SUPER expensive!
try to find local forums on hobbies you enjoy. like baking or working out. online is a wonderful tool to find people who are like minded without spending any money.
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spend a little money and join some clubs or groups. i joined a co-ed softball team and met a lot of new people including other teams/people. best of luck!0 -
Buy you one of them Russian brides. What could possibly go wrong there?0
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Check out meetup.com, it's free to join, (good for all age ranges) then you can put in your interest in the find group box and they will show you all the groups in your area that are on the site. Once you join a group (you can join as many as you want) you will receive notices by email when the group has something scheduled and if there is a fee, how much (for example, one group I'm in went bowling and we just had to pay to get into the bowling alley-the group got a discounted rate) you RSVP and go if it's something you're interested in doing.Lots of great suggestions in this thread, thank you.
To clarify...I'm not looking for my soul mate or anything...Just some more like minded people who I can open up new social circles with. I love meeting new people and sharing experiences.
Seconded! I moved to a new country a few months ago and I've found a great group of folks who are all in the same boat of wanting to get out, meet people and have fun. It's not dating-focused, it's just a good way to meet likeminded folk. There are groups like hiking, book clubs, french conversation, cooking, debating, IT professionals, live music etc.
Also, I've found that it takes guts and a lot of effort to make new friends. You have to stick your neck out and make the first move, you have to go to things even if you're feeling shy or unsure, you have to be smiley and friendly and 'on'... and it takes time to build up.0 -
I'm gonna second the Meetup.com suggestion. Literally innumerable options there; you can choose whatever is interesting to you or try something totally new, you can choose a bigger group or a smaller group, and there isn't a cost, so it's win-win-win.0
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^^^^MFP has some of the most beautiful women i've ever saw...good spot since its now a dating site anyway lol0
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