Tired of Bar Scene. Now What?

You just need to be so awesome that he party come to you :bigsmile:

Funny this is posted as I just recently decided to stay far away from the bars and going out. I haven't drank in 16 days which is a stark comparison to just 2 weeks ago when I was drinking Thurs-Sunday, every week. I decided, what is the point in doing all of this work to stay healthy and lose weight if come Thursday, I'm just going to drink it all away? Not to mention, the effects it has on my body that I can't see and also the effects it has on my wallet that I can see.

But I have found that now I'm not sure what to do either because ALL of my friends go out, the only thing they know how to do is drink. I think it's a midwest thing, everyone here bonds over drinking, if you aren't drinking, you don't have anything to do. I've just started to put more focus onto working out, doing well in school, looking for 5k's or things to do fitness wise on the weekends and also started to volunteer on the weekends at the local SPCA. Spending a Saturday playing with a bunch of cute dogs who are kept in cages most of their days, isn't a bad way to spend a Saturday.

Maybe check out online groups for activities you're interested in, and see if they have activities planned. For example, here in so Cal we have a group called So Cal Trail Riders, and the members organize group rides pretty often. Or for hiking you could try All Trails. Members there organize group hikes all over the country. It's a great way to find people that you share similar interests with. Maybe even try joining a sports team in your area.

I'm with you - the bar scene gets really old really fast. And as far as meeting people there, I usually found that the people I met there weren't what they advertised themselves to be. People go to bars and clubs dressed up as something they're really not...

Church is often a good place to meet wonderful people.

I hear that and the chicks are horny

Omg! That gave me a great little laugh thank you

I know it sounds cliche and not as fun, but online dating is really great. You can size people up by their profile (ie are they active, interests, etc) and then if you're still interested, go out (this gives you conclusive evidence if they were being truthful on their profile!). Plus, it's easy to fit in with work since it's available 24/7.

I met my boyfriend of 3 years on a free site and even before I met him, I went out with another awesome guy from the same site for about 2 years. Just be cautious and go with your gut!

Church is often a good place to meet wonderful people.

I hear that and the chicks are horny

Omg! That gave me a great little laugh thank you

no thank you :flowerforyou: I'm here all week and don't forget to tip your server

I checked out meetup.com....There wasn't any groups for athletic stoners who love cats.

Bahahaha, maybe try just getting 2/3

I checked out meetup.com....There wasn't any groups for athletic stoners who love cats.

I was looking at meetup.com........ luckily... I did find a video gamer group but I think I am going to feel kind fo weird being the only female professional going to meetups to play League of Legends.

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Like most of you 20 somethings...I work long hours during the week and enjoy sizing the most out of my weekends. A large majority of my age group spends gratuitous amounts of time and money in bars/clubs/lounges...and while that was fun for the first year or so...The appeal has faded to a 'special occasion/celebration only' sort of status.

So that leads me to my question...Where are other fun places to mix it up with opposite sex who share similar lifestyle preferences?

MeetMe - > free, fun, definately hook up site....

hook up site????

brb making an account

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I felt the same way. I actually ended up meeting my husband on Match.com I heard they now offer activities per age group/interest which they didn't when he and I were on there. Maybe take a couple classes if you can? Something that interests you. Like I love cooking, and I took a few of those. Met a couple friends that way.

Cooking classes! That's a great idea..I love to cook! I always thought those sorts of classes would be more suited towards the 30+ crowd.

WTF is wrong with the 30+ crowd!!!! :explode:



I kid. I kid.

I have long been over the bar scene. I actually kind of hate it now but I still enjoy the casino's...I just refuse to go dt every weekend to all the bars and clubs like all my friends still do....But I have no great suggestions for you. Just letting you know that I feel the very same way lol maybe you just need to put your magic shoes on and see where they take you mama says they could take you anywhere. hehehe

ahah but because you're married! Your hubs keeps you occupied and gives you all the fun you need! Getting married before 25 is like leaving the party at 10pm....haha jk jk

I felt the same way. I actually ended up meeting my husband on Match.com I heard they now offer activities per age group/interest which they didn't when he and I were on there. Maybe take a couple classes if you can? Something that interests you. Like I love cooking, and I took a few of those. Met a couple friends that way.

Cooking classes! That's a great idea..I love to cook! I always thought those sorts of classes would be more suited towards the 30+ crowd.

I was in the mid 20s when I started taking them. I'm in my early 30s now. Concerts too were a great place too. You already had music in common. You could strike up a conversation inbetween bands/sets.

1. Work the friend of friend network. Tell every acquaintance or friend that you are single and ask for a referral for a fix up. The 2 or 3 degrees of separation principle is where you are going to find your best matches.
2. Common hobbies.
3. Exercise classes tend to skew more female than male

I'm gonna second the Meetup.com suggestion. Literally innumerable options there; you can choose whatever is interesting to you or try something totally new, you can choose a bigger group or a smaller group, and there isn't a cost, so it's win-win-win.

^^ yep. I met my husband in a meetup group.

I think the internet is the best way to meet women, but it's time consuming. I did internet dating for 3 months. I went on at least one date a week (usually just coffee), but sometimes up to four. I went on about 30 first dates, which led maybe 8 second dates, 4 flings. One turned out to be my other half, the love of my life, and we're getting married in a couple weeks.