Ladies I need your advise...

You could try subtle things like cook healthy dinners for her and why not to start things off, ask her to go for walks, just the 2 of you. Or biking like someone else mentioned on here. Do either of you like dancing? Maybe you could take a dancing class together. That's an awesome way to shed some pounds plus you can both get time together and you'll be getting a form of exercise in. If you keep incorporating the small things then maybe she'll jump on the bandwagon. she'll realize she's feeling better and possibly want to advance the workouts. Just don't be harsh because at the end of the day it is her body and if she is happy with it then you really can't do anything. Best of luck to you though.

This above is a wonderful idea. Start cooking super healthily and invite her for walks or other activities that are low impact to start with. If you take over the cooking, shopping, and keep the junk food out of the house, the temptation won't be there. Good luck!

I had a boyfriend once who showed up one day and brought me a bike and said he wanted to go cycling with me. It got me moving! Maybe the same approach would work with your wife? Start off small with "let's start taking walks together after dinner with/without the kids." Start making dates to do activities together. It could work.

This and maybe once you have been walking more together or biking etc you could find a small race or charity walk to train for together- even if she doesn't lose weight from it she will be fitter and you will get some quality time together

I completely disagree with most of this. Yes, a week's worth of healthy meals can be undone by a bad eating day. However, people who are not dieting, are less likely to make that binge. If she eats the way she normally does most of the week, but has a couple of healthier, lower calorie meals without even really knowing it, it is unlikely she will binge.

I completely degree with all of this. A 150-calorie per day surplus is hardly a "binge", but do it for a bunch of years, and now you're 50 pounds overweight.

Without a profound, intentional, mental shift made entirely of your own volition, or being starved, you can't lose weight.

You can always tell her you feel so much better now that you've lost a bunch of weight and would love the company in eating healthier and potentially working out.
When all is said and done though, she's going to be the one who decides whether or not she wants to do it. She needs that "push" to start, which you've already found.
I wish you the best of luck

I agree with what others said.. and honestly, you don't want to cause MORE self-esteem or confidence issues. She might not be sharing with you, but women have major issues regarding their bodies.. we are obsessed (and society makes sure that we stay that way).

I say start with something easy. Ask her to go on a walk with you .. maybe every other day of the week, even if only for 20 minutes. If she does that, she'll eventually see some physical changes, even without a significant calorie change... and maybe she'll want more.

Also, keep in mind that husband/wife weight loss don't usually go hand in hand. Men lose weight very differently than women. A friend of mine and his wife started eating healthy and going to the gym every day. He has lost double the weight that she has (nearly 70 lbs) even though they literally eat and exercise the same amount. He also started losing immediately, while it took her body about a month to start dropping.

And also keep in mind that she might never lose all the weight you want her to lose. But you'll see the changes regardless; My husband notices if I lose 5lbs. And a friend of mine lost 30 lbs, and is now maintaining. She's still slightly overweight, and will never go back to her 20s, but she and her husband are both thrilled with her new bod. It's also a healthier and stronger body.


Good luck!

next time she says she is comfortable with her size, ask her with as much empathy and compassion as you can muster, why she then complains about her weight all the time. Tell her that what you hear is she isn't happy with it but maybe wants to be, and that you love her for who she is but if she'd rather try to lose it then accept it, you would be there to help and support her. Then if or when she is ready you could ask her for some guidance on what she needs and what her goals might be so she feels encouraged not judged.

All you have to do is tell her about the very attractive woman that asked to start working out with you, so that you both could motivate each other. Then say you are considering telling her that is a great Idea unless you think you would like to start working out with me honey.

Problem solved. :smokin:

LMAO. Either it'll go brilliantly and the wife will start working out with hubby or hubby will have a shoe shoved up his keister (hopefully for him not heeled or steel-toed).

A couple people have mentioned bringing up how good YOU feel now. DON'T DO THAT. It can be discouraging.

Have you changed your diet to compliment your exercise regime? If not...do.

If you have, maybe you need yot start doing the grocery shopping. if there's only good stuff in the house, then only good stuff can be eaten. I don't know very many overweight people who eat a healthy diet.

Even if she says she's comfortable with her weight, the fact that she returns to complaining about it leads me to believe that she's really just trying ton convince herself. Perhaps you can find a cardio class or a spin class or something and suggest going together. That way you aren't saying, "Hey, you need to work out," you're saying "Let's do something healthy together."