What's the most backhanded compliment you've ever recieved?

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  • smboston
    smboston Posts: 68
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    "You'd look thinner if you tanned."
  • Colleen118
    Colleen118 Posts: 491 Member
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    "it's great that you've lost weight and gotten in shape, but you looked a whole lot younger when you were fat. Your face looks old now."

    F*&*# YOU!!!

    Did you give them a demonstration of how much strength youv'e gained by punching them in the face and follwoing up with "well my face may look older to you but I bet my fist tells a different story huh, Jackbag?!"
  • AmberJo1984
    AmberJo1984 Posts: 1,067 Member
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    "You'd be pretty... if you would just lose weight."

    "You're face is so pretty... you just need to do something about the rest of your body."
  • Colleen118
    Colleen118 Posts: 491 Member
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    You would be so pretty if only you lost weight. Amber can lose all the weight she wants, but she will never be as pretty as Jessica. Both of those came from the same person - my step-dad's sister. Jessica is her daughter. That's one of the many reasons I no longer talk to her, my step-dad and most of my family!

    Damn. If my step parent said that to me, odds are no one would want anything to do with me after I told them how I really felt.

    ^^When I read hers I flashed back to when I was about 7 or 8 and my step mother told me that no one shuld have to look at my fat *kitten* in a bikini.... Mind You SHE BOUGHT THE THING FOR ME!! Step-parents are such a$$es. My step dad is too... his favorite thing to say is "bet you wish you still looked like you did in highschool when you were thin and pretty. My response the last time he said this to me, about a month before I strted my change..." REALLY Jackbag?! Bet you wish you could see if your socks and shoes matched if you were standing upright too... but you can't!" We haven't seen each other since.
  • Colleen118
    Colleen118 Posts: 491 Member
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    LITERALLY was JUST told, "your face is starting to resemble skeletor but fantastic job on your weight loss!" -a guy co-worker... pretty sure he believes it was a compliment but REALLY?!?!?!
  • Diary_Queen
    Diary_Queen Posts: 1,314 Member
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    "Oh... wow... so you HAVEN'T hit the 100 lbs. lost mark yet... I figured you should have been way past that by now and I just missed the party while I was on vacation"

    "You know, I would love to have sex with you every day of the week..... if you looked like the porn stars that I like to watch"

    "I didn't know you were so huge before. I keep forgetting that you were really really REALLY big. I wonder why no one ever said anything when you were so fat... so you would have known sooner"
  • megalin9
    megalin9 Posts: 771 Member
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    can't think of any right off the top of my head. but last week I bought a new Adidas gym bag and the cashier at TJ Max said "looks like someone is about to start working out!" and I said "Um someone has been working out for 3 months."

    can't wait till I can buy exercise equipment or clothing without looking like I stumbled into the wrong dept. heck, I can't wait till I can go to the produce dept or lean cuisine aisle at the grocery store without looking like a helpless fat girl embarking on a new diet. because right now when I go anywhere near the healthy foods people always give me unsolicited nutritional advice. I don't care how thin or fit I get. I'm not gonna go around telling people what they should do unless they ask for my opinion. Especially strangers!

    and tell me why a guy at the Y who is in worse shape than I am feels the need to tell me what he thinks I should do regarding exercise. I doubt he can manage my daily workout. And he's new to classes I've been attending for a while now. But this is the 3rd day he's had some sort of wisdom to share. Today he came up to tell me (while I'm on a machine with my earbuds in) that from now on I don't eat any more white stuff. I responded that I do sometimes. And again he said, no. No more white stuff for you. Does he think he's the soup nazi from Seinfeld? Where does he get off?

    Oh my goodness, I so relate to this, and the "soup nazi" comment cracked me up.
  • megalin9
    megalin9 Posts: 771 Member
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    "You carry your weight well!"

    "You are so proprotionate!"

    As so many others have said, "You have such a pretty face!"

    From my ex-boyfriend, "Oh, we all have a belly roll when we sit down."

    Somehow, the topic of my obese friend and her wedding came up in a conversation with my dear Granny in the same conversation we were having about MY wedding dress. I was 6 months pregnant, and she suggested that I wear my friend's wedding dress instead of finding one of my own. Ummm...even pregnant, I was much smaller than my friend.
  • gkwatra
    gkwatra Posts: 431 Member
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    An Indian co-worker: "You've gain-ed the weight!" In a congratulatory tone. I guess he thought that was a good thing being from a place where skinny isn't a fashion statement.

    In Eastern countries they never learned the etiquette regarding mentioning someone's weight. They think it's perfectly fine to tell someone they are fat and expect them not to be offended.
  • MissAnjy
    MissAnjy Posts: 2,480 Member
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    "Oh wow, you're a lot less lumpy now"
  • AmberMahfouz
    AmberMahfouz Posts: 316
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    You look fantastic, that pregnancy glow looks great on you..


    Yeah... except Im not.
  • The_new_me_x
    The_new_me_x Posts: 37
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    Your bewbs are to big and pert to be real.!!! Gggrrr
  • HazenAllen
    HazenAllen Posts: 46 Member
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    "You're really hot for a big guy, but sorry."

    That was fine to me, I completely lost interest, I have no time for shallow people.

    Also, insert any "If you lost weight...." compliment you can possibly conceive. -___-
  • laurenellenmarie
    laurenellenmarie Posts: 331 Member
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    Back story: I was a lifeguard for 6 years=constantly in the pool.

    One day, I chopped my hair to a bob. And dyed it blonde.

    "Your haircut makes your face look thinner! I hope the chlorine did that to your hair though. Surely you didn't do that on purpose."
  • Sabrina__26
    Sabrina__26 Posts: 78
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    "You are hot...for a black girl." Sad but true.

    I had this happen to me too :( A guy once stopped me in the street to ask me what country I was originally from. He then said, 'You're pretty hot for a asian girl'
    Stupid men lol
  • Teliooo
    Teliooo Posts: 725 Member
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    You didn't sound black on the phone. umm wtf?

    She is very well spoken (my father in law to my partner). uhh, what did he expect me to sound like?

    I would love to have a big bum like yours.
  • Teliooo
    Teliooo Posts: 725 Member
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    LITERALLY was JUST told, "your face is starting to resemble skeletor but fantastic job on your weight loss!" -a guy co-worker... pretty sure he believes it was a compliment but REALLY?!?!?!

    loooool. What do you even say to that?
  • tvanhooser
    tvanhooser Posts: 326 Member
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    Anything with a qualifier of any kind kind of spoils the moment. But I'd have to say the worst I've heard is not weight loss related: "Dad and I are proud of you for graduating from college. We never even expected you to go to college. We thought you'd just get married and have babies. [REALLY???!!!???? You could have fooled me.....the message I got was not going to college was unthinkable, but whatever....] Of course, the BOYS [my three younger brothers] HAVE to." Uh--OK, hello 1842!! Did I just get caught in a time loop here or what????
  • lizzie2190
    lizzie2190 Posts: 236 Member
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    " you have a good figure considering you have had kids" ggggrrrrrr
  • Corsetopia
    Corsetopia Posts: 307 Member
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    My size 2 boss constantly complains about not being a size 0 and will look over and ask me during this conversation, "But how much have YOU lost now? Oh my gosh, if I could ONLY lose these 5 pounds..."
    :grumble:

    Same boss with another girl at work who is struggling with her weight (not me, because I would have slapped her)
    Boss: "Those pants are way too tight, they look like spandex, we're not allowed to wear spandex at work, honey."
    Girl: "Well, I don't have the money to buy any pants this week and I've gained a little weight."
    Boss: "Here... (hands her a stack of papers) go deliver these, maybe you'll lose some weight." (sweet smile)

    After I overheard that I was just in shock, does someone really not know how hurtful that is?

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