Guys, be honest,....

I can't speak for guys but from my experience - I always got a lot more attention at the lower end of the scale.

I think this has been the most exciting board yet.....shew!

I prefer meat on my man's bones....

I think it all depends on preference. Looks get you there, personality keeps you there.
There does have to be an attraction, though. I personally prefer tall, husky guys, but I wouldn't pass up dating a thinner person if they had a great personality, and I was still attracted to them. Attraction is based on more than looks.

Aw. Someone has a crush.

I would have laughed if he had used your current profile picture.

Me, too. It would have actually been funny then. Although it's funny, anyway. I really do think there's a little crush going on there. But I am no Mrs. Robinson.

I can't speak for guys but from my experience - I always got a lot more attention at the lower end of the scale.

Pretty much. Women flat out don't talk to you if you're over 200.

well yeah its a beauty is in the eye of the beholder kind of thing

id have to see that to believe it

you're asking the wrong question... we can see a pretty face and think that's attractive (i.e. that she's pretty) even if we're not physically attracted to her body because of her size.

for example, this woman is very pretty, but she's nearly too big to be voluptuous anymore. don't get me wrong, lots of guys would find her body physically appealing at this weight, but if you add another 50 pounds, that number would go down quite a bit. she'd still be very pretty however.



of course, if she's smart, funny, and alot of fun to be around, it really would add quite alot to her appeal even with another 50 lbs.

This woman is beautiful!!!! Period. She is curvy and seems confident.

I can't speak for guys but from my experience - I always got a lot more attention at the lower end of the scale.

Pretty much. Women flat out don't talk to you if you're over 200.

My husband is VERY attractive and weighs 205. Solid muscle, but still I disagree on the 200 pound rule

I'm not a guy, but I can tell you how my husband has been perceived from women. He lost over a 150 pounds (gastric bypass) and is now at 350. As he slimmed down, he got more and more attention from women. His weight loss has stalled due to his having to have back surgery, but he still gets women flirting with him even though he is obese. I think women are more willing to forgive body flaws than men are, but that there are many exceptions to the rule. I was attracted to my husband when he was over 400 pounds and part of the reason he loves me so much is because I loved him when he was bigger. He used to get pissed when he first lost weight that women who never looked at him before would flirt, but he is better about it now.

Again, this is a very simple subject.

The majority of men like their women to be slender. Yes again there are groups of men who prefer bigger
ladies, they happen to be the minority.

If you are wanting to increase the pool of men who are interested in you, losing weight will do that for you.

Men are visual, men appreciate physical traits much more than personality or "confidence".

Again, there are always outliers, so just because you know a "guy who loves big women with big personality" doesn't mean he represents the norm.

Also, once again to clarify, I have read like 5 posts of women saying "well once I lost weight, i received much more attention, but I think that has to do with my confidence..."


nonononononononononononnoonnonononononononononono no.

no.

I don't care that you "want" to believe it had anything to do with your confidence, because it didn't.
Female confidence means jack for a man. We don't care if you are "confident" or if you are "shy
and reserved". We again value physical traits.

Again, outliers, etc.

This is the honest truth, you can choose to take the one or two examples you know, and try and claim it is not. Deep down ladies however you know this is true.

If you want to increase the pool of men attracted to you, losing weight and not being "fat or obese" will be a big step in that direction.

also think when you lose weight you gain confidence... and confidence is incredibly attractive