Stay At Home Mom SUPER Discouraged

Ur mormethan welcome to add me .. I'm a stay at home mom too

Just don't make things too complicated or strict as the first time you go off the rails a little bit you will feel a sense of failure and spiral even more downward. My advice is to just take it minute by minute, meal by meal, day by day, workout by workout and pound by pound. You WILL get there. it is NOT a sprint - it is a marathon and pacing yourself and picking yourself up after a small mis-step is the key.

Friend request me if you wish - just know that I have no strict schedules or eating plans but I do have success so far.

Hi Melissa!I just recently found my stride and would love to support you..friend me if you want. I lost 160lbs previously, didn't handle stress well, gained 60 back and am on my way back down. I know you can do this, and would love to encourae you and be encouraged by your enthusiasm!

You can do it....first of all...your diary is empty...don''t buy the junk food....friend me if you like.....

Just want to add in my2c. Its not necessary for you to eat every 2-3 hours for you to be successful. Sometimes eating all throughout the day can be a problem for people because you are always obsessing about food throughout the day. Just make sure to stick to your calorie goal for the day, and eat when your hungry.

I also believe the protein goal MFP sets for you is too low for most people, especially if you are working out. You might want to consider changing your macro settings to something like 40/30/30 and see how you do with that.

It sounds like you give yourself at lot of rules and plan a lot, but you are often setting yourself up for "failure" mentality when you don't stick to your rules and stray off your plan. How bout you simplify things this time, Just stick to your calorie goal, and try to get in some activity everyday. Its really as simple as that! Good luck to you.

You have great goals! I would try just adding one at a time. Start with exercise. Make the time to exercise five days a week for one month. Then add in the good eating. You will probably find after you make a habit of exercising, the healthy eating will be much easier. Don't overwhelm yourself at first. That's when people quit! You've already written the goals; that's the first step.

Please don't over schedule yourself. With children, you have to be able to switch things up or you will just give up. I started with just logging my meals - realized that I didn't eat enough and was in starvation mode. Once I ate better (more) I felt better and the weight just started falling off. I started doing zumba with my daughter and I LOVE it. You need to start slow and increase as you feel able to - push yourself, but not too hard and increase when you feel like you can. You can do this and as you increase the time you spend on "you", you will feel different about you and realize that you deserve it! Bottom line, just keep moving and when you feel like you have to stop, do five more minutes....talk yourself through it. If you have an urge to eat something - wait 15 minutes and if you still have to have it - have it and don't beat yourself up about it! Chocolate is a favorite of mine and I do eat it, but realized that skinnycow has awesome chocolates ! Good luck and remember YOU ARE WORTH IT AND A HAPPY-HEALTHY MOMMY MAKES A HAPPY-HEALTHY FAMILY

Honey, honey, honey..... you are putiing entirely too much pressure on yourself! Best advice I can give anyone is start small and add as you go. I could plan plan plan all day long, but if I never do it or if something comes up (like a sick child or a migraine), then I may not be able to do what I planned. Take it one day at a time. With anything, really. Plan for the day, at first, and see how that works. I make a list everyday and check things off as I go. When the day is over and I haven't been able to do all of those things, I simply say I'll do it tomorrow. As far as meal planning goes.... I will purchase all the food I will need to prepare meals for the week but in reality, I don't always fix the meals I planned, that doesn't mean that the food I do fix isn't healthy. You can do this! If you can't get your workout in that day, take a walk that evening with your son. Be a little flexible. And, by all means, text, fb, or message me if you need encouragement or ideas. We all need someone to talk to, even if it's just an idea for dinner, you know?

Stay-at-home-Dad with Type 2 diabetes. I know how you feel. I just take it day by day, one step at a time. I've found that making small goals helps.

One a good note...it's been 2 years since I was diagnosed and I was finally able to get off my insulin, 3 weeks ago by making adjustments to my eating habits and through mild exercise.

I'm on a 1700 calorie diet, although I pretty much eat what I want and just keep track of my carbs. I started out by taking my 20-month-old son and dachshund Mia, for walk around the neighborhood. Now that the weather is getting cool I hit the gym.

Good luck!

Hey all! I need help...Seriously! I am reaching out, which is super hard to do. I am a SAHM, 35, and about 100 lbs overweight. I am tired of starting ever Monday, etc. I am just tired, period. I say I'm going to do ALL of these things and I may start them but I never ever FINISH them. HELP! Do you struggle with the same things? I want to do these things:

Work on a monthly, weekly, daily plan.
Eat 5-6 small meals/day, every 2-3 hours.
Work out according to my planned schedule.
Schedule things and stick to them!
ETC!

If you've been wanting to do this kind of stuff as well, PLEASE let me know and we can talk. We could Skype, Face Time, email, FB msg, msg on here, text one another, talk on the phone, etc. I need accountability the most, I think. I just really wanna do some soul searching and work on goals and I wanna work with someone else on this! Anyone?

You just typed my story...earlier this year I hit my all time high of 228.4lbs. That is a TON on my 5'2" frame.

I had been asking my husband for several years for a Y membership so I could get into shape. I finally threw a big enough fit that he agreed to pay for a 1 year family membership. I knew that if I slacked off, I would never hear the end of it. So for the last 9-10 months I have gone to the gym 3-4x a week.

I have only lost 32lbs, but my body has changed SO much. Just in the last month, I started using *real* weights, and I can now leg press 16lbs MORE than I weigh. I can only squat 65#, but I am hoping to get to 100lbs by Christmas.

ETA: it doesn't sound like it could be true, but if you get into a workout routine, you may find you have MORE energy. Have you ever heard about a 'runners high'? it is where runners get a 'high' from the endorphins, etc that are released when they run. I'm not sure I have ever totally hit it...but I do know that I went from hating the treadmill to getting a little twitchy if I have to miss it. Once I started doing some weights, I REALLY got hooked. I am having to slow myself down so I don't hurt myself. I really really want to buy some personal training sessions, but I don't have the cash...so I quietly drool when I see the other ladies get to work with the cute young trainer.

I started out 189 pounds overweight. Looking at that number is daunting and overwhelming. The amount of times I quit because I might have made a mistake or felt guilty about something that I ate made feel like "what's the point" and I would quit shortly thereafter.

I have lost 96 pounds so far and I still have a way to go, but I don't set large goals for myself anymore, it's too overwhelming. I take it day by day and set 10 pounds goals for myself instead.

You sound like you are taking on too much and sabotaging yourself in the process. Set a mini goal for yourself like " I want to lose 5 pounds this month" or " I want to work out 4 days this week." Don't go big and don't ruin all the hard work you've already put in.

Remember, you are worth the effort and the time!

I know we're already workout buddies, but I suffer from the same exact issues that you do. I'm all about skyping and working together to set and reach our goals. Maybe we can motivate each other AND hold each other accountable.

You just typed my story...earlier this year I hit my all time high of 228.4lbs. That is a TON on my 5'2" frame.
I have only lost 32lbs, but my body has changed SO much. Just in the last month, I started using *real* weights, and I can now leg press 16lbs MORE than I weigh. I can only squat 65#, but I am hoping to get to 100lbs by Christmas.

I completely agree with you here - start SMALL, in fact SUPER SMALL.

I have been at MFP since last year and would just give up after some time counting calories. After one year I figured, diet was not the way for me. I CANNOT survive on a 1200 cal diet. I just can't. I can't even log food - I hate that.

Then this time around, I said, forget the calories, I want to be able to walk without losing my breath at least or turn in my car without feeling so creaky. Heck, I am 27 and felt like my body was that of a 55 year old. And I am a medical doctor, and after dealing with patients there was no way I wanted to end up with co-morbids by the time I hit 40!

I thought it starts now or never.

So I have worked out 4-5 times a week since August 2012, anywhere between 30 min and 1 hr 30 mins depending on if I need to catch up on my strength training.

Three months later in November, I can cycle for 45 mins at 27-30km/hr, without getting exhausted. I can walk 6 km in 1 hr with ease. I can do p90 cardio and fat burner workouts back to back with ease.

I started the 30DS but left it - I like going through my moves entirely, and with 30DS I felt I could not concentrate on the form. Mind you, I was not sore after doing 4 days of it because my body could take it.

I am 5 feet 1 inch, 64.5 kgs (around 144 pounds), and am definitely over-weight bordering on obese given my petite frame.

Have I lost weight? Nope. Just a fluctuation of 3-4 kgs here and there.

I am a voracious eater, and eat 1800 to 2000 cals on an average day. so I am guessing it's all being maintained.. But have I gained weight, nope again.

But I have stopped looking at the scales. Not worth it.

My butt has shrunk from 45 inches to 41 inches (I am naturally pear shaped and even when I was 47 kgs had a 36 inch butt), and it no longer sticks out in that ugly manner. It's round and smooth, and I do admire it. I have lost inches from my stomach, my thighs - I can fit into jeans and tights that I could not pull up half way through my thighs.

But what I am most proud of is the immense stamina I have, my movements require less effort, I don't lose energy over simple tasks, I feel my body has a RHYTHM!!!

So my advice to you, start moving. As simple as getting out of your home, and walking round the block. Do it for 20 mins, and then increase the time by 10 mins every day. Add an easy on the knees pilates workout, I have this video which has a 20 min pilates warm up, I did that before walking.

Do not do high-impact exercises if you haven't moved for the longest while. It will be discouraging.

Most of all, take out time for yourself. If you don't love yourself, no one else will. I know I am still not perfect, if someone else had been logging their food and eating clean, they would have lost 10-15 kgs with the amount of effort I put in. But you know what I stopped comparing myself to them. I am happy with what I have.