People who are married and have lost weight...

My husband used to say I wasn't fat at all - when I was actually just over 16 st (226 lbs)! Probably he just didn't want to upset me :embarassed:
Now, 48 lbs later, I can tell he's really excited about my progress. He can't stop telling me that I look stunning and he's very proud of me (although I still need to lose 35-40 lbs!) :ohwell:
Also noticed he's getting more and more active..sexually :blushing: :noway:

I gained 20 lbs immediately when my husband moved in with me 2.5 years ago and haven't been able to get all of it off. He has pretty habits and has gained tons of weight since getting out of the military, so he got insecure when I lost the 50 lbs I gained with our first son + 10 more. I think it just depends on your husband's priorities and how interested in fitness/healthy he is!
I'm preggo with baby #2, hoping not to gain so much weight during pregnancy and then be able to get to my goal weight!

we have a hard time, at least at first, because i was making changes to my diet, and he SHOULD have been too, but wasn't. he kept trying to get me to have the bad foods and eat more, go back for seconds. Now, after almost 6 months of MFP, he's starting to smarten up.

I've been with my husband for 19 years (married for 16 1/2 of those).
I too have had a couple of 'tries' previously at weight loss.

Overall, it hasn't really changed our relationship in any way. We do have a VERY good relationship, though. He has always been supportive of me, and has never said a negative word - even at my highest. (Even though I have always been more 'obese' than him, he does still also have a weight problem. I am more apt to suggest/ push for him to get more exercise or eat better.)

The big struggles I've had with communication and losing weight, is he is the 'stay at home parent', and we have agreed that he is responsible for dinner. So, when I find we eat out too much, or the things he makes don't fit with what I need, I get frustrated.

He is now starting to push for himself to watch his caloric intake and burn, so it is definitely getting better!

(There was a period of time after I lost a significant amount that my sex drive increased exponentially. He very much enjoyed that period.)

At 85 lbs down, he still loves me very much - but I don't think any more than he did before. He is just happy that I am healthier. (As am I !!)

I was near my max weight when we met so my wife never got to see the athletic me. She and her family were honestly surprised when I water skied last summer, they thought I was just telling stories. She's very supportive and is very happy with her new active and thinner husband. She also says I'm much easier to be around because I am always happy.

I envy most of you. My husband liked it when I was bigger...and he tells it to me all the time.

After about 8 months of seeing my success, my husband started taking better care of himself and he has since lost 40+ lbs. We both have about 40 left to go. We are both better people because we feel better, both physically and emotionally. We've gone hiking together and go walking all the time instead of sitting in front of the TV. I can't think of a single negative in our relationship because of the weight loss. And sex is way better

I think every relationship is different. Hopefully you can be a good example if your spouse isn't ready right now. We all go through stages of being ready to actually do something about it, so be patient! Good luck!

I lost 50lbs over about 18 months, and then lost 260lb of husband BY TEXT MESSAGE in an instant. He blamed my weightloss.

I used to complain all the time that I didn't feel good and that I was fat and didn't like the way I looked. My husband would point out that I ate like crap. The only time he ever said anything was when I would complain.

It was not hard to adjust to eating healthier simply because we will prepare meals for each other but we don't care if each other eats it. We enjoy a lot of similar foods, but not all.

I don't drink coffee creamer or soda anymore so he just puts it in the cart when he wants it. When we get a soda at the movies, he lets me pick what kind because we are sharing and he gets the kind he wants all the time.

He says now that I am "fit as a fiddle" and also "sexy as hell". But when he sees pictures of me from before he says "I would still $%^& the %$&# outta that".

He encourages me and shows me exercises. He is honest but never pushy.

He has actually put on quite a bit of weight this year, but I am not judgmental. Not trying to return the favor, just not really bothered personally. If he starts complaining, I will encourage him or try and help find something he can cut out.

I still log my food although I have not been losing weight on purpose since July. I don't know how to eat properly. That is how I got fat in the first place. I like to see where my nutrients come from, to see what I am getting out of my food.
I want to make sure I am eating enough, but not too much. I want to resist fatty, salty treats I crave if I have already indulged too much that day. I want to make healthier choices. It doesn't bother anyone and those close to me know I still log my food.

He has always lifted weights our whole marriage (almost 9 years). He also enjoys my favorite sport (softball). So we spend time together doing those activities and we both want to invest that time.

Overall, if things were good to begin with, I don't see how weight loss could harm your relationship or home life.

I've only lost 25, and sometimes its been a little bit of a struggle. She has her own diet plan so she eats when she wants to, its hard to plan a meal as a family, She works nights so we only see each other a few minutes a day and when the week ends come along she does not get hunger until late in the day. We try to have at least one meal to gether on the weekend but its not always the healthiest. As for everything else she seems to like the fact that i'm loosing the gut but does not say much either way. I ask her a few weekago and she said she was ok with it. I think thing only thing i would be nive is if we could work out together she is not into exercise and has other she does not like to go for walks.
Sorry I hope it does not sound like i'm complaining because really i'm not.. She is a fantastic person we just cant seem to link up mostly because of her shift.

My husband is very supportive! He has always been kind to me about my horrendous weight gain over the years, never saying a word about it. But once I decided to get all that fat off me he was so happy! He's very enthused about how much weight I've lost so far and is looking forward to seeing me in a bikini :blushing:

We've been together for a long time and he's very secure within himself and about our marriage, so he's not threatened by my getting in shape. He's glad I'm getting healthy. I think my obesity-related health scare back in January scared him as much as it did me.

I've been with my husband for over 16 years..dated from 21-28, then got married on a cold June day 9 years ago. 10th married anniversary this coming June. Yes, the minister made jokes about H-e- double chopsticks freezing over.:laugh: We all laughed, it was a very casual wedding and he knew our sense of humor was twisted. My husband has never made me feel bad about my size, but he definitely appreciates the weight loss. At 6 ft and 185, with Crohn's disease and Rheumatoid Arthritis, his nutritional and fitness needs are very different than mine, eating his way and being pretty sedentary, except for work, is what made me get to 250, although I was always a bit overweight even before, just not obese. Some meals we eat the same thing, glad he likes fish, or I make 2 versions of the same meal, adding extra veggies or less fat to mine. He always said I was Hot, but now its even more frequent. I love this man My Zumba class is at dinner time, so he's had to get used to eating alone and me warming up my plate when I get home, or helping me fix it when I do get home.

My husband has said he's more attracted to me now, although he always called me "sexy" etc. even at my biggest. I kinda knew he was just being nice though as all the celebs he finds attractive are skinny as anything.

It hasn't really affected our marriage other than giving me more confidence.

Let me preface this by saying my husband loves me very much, always has. He never once said an unkind word about my weight gain. I've lost 70 lbs and through strength training/heavy lifting, have completely transformed the shape of my body. Though the weight loss itself wasn't so hard at first...the emotional part of it has been the biggest struggle.

As I've lost the weight and started rediscovering who I am, inside, caring for myself again and putting myself first, I've come to expect MORE from my marriage than I had before. I had become too complacent and agreeable to everything the past decade...and lost a part of me, due to lack of self-esteem and confidence. As those things continue to grow within me, I have more courage to stand up and tell him what I need and want in my marriage. THIS has led to some difficulties. Furthermore, my libido is off the charts and his is not...more disconnect.

I wish I could say the weight loss has done incredible things for my marriage but the truth is, it has done incredible things for ME. I think I've become a bit more selfish than I was before...which some might say I NEEDED to be and others might say that I'm married, there's no room for selfishness. That's a tricky convo.

He sees my drive and determination and that sparks an interest in him to persevere and get healthier (he's not unhealthy but he'd like to eventually have a six-pack that he's never had in his lifetime). But he's not always on board in terms of regimen and he eats a LOT of sugar and other crap....and when I see this, sometimes I allow myself the justification for me as well. So we kind of cycle off each other in terms of our eating habits and tightening things up.

Anyway - all in all - I feel a million times better about myself...which means I actually enjoy going out again (so we now have date nights once a week) and I'm more agreeable to trying new things that I never would've even considered before when I was 220 lbs (i.e. rock climbing!). This isn't a "new" me....this is the same me that he fell in love with 14+ years ago...finally re-emerging. Overall, I think he's quite pleased...but now I want something more. Something I can't quite put my finger on...but we're working on it, and that's all that matters.