One innocent Kiss and my whole day is ruined...

I lnow how you feel..its called food addiction. Once the bad stuff gets in its like opening the flood gates. The only real solution is to try to find your own inner strength and kick those binges in the *kitten*. If you do go crazy and binge just log it and forget about it! Start fresh the next day and get that *kitten* to the gym. Lol I have lost 104 so far and i've had plenty of those kinda days. I use to get down on my self about it but I realized this is life and its never gonna be easy or perfect just try to have more good and healthy days than bad ones.

i really identify with your feelings OP and i didn't find very many of these comments helpful.

i am the exact same way. it's a mental thing and i do believe it is a kind of eating disorder that has to do with a lifetime of weight issues. you eat one 'indulgent' thing and you feel like you must keep going you blew it anyway.

best thing to do is say no thank you. or accept and throw it away immediately. don't even eat one.

don't let others dictate where when and how you reward yourself. you will feel a loss of control which will lead to a downward spiral.

from what you described i think you might have to tell your coworkers you are dieting even though that may be the most difficult thing to do and kind of embarrassing. i had to break down and tell my friends eventually that i was monitoring my diet and not eating sugar because i could not keep making up excuses as to why i couldn't go out to dinner.

now they don't bring me candy or make a fuss when i don't want a bite or sip of something.

just say 'no' it's the only way if you have these type of self sabotage issues

look back over your diary. one little kiss isn't what's sabotaging your plan. beer battered fish and chips is what's sabotaging you. delicious, creamy dressings are what's sabotaging you. wine is what's sabotaging you. you are sabotaging you!

you need to start holding other people less accountable for what goes in your mouth, and start looking at number one. barring life or death type scenarios, nobody can make you eat anything you don't want to.

i've looked at your profile, you've lost over 50lb, so i can only assume that you know the things you need to do to make the scales drop. do them! and do them consistently! if you're doing the right thing 90% of the time, a little (LITTLE) slip here and there won't matter, and you won't be wracked with guilt because you'll be able to think 'oh well, that's one mouthful out of many', rather than 'oh shoot, another bad day. pass the salt'.

sorry if i sound mean. i don't mean to be. i have off days too, but i pick myself up and get back on track. someone before me said 'if you mess up, the most important meal is your next one'. if you let these things snowball, you'll look like a snowman

Unless someone has baked you a super special cake with your name frosted on to the top of it.. I don't really think that you friends, family or co workers will be offended by you saying NO THANK YOU to a treat.

Good luck!!

"YOUR WHOLE DAY IS RUINED?" :sad: .....AW Geez cut the drama you big sissie. Eat the damn things, log it in your diary, and plan out the rest of your daily meal plan. Aint no big deal unless you make it one.

I eat a Butterfinger (fun size, 85 cal) every day and I enjoy the hell out of it.....In fact, I just might eat another one now cuz Im irritated. :laugh:

I dont restrict myself from too much. Check out my diary - Im losing weight with one hand tied behind my back...just dont get on my bad side, I have a big bag of Butterfingers and I wouldnt hesitate to eat a few of em in front of you :drinker: .....

I just check out your diary and I have to say someone giving you a few M&Ms is not your problem; please disregard the previous post. I just cant think of anything to say that you dont already know. Hope you can get a handle on things. Good luck.

Accept it gracefully and then re-gift it! Someone will appreciate it. Or ... put it in the lunch room for the taking.

That's what I do in the teacher's lounge! In five seconds food will be gone. I call it the piranha pond.

Ugh... to think I used to binge in there all the time.

I've begun to enjoy the look on people's faces when I says no to offers of extra snacks. It takes them a moment to realize that I said no because they so expect the fat girl to say yes! Then I mentally pat myself on the back and smile because I had the strength to say no. Each time I am able to resist temptation, I stop and take notice of how I feel. It feels GOOD, and I let myself feel that. It creates a positive feedback loop that makes it easier to say no the next time too. It's now become habit to say no, unless its something really special.

Then there's the saying "what you're looking for isn't in there". The first Kiss is about how delicious chocolate is, but by the 5th or 10th or 25th Kiss, its not about how good it is, its about something else and even 100 chocolate kisses isn't going to help.

Having said that, I refuse to give up chocolate. I average 50-100 calories worth of chocolate almost every day. I keep my favorite basic chocolate in the freezer, so its always something i LOVE, and it helps me from feeling deprived. However, if I couldn't stop at a small portion, I wouldn't keep it in the house.

Just tell yourself. Nothing tastes as good as skinny will feel !! Helps me most of the time.

Lies.

But back to the one little treat causing a whole day to derail, look at this way. If you ran a stop sign on the way to work would you think to yourself, "Aw, screw it, I already ran one, I may as well just run every stop sign or red light come on for the rest of the day."

If not, why would you do exactly that to yourself after eating a piece of chocolate?

I like this!! I tend to be all or nothing, so this is a great way to keep things in perspective.

I usually just say no, but like a PP said, eating a handfull will not ruin the day and you should not feel like you've blown it...I always have healthy snacks in my desk and fridge at work, too!