So is anyone willing to give relationship advice?

You should have just titled this "Dani, what should I do?"

Just break up.

Okay well .. me and my boyfriend have been together a year now. I'm 18 and he just turned 20 in November. I feel as if I do a lot for him, pretty much anything he wants, but he just stopped putting in any effort at all. I mean I really don't ask for much. I bike to and from his house daily, he never comes over mine and I don't bother asking because everytime I have he says he's too lazy.. he smokes pot every 20 minutes of the day.

I'd run from that ASAP...

Sounds like you're getting nothing good from the relationship. Why stay?

he says he's 'depressed' and is going through a rough time in his life. and not to leave him. then he treats me like this and wonders why i'm in his words, only happy w him when I'm asleep. lmao

Wow! Love that you're open to relationship advice... This same quality is what saved my marriage when most crumble and disolve. Don't ever lose this strategy!

My advice is more for your next relationship, as this one should be over. The important thing is learning from this experience so that it doesn't happen again.

#1. Make sure that with your next relationship that you avoid at all costs, "Shacking up" or 'sleeping' with whomever the guy is. Relationships start their turn for the worst once this happens (e.g. while dating and not married). Yeah this sounds old fashioned and stupid, but mark my words, I can prove with a high degree of accuracy that all relationships where sex comes before marriage, that all relational intimacy stops, and in the case of men, they check out. Stop the Sex and guess what happens? The man you met and couldn't stop talking to, comes back to life and begins treating you like you should be treated. Then as you begin to get the frequent calls, voicemails, texts and flowers, your interest in loving and respecting him, goes back to where he wants it and the bliss begins/resumes.

#2. Do what you can to change your, "Self-talk" about yourself. If you're using MFP, you obviously care about yourself and are trying to improve your health/weight/outlook on life and have the personal discipline to do so. This is a rare and beautiful quality that can be shared with someone who values the same things and is going in the same direction. Anyone who is prone to self medication with alcohol, drugs, or couch potatoing, will not get you, respect you or support you. So as you look in the mirror and or have those conversations with yourself, remind you of how awesome you are, how great you're looking and how bright your future is going to be as you continue your weight loss, exercise gains, control over eating, etc.

#3. Raise the bar on your next relationship -- set higher standards for who you date next, or better yet, stop dating for a while and seek out group settings where you can get to know someone outside of a dating scenario. In the old days this was called Courting, where guys/gals got to know eachother in groups, vs. one on one. One on one leads to the disaster of my point #1. Stick in groups and you'll have a fighting chance to find a new person worth investing in. You won't find this person in a bar or at a club either. Join a running club, seek out a healthy and relevant church to go to, and or enrol in a city college, etc. where you can meet up with people who are going somewhere. The minute you sense pot/alcohol/other additictions to medication, move on, and move on quickly. Group settings enable quick exits. One on one dating makes it much tougher.

Great luck to you! You're wise beyond your years for seeking advice too.

Okay well .. me and my boyfriend have been together a year now. I'm 18 and he just turned 20 in November. I feel as if I do a lot for him, pretty much anything he wants, but he just stopped putting in any effort at all. I mean I really don't ask for much. I bike to and from his house daily, he never comes over mine and I don't bother asking because everytime I have he says he's too lazy.. he smokes pot every 20 minutes of the day. I'm not sure if pot is a truly addictive drug but he definitely can't stop it. It's to the point that he can't be sober for more then 10 minutes.. not over-exaggerating. It's difficult for me to want to be with him because even though he's 20, all he does is sit inside and play video games / smoke. It's made me so upset that sometimes I can't help but cry, and when he notices, he says "wtf is wrong with you?" "you're so stupid" "you're a joke" .. he's constantly telling me how much he needs me and how he loves me more than anything, but his actions are showing almost the complete opposite. he keeps on calling me crazy for trying to tell him what's wrong but whenever I try to talk, he says I'm dumb or retarded and stops me before I even get to finish. I feel like this relationship is going nowhere but downhill at this point and I'm not sure if I should end it or just wait it out to see if he if just going through an *kitten*, video games 24/7, lazy phase. I'm just so confused and really don't have anyone else to talk to about this.