So is anyone willing to give relationship advice?
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dump his *kitten*, hes not worth it.0
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No problemo. That is, after all, why I joined MFP--to boost your ego.
Im a quitter in my marriage then- thanks for the boost of ego.Well most women will tell you that you're a fool to think you can change a man, but those women are quitters.
I seem to be the only one that saw the humor in this . . . oh well.
Seriously, he's 20 which means by definition he's pretty much not relationship material. No man I know or have known was at that age. That said, he should either have a job or be in college or both. Otherwise, he will remain non-relationship material. Oh that and he does sound like an abusive prick.
Okay enough about him. You're 18 and should be out there starting your life, not worrying about an abusive prick ruining your life. So yes, dump him and move on.0 -
oh honey! you are way too beautiful and young to deal with that. I HAVE BEEN THERE!!!! run. run far away. hes a CLASSIC d-bag and will not stop being that way. He is mean to you and puts you down and that is not what you need. enjoy your life and have fun. spend time with your girl or with guys that will kiss your *kitten* and make you feel like a princess.they are out there.0
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Thats a lot of reading.
Tampa crew
You have no idea, trust me -__-
Fellow Tampanians! (Is that how we say it?)
Sounds like a loser. Break up and move on0 -
Why are you still in a relationship with this guy?! You are young and have your whole life ahead of you. You should not be settling or putting up with his behavior. Sounds like he has a LOT of growing up to do before he will be able to contribute meaningfully to a relationship. Let him do his maturing on his own while you go on and live your own, happy life. There are many, many guys out there, and I'm sure you will meet plenty who would be better relationship partners than this turkey.0
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Well thank god for that! I was beginning to think that my sense of humor was totally lost in this thread. It's called sarcasm people. And my original post was a quote from The Simpsons. I can't believe people actually took it seriously.
I seem to be the only one that saw the humor in this . . . oh well.
No problemo. That is, after all, why I joined MFP--to boost your ego.
Im a quitter in my marriage then- thanks for the boost of ego.Well most women will tell you that you're a fool to think you can change a man, but those women are quitters.0 -
Oh my god, you're going out with my ex! :P
.....who i left....
.....obviously!0 -
ummm, GET OUT!
I will tell you, you are not in a relationship because a relationship takes 2 people and you are the only one putting forth the effort. I was in a similar relationship when I was 19...he will not change and nothing you do will make him change.
Get out, get out, get out. He will only cause you pain, suffering and possibly time in jail because of his misdeeds. Get out before you end up a statistic. I got out and I do not regret it to this day. I will tell you that unfortunately for the one I was in a relationship with he went on to do some time and then later killed himself.
You bf is living a self destructive, selfish life; don't stay. You deserve a better life and someone who will love and appreciate you and do wonderful things for you. I have been married to the most wonderful man ever for 23 years now. He loves me unconditionally and would lay down his life for me...btw - I'd take a bullet for him too.
Lastly, get out...you are too valuable to live like this. There is someone better for you out there; just wait and see.
PS - Don't make a production of breaking up; just say you're done and be done.0 -
He sounds like an abusive jerk. You can do better and deserve better than that. Dump him, pick your self up and brush yourself off and move on. In the very near future you will thank yourself for making that decision. No one should allow themselves to be treated like that.0
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Imagine being married to him...he's always playing video games, smoking pot and berating you. You're always upset and feeling bad about yourself. Now imagine adding kids to this F'd up mix. Now not only are you doing everything for him and yourself your doing everything for the kids. What if he won't stop smoking pot around them? If this sounds like the way you want to live your future then go for it and stay. If not then you need to stop wasting your time; he is NOT going to change.
He has shown you who he is, BELIEVE HIM!0 -
He sounds like an abusive jerk. You can do better and deserve better than that. Dump him, pick your self up and brush yourself off and move on. In the very near future you will thank yourself for making that decision. No one should allow themselves to be treated like that.
"Abusive" being the key word. And abuse of the worst kind too!0 -
Just to let you know, he's not gonna change. My hubby is a great guy until he goes through a weed phase and then all he wants to do is smoke and play xbox with his stupid xbox live friends. I have to be the big bad mean wife and ***** him out. Luckily for me he loves his job or he probably wouldn't leave his 2nd wife (the stupid xbox) to go to work. If I would have known then what I know now... just be honest, if it bothers you, leave.0
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He is a POT head. He will never change. He needs to get a J.O.B. He will always be like this. I would do this soon and break free. Before you know it you could have a kid with him and be bound to him for the rest of your life.
YOU can't change someone who DOESN'T want to be changed. Only he can change himself and he never will because he knows you will put up with it.0 -
um...not a phase...dump him. Belittling you and calling you dumb is abuse...get out now. you deserve better.0
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Wow.. Don't wait it out. I know 30 year olds that act the same way. The video games never stop, the drugs never stop. If you are questioning it, then dump him. Life is too short for BS and there's certainly someone better for you. Get out before he knocks you up.... Sorry to be so harsh but there are a million things about my teens and 20's I'd love to go back and change, and wasting too much time with horrible boyfriends is on the top of that list.
If you never went through them then you wouldnt be as strong as you are now!
Thats a good point... and if I never experienced what I did, I never would have found the man I'm with now.
But at the same time, I dealt with alot of crap I didnt deserve.0 -
Honey- I am going to give it to you straight, and it is only because i have seen this time and time again..
You need tell him that if he wants to be with you he needs to start taking your feelings seriously. If you are upset by something and he consistently tells you that you are a joke than he obviously doesn't care about getting to the bottom of what is upsetting you and making a change. Of course he loves you and "needs you"- you give him everything that he wants and don't hold him accountable for doing the same. He is on the winning end of this deal. Tell him that he gets in shape or your leaving- and then follow through if he doesn't start treating you like he should. Empty threats are just going to make him take you less seriously. take a stand for yourself- you are young, beautiful and have the opportunity to take life by the balls... don't waste it with this nutbag.
You are the only one in control of how you chose to be treated. You teach people your limits and what you will and will-not put up with.
If he chooses to smoke weed and play video games and he is okay with that- good for him, however, this is clearly not the relationship or lifestyle that you want- so why are you putting up with it?0 -
end it.... any guy that does not treat you like a queen.... dump him immediately..... and MOVE ON!!!!!0
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Thats a lot of reading.
Tampa crew
You have no idea, trust me -__-
Fellow Tampanians! (Is that how we say it?)
Sounds like a loser. Break up and move on
I'm in Pinellas County, across the bridge
wow I can't believe so many people answered this .. wowww.. thank you all for taking the time to read it and help me out. It means so so so much. 0 -
Better to be single (and quite cute, if I may add) than to be stuck to a loser, and not have the cojones to drop him.I don't think I have that right...... there's a reason i'm almost 29 and still single. :ohwell:
aww, thank you!0 -
JUST BREAK UP.0
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The more I think about it, he sounds great, like a real project that needs just the right woman to fix him.
He's perfect, we should all do brunch together.0 -
Leave.0
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he sounds like a complete douche. if i were you i would dump his a**0
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Ditch his *kitten*. I mean come the hell on.
WHAT YOU PUT UP WITH, YOU END UP WITH.0 -
man + pot = loser
man + regular drinking = loser
girl keeping up with that kind of guy = stupid
girl running away from that guy = smart
so just leave him, can you imagine your life with him in the long term?! forget the efforts u r putting in just imagine all the good guys out side who actually has a life and can take care of a family
i hope i made some sense0 -
Better to be single (and quite cute, if I may add) than to be stuck to a loser, and not have the cojones to drop him.I don't think I have that right...... there's a reason i'm almost 29 and still single. :ohwell:
aww, thank you!
yap u r cute and alot of my friends will be willing to date u in a heart beat0 -
Seriously? I didn't need to read even a quarter of your post to determine that you should pull the plug, He's a total loser and you deserve, and should demand, a whole bunch better than that. Additionally, you need to take a look at your lack of self-respect. Ciao, Marc0
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and you deserve, and should demand, a whole bunch better than that.
just curious...how do you know what she deserves?
maybe she throws perfectly good death boxes in the garbage.
maybe she is in starvation mode.
maybe she is the Queen of Sheba.
how do you know what she deserves?0 -
and you deserve, and should demand, a whole bunch better than that.
just curious...how do you know what she deserves?
maybe she throws perfectly good death boxes in the garbage.
maybe she is in starvation mode.
maybe she is the Queen of Sheba.
how do you know what she deserves?
if you dont mind me answering that, i had alot of friends who pot and alcohol destroyed their life, destoyed their relathion ships and worest destroyed their families, and no one deserves to be with a person like that if they are not the same as him0 -
He's not going to change. Why would he? What he's been doing has been working for him.
You haven't left. He does need you. He needs you to do all that *kitten* for him so he can smoke pot and play video games.
Plus, be able to have you as a girl friend, and all the benefits that come with that.
He doesn't expect you to leave him. If he did, he would have made some kind of effort. But he hasn't, has he?
I think you know what to do.
Love that profile photo!!!0
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