Question - why do people say this stuff -

The green eyed monster, girl. They are so jealous of you! Just take it as a compliment and smile. I often deliberately "misunderstand" hurtful comments---drives 'em nuts:laugh: You look terrific Congrats

you sound like a lady full of wisdom!

I've been on both ends with this..I recently raised concerns with a friend as she lost a lot of weight very quickly and really did look too thin, I wasn't jealous, just genuinely checking she was okay and being healthy it's what people who care do.....Also years ago I lost a lot of weight and everyone kept telling me not to lose more but as I weighed okay for my height, I ignored them and assumed they were jealous-looking back at pics now I can understand the concerns, I looked like ill and too thin.

I don't think mtrue friends would say something like this out of jealousy, just concern. Take it as a compliment that your friends care about you and are just checking in on you.

When I was out on Friday night, I had 5 people tell me not to lose any more weight...which is odd, as I am nowhere near my lowest weight, I could lose over a stone and still be well in the OK weight for my height, I have hips, *kitten* and boobs, I am not by any stretch of the imagination skinny, so why is this? Why would people make a point of saying to me things like 'you are going to stop now aren't you?' and 'you don't need to lose any more weight' and 'are you eating properly and not doing anything mental?'

I just wondered why -

1, that people think I should not lose any more weight when in fact I need to lose about 7lb

and

2. why is it ok to comment to me about losing weight when nobody said to me 'you aren't going to get any fatter are you?' or 'surely you are not going to eat that you gutty *kitten* you are already looking porky' when I was gaining?

Smile. Be gracious. Tell them you appreciate their interest and care. Then move on with your day.

Because..... the thinner you get, the fatter some people think *they* get.

That's the only conclusion I've been able to come to, anyway. I hear the same thing and uh... yeah.

Absolutely!

Honestly, I have seen this topic come up a lot, and after thinking about it, I really do think people are actually trying to compliment in this way, although it is a very socially awkward way to do it. I think it's a way to let you know they think you look great the way you are, and a way of trying to let you know how "skinny" you look (which is so worshipped in our society nowadays). I think that always assuming that people are petty or jealous or have some other ulterior, dark motive for commenting is damaging to everyone. Is it RIGHT to comment on ANYONE'S body? Nope. But the reasons behind it are not always so cut and dry, and don't always come from a place of insecurity. Perhaps sometimes, but not always.

I say, take it as a compliment, say thank you, and move on and do not discuss your goals for YOUR body with any of them.

Most people who say this don't see you naked. When someone gets down to their last 10-15lbs, you are generally looking really good. Clothes can hide lots of "little" flaws, and a combination of seeing ourselves naked and being our own worst critics are major factors.

Sure, some shallow obnoxious people might just want you to be fat to make themselves feel better, but I would say that is NOT the majority of friends.

So take it as a compliment and don't dwell on it. In the end it doesn't matter what they think or what their motives are anyway, because you're doing this for you.

I really think this is right on the money. I do just try to say thanks and explain. I'd much rather people were able to be more honest at both ends of the spectrum of weight with friends. When issues go unnoticed and unspoken about that is usually when problems occur.

How do they know you are losing? If I was you, I would just avoid sharing that you are trying to lose anymore, and do your own thing, if they ask they you are trying not to gain.

Crap, you beat me to it. I was gonna ask if you are sharing that you want to lose another 7lbs. Honestly if you are obsessing about 7lbs then you have other issues. But otherwise take it as a compliment that everyone thinks you are in such great shape.

I think it's a combo of reasons:

1. Overweight is the new normal. Not necessarily obese, but chubby, thick, chunky is the norm now. The average clothes size for an American woman is 14. So someone, lets say, size 8-10 is not skinny but smaller than average and considered slender by most people. Smaller than that and people think you are skinny.
2. People are generally under the misconception that thin people can eat whatever they want. It's the biggest reason so many people regain the weight they lose. (If you think you can eat however you want when you get to goal you won't stay at goal long) So when people see a thin person dieting or watching their weight they get alarmed. For some reason they think you must have an eating disorder.
3. Just like it's hard for us to see our own progress sometimes because we look in the mirror every day, the opposite is true for them. If they only see you every other week it's possible you look smaller to them everytime they see you. They might be thinking you are so tiny now you can't have much more to go without getting unhealthy.
4. Jealousy might play a small part

Crazy idea: ASK THEM.

*kitten* disturber lol

I've personally never seen it so much as an issue of jealousy as an issue of health. People out there know about anorexia and bulimia now, about eating disorders and about how bad mental health can become, and I see it as an issue of that. They just don't want you to hurt yourself, be it physically or mentally, which can unfortunately be very easy to do.
If it's people who haven't seen you in awhile, from when you were heavier to when you're thinner, then of course they're going to be shocked, and with the aforementioned knowledge probably a little concerned as well. They have to reconcile the memory with your new face and sometimes the new face can seem less healthy in comparison even when it's really not.

What personally annoys me is when people tell you to your face that you're something you're not, such as 'TOO thin'. For me it's the 'you're not fat' which never fails to annoy me, especially when they look down at themselves when they say it as if to say that they're so much bigger than me and I shouldn't even talk about it candidly.
However in the end I'm the one who knows my body, they don't. I am overweight. The meat I'm packing is more than necessary. Etcetc. This isn't a reflection of low self-esteem or body dysmorphia, this is a reality. I'm not saying it to put myself down or to ask for a compliment, I'm being honest. That they presume to know better than me when I'm the one who lives in this body day in and day out is frustrating. I am the authority, listen to me!

Same thing applies to OP. You're the one who knows your body best, you are your own greatest authority on the matter. So long as you're treating yourself with health and respect, they really have no place to judge. That doesn't stop some people from being concerned though and if that's the case try not to take it as an insult so much as a compliment, as everyone else has said. c: It might be hard but at the end of the day it's a lot less stressful.

Good luck~