How do you accomplish your own dreams while married..?

You've got to make a way to be your own person. If it requires a job, education, whatever it's up to you to do it.

There must be compromise though. Asking him to move so you can attend the college of your choice may be a stretch. Pick a school close to home.

I'm struggling a little with this, too. I want to travel (it's top priority) or live abroad for a while and my other half doesn't want to move. Ever. He wants to stay in the same city. Forever. Really? I can't stay in one spot forever. I'll wither up and die. I like to travel. He says I am more of a homebody than I think, but that's not entirely true. I may not be outgoing, but I like to adventure.
Anyhow, you have to do what is best for you. I gave up on an important decision for a man once before in my life. I always regretted making that decision and I blamed him for it every day.
If you don't make some plans and move on with your life, your other half never will. There will always be an excuse. There will never be a "right time" financially. If you want something, plan for it. If he really loves you, he'll understand and you'll work out how to be a couple where you can both be happy. If he's only worried about being happy and it's at your expense, that's not cool. I know everyone has to sacrifice in a relationship, but of something is truly important to you, you can't let that go. You'll resent him for not following your dream, and that is far more toxic than going for it.

You've got to make a way to be your own person. If it requires a job, education, whatever it's up to you to do it.

There must be compromise though. Asking him to move so you can attend the college of your choice may be a stretch. Pick a school close to home.

this is some good advice!

Being married is all about supporting your partner. Sometimes it's harder to do that. My advice? Do what you want to do. Even if he disagrees or doesn't support it. You have to do what's going to make you happy (as does he), otherwise you'll both be stuck in an unhappy relationship. As long as you're not neglecting the relationship he should understand that. I'd start to worry when he blames your interests for problems in the relationship. Learning the guitar isn't going to hurt anyone. Neither is going back to school. I would suggest, however, that you compromise some things. For example, is going to that specific school vitally important? If you can get the same education closer to you, do it.

Let me put it this way: You doing what makes you happy should make him happy and should help your relationship grow. Try something new and maybe when he sees you doing it he'll understand and support and join in.

Join co-dependents anonymous. If you can't accomplish what you want to accomplish, and you can say for certain that it isn't because of your own co-dependency issues, than maybe this is not the marriage for you.

Even if it hurts that person? He talks the talk for all this stuff with me, but when it comes down to it, he says we don't have the money? I can pick up a second job on Saturday nights and use that money for myself but then I feel selfish because he doesn't have the time to pick up a second job for him to have extra cash, so should I split that income?

Moving to Wilmington is only like 3 hours from where I live, I have been talking about for 3 years, I would do it for him. That's why it upsets me, He knows its important to me.

This is all stuff you need to say to him. These questions are ones the two of you need to find the answers to. If you can't do it on your own then find a professional to help.

With 20+ years of marriage, here are a few pointers that work for me:

1. Separate your finances. We have three types of bank accounts: House, his and mine.
a. We both contribute to the House. We renegotiate what each of us contributes to the House based on our current individual finances and our joint plans. House bills are paid from the House account. We have a mortgage. When money is tight, we spend less. We money is good, we spend more, like taking vacations together.
b. His accounts have his money from his sources of income. Once he contributes to the House, how he spends his money is his business.
c. My accounts have my money from my sources of income. Once I contribute to the House, how I spend my money is my business.

2. Have separate and joint goals.
This year was a good year for us. We has several trips together and we both traveled a few times on our own.
I like to work out on a regular basis. He likes to play computer games on a regular basis. We watch "The Big Bang Theory" TV show together.

Long-term partnerships require BOTH partners to contribute and BOTH to compromise.

Well, first of all, I completely disagree with this: Being married is all about supporting your partner. My husband and I have been very happily married for 11 years and I don't think supporting each other has anything to do with it. We love each other, enjoy time together, and really genuinely assure we are still our own people. I have traveled internationally a few times without him because he didn't want to go- but there was no way I was going to miss out on an opportunity to see things I want to see. We don't share money- I don't know how much he earns or has in his bank account- nor does he know what is in mine. We both put the same $$ into a joint account each paycheck to pay the mortgage, heat, etc. Without asking or discussing it with the husband, I went back to school and got a Master's Degree- and paid for it on my own and loved the challenge, but he didn't 'support' me in this endeavor. I often have plans without him 3-5 times a week and don't ask permission or even necessarily tell him what I am up to. We completely trust each other and respect our independence- we are 2 separate people, why would marriage change that? You need to pursue what makes you happy and be your own person.