Constructive criticism, please! Sheesh!
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shaunap3
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I have not been on this website very long, but after the few posts I recently made and the very frank and hurtful ways people responded I am disgusted. I thought this was a website to encourage one another. If someone is misinformed, inform them. In a nice way. Give them a pat on the back and another try.
I was in fact NOT spot on with my eating. What I was spot on with was logging everything I consumed and holding myself accountable, because it was there, black and white, out in the open, for the entire website to read and shove in my face. I can honestly say I had no idea how much sugar and sodium I was actually consuming, so thank you for letting me know what YOU saw. It was helpful. Cutting out sugar is hard, cutting out sodium is even harder, as some of you will know.
For those of you that said "hey, you gave a good try, but I would do this differently" I greatly appreciate your ideas, suggestions, support and kind words.
For those of you that gave me a snotty "excuse me honey but your diet sucks" response, go shove it! With that attitude you may lose weight, but your personality will always make you ugly.
We're not perfect, and we're all here for similar reasons, just remember that.
I was in fact NOT spot on with my eating. What I was spot on with was logging everything I consumed and holding myself accountable, because it was there, black and white, out in the open, for the entire website to read and shove in my face. I can honestly say I had no idea how much sugar and sodium I was actually consuming, so thank you for letting me know what YOU saw. It was helpful. Cutting out sugar is hard, cutting out sodium is even harder, as some of you will know.
For those of you that said "hey, you gave a good try, but I would do this differently" I greatly appreciate your ideas, suggestions, support and kind words.
For those of you that gave me a snotty "excuse me honey but your diet sucks" response, go shove it! With that attitude you may lose weight, but your personality will always make you ugly.
We're not perfect, and we're all here for similar reasons, just remember that.
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I just went and read the thread. There was some bluntness but all of it was true.
You started a thread stating you were spot on and couldn't understand why you gained. People looked at your diary and pointed out that you hadn't been spot on (and for me personally if I drink alcohol I gain. Without fail) You then changed your version of spot on. (And I agree logging 100% is half the battle)
You are going to get blunt people here. If you want to be Molly coddled this site isn't the place. People are going to tell you the truth. And telling you that your food choices weren't the best IS consturctive criticism.0 -
Why exactly are you cutting sugar and sodium?I have not been on this website very long, but after the few posts I recently made and the very frank and hurtful ways people responded I am disgusted. I thought this was a website to encourage one another. If someone is misinformed, inform them. In a nice way. Give them a pat on the back and another try.
I was in fact NOT spot on with my eating. What I was spot on with was logging everything I consumed and holding myself accountable, because it was there, black and white, out in the open, for the entire website to read and shove in my face. I can honestly say I had no idea how much sugar and sodium I was actually consuming, so thank you for letting me know what YOU saw. It was helpful. Cutting out sugar is hard, cutting out sodium is even harder, as some of you will know.
For those of you that said "hey, you gave a good try, but I would do this differently" I greatly appreciate your ideas, suggestions, support and kind words.
For those of you that gave me a snotty "excuse me honey but your diet sucks" response, go shove it! With that attitude you may lose weight, but your personality will always make you ugly.
We're not perfect, and we're all here for similar reasons, just remember that.
Regarding your comments about people being frank and hurtful. Many are tired of sugar coating the truth. I stated in the past that most who post are are not looking for answers, they are looking validation of their extreme diets. However, it's up to you to take the responses however you want to. I personally would rather prefer people to be blunt and frank. Then again, many have said, I am an ***hole. So....0 -
So very tired.
but we still want to help, and everyone has a bad day
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You are going to get blunt people here. If you want to be Molly coddled this site isn't the place. People are going to tell you the truth. And telling you that your food choices weren't the best IS consturctive criticism.
^^^This^^
I've asked for advice on here before and got the soft version and the hard-to-take version of what I was doing wrong. Just because I wasn't mad on the words used doesn't make the truth of pertinent advice any less relevant.
Toughen up, thank people for taking the time to reply, move on and remember, sugar coated contains more calories
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As all the others have said earlier, pointing out flaws in your food diaries is constructive critisim. What you do you want? To consume 4500 grams of sodium and someone to give you a pat on the back for it? Not going to happen.0
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It was brought to my attention I consume way too much sugar and sodium, something I hadn't actually realized, until everyone reposted and reposted and reposted it for me.
Why exactly are you cutting sugar and sodium?I have not been on this website very long, but after the few posts I recently made and the very frank and hurtful ways people responded I am disgusted. I thought this was a website to encourage one another. If someone is misinformed, inform them. In a nice way. Give them a pat on the back and another try.
I was in fact NOT spot on with my eating. What I was spot on with was logging everything I consumed and holding myself accountable, because it was there, black and white, out in the open, for the entire website to read and shove in my face. I can honestly say I had no idea how much sugar and sodium I was actually consuming, so thank you for letting me know what YOU saw. It was helpful. Cutting out sugar is hard, cutting out sodium is even harder, as some of you will know.
For those of you that said "hey, you gave a good try, but I would do this differently" I greatly appreciate your ideas, suggestions, support and kind words.
For those of you that gave me a snotty "excuse me honey but your diet sucks" response, go shove it! With that attitude you may lose weight, but your personality will always make you ugly.
We're not perfect, and we're all here for similar reasons, just remember that.
Regarding your comments about people being frank and hurtful. Many are tired of sugar coating the truth. I stated in the past that most who post are are not looking for answers, they are looking validation of their extreme diets. However, it's up to you to take the responses however you want to. I personally would rather prefer people to be blunt and frank. Then again, many have said, I am an ***hole. So....0 -
If you eat crap, you're gonna get crap results.
No offence but getting constructive criticism may work more than ' nicely nicely' approach.0 -
That would be twisting what has just happened. I WOULD like someone to let me know that I have in fact not consumed the right foods, but not by being so rude. I don't appreciate being made out to be a complete moron.As all the others have said earlier, pointing out flaws in your food diaries is constructive critisim. What you do you want? To consume 4500 grams of sodium and someone to give you a pat on the back for it? Not going to happen.0
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I don't need nice-nice, and I don't need rude either. This entire website is everyone attacking everyone in this forum. Not just mine, but many others I've seen. Not really sure why people can't be a LITTLE nicer when delivering information.If you eat crap, you're gonna get crap results.
No offence but getting constructive criticism may work more than ' nicely nicely' approach.0 -
everyone takes criticism differently...I went through your thread, personally it didn't seem that bad and I've seen HELL of a lot worse.
This isn't the best place to come if you like to be mollycoddled or need someone to hold your hand.
There are some AMAZINGLY nice people, trust me ! but I think people were just pointing it out rather than being rude.0 -
IIFYM.....ur fine as long as it fits. I know people in killer shape who eat ice cream every day.
I think people were being a bit harsh in ur other post too. Mayb that's just cuz I'm a sensitive person & know I would react the same way as you.0 -
I don't need nice-nice, and I don't need rude either. This entire website is everyone attacking everyone in this forum. Not just mine, but many others I've seen. Not really sure why people can't be a LITTLE nicer when delivering information.If you eat crap, you're gonna get crap results.
No offence but getting constructive criticism may work more than ' nicely nicely' approach.
Some members are a little more " colourful" with their choice of words...but I'm sure they don't mean to be rude.0 -
That isn't pointing you out as a moron. That is saying, "Hey what you said about being spot on isn't true." If you are taking it that way because people are being blunt and not Daisying it up that is your problem. The people on here will use every sort of motivation possible. Negative and Positve, constructive criticism.0
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It's easier to be mean when you are standing face to face with someone and it's hard to read how something is meant to be said when there's no body language involved. Just remember that and you'll be fine.
-edit- I feel it's also necessary to add that I just happened to have your other post up and I see maybe 1 comment I would take as rude but even then it's open to consideration given that (strictly my opinion) your response to someone trying to help came off the rudest in the entire post.. "Your diary didn't show that you were that spot on and a lot of the foods weren't that great plus alcohol." didn't deserve:Minus my one day going out, I was spot on. But thanks for shoving it in my face. I need that.
They were just trying to help and point out that it is a possibility you aren't being honest with yourself.0 -
Hi first off most of what you are eating is healthy and nutritious.It will sustain your energy needs as you become healthier. Your breakfasts are very good which is incredibly important as it sets you up for the rest of the day.
You are going to get blunt people here, but they are simply giving you the same information in a more direct manner. I say take it and use it as fuel for your desire in the gym or your favoured exercise.
I also put my diary in the spotlight a few weeks ago and believe me you got off super light. I had multiple days where my lunch was 3 packets of crisps or over 300 calories worth of chocolat. Yeah that didn't go down well. People gave it to me straight and you know what,I'm gratetfull for it. Now I'm eating so much better and I took their advice about what to change and include.
Just take every bit of advice as it comes and use it.Not everyone will be cherry nice with their comments so take it on the chin and blast that weight.
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I have learned the lesson. I need to eat less processed foods, I need to learn how to find healthier snacks, and I need to figure out how to cut a lot of sodium out of my diet. Of course I GET IT, I just didn't like the delivery. If I knew this website was going to be so stressful I wouldn't have posted. Now I'm annoyed, on the defense, and I want to eat. Very counter constructive. I guess I was expecting everyone to be a little more like an older website I used to be a part of. My mistake.0
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Maybe one comment could be taken wrong as it was touching something overly addressed; however every single response was someone trying to give you constructive help. Sometimes we can't see what's holding us back until someone points it out and they did that for you. I think you took the tone/message wrong personally. Getting extremely defensive over 1-2 comments is a sign you knew deep down they were right but you didn't want to hear it. They were clear and direct; that's not the same as being rude. However how you respond also shows us more about your character.0
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I agree with Lozzie give to me blunt tell me when I am messing up but don't be mean. I also have to take in account that my reading it doesn't always agree with what it was suppose to say. My mind is messed up that is why I am here to get help.
So good job on logging it all I to believe if in two or three weeks I can look back and say hey that would be ideal food to bring for lunch at 1;00 AM.0 -
I looked back at the thread. I don't see any rudenes, I think you are being far too sensitive. People pointed out where you are going wrong, not even in a stern way, I've seen much blunter, if you react the way you are you will only be met with worse.0
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Op I did a similar thread ages ago when I started. The first response was literally a spoon with concrete on it.I have learned the lesson. I need to eat less processed foods, I need to learn how to find healthier snacks, and I need to figure out how to cut a lot of sodium out of my diet. Of course I GET IT, I just didn't like the delivery. If I knew this website was going to be so stressful I wouldn't have posted. Now I'm annoyed, on the defense, and I want to eat. Very counter constructive. I guess I was expecting everyone to be a little more like an older website I used to be a part of. My mistake.
I would like to give some advice.
Don't believe everything you read on this site. You're going to get wildly different advice from lots of people. You'll have the clean eaters, the 'a calorie is a calorie' people, the people who must be perfectionists and so on. Read it, see if it fits you and then discard as necessary. People tell you to cut down on sodium because if you have too much it MASKS weight gain by causing you to retain water.
The fact you're logging everything good or bad, is a great start. Keep going with that. You'll find what works quickly.0
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