Most embarrassing "fat" moment....
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A customer at my work asked me what happen to you? You used to be so skinny. Most recently a guy I know came up to me and said "Girl, you sure have put on a lot weight!" Seriously what makes people say things like that.0
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How awful! Sooo sorry you had to go experience that. Really, that is awful. . I think it's time to tell them if they can't say something nice, please don't say anything at all. You need some good loving encouragement. Is there any way you can spend less time with them. that is just not acceptable. I find myself lonely and sad alot because I have finally decided I am not going to take unacceptable behavor any more. I am a christian and have been praying about this. I will keep you in my prayers. Love to you, Joni:flowerforyou:0
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Broke a plastic chair at my wife's cousin's graduation. The cousin was away at school and I only met her a few times, I'm sitting in the living room in a suit for the graduation ceremony, and pop, there goes the chair in front of family and the cousin's roomates and families. Yeah
Last time was a year and a half ago, different cousin (sister to the first) house, I'm in a wooden kitchen chair and that one snapped too. Cousin's husband admits to me after the fact that he had to glue it because he broke it one day. He's about 180 pounds, I was closer to 340 at the time.0 -
One of the most embarrassing moments I had was when I was returning to my home after a long day at work and suddenly a man plays the horn in his car, I automatically looked out of curiosity and when this guy saw that I looked he shouted loudly "you think I would horn for someone so fat and ugly as you?!". I was not feeling well that day and it made me feel even worse.
Another embarrassing moment was that all the guys I go out, or flirted with me as a way to make a joke to his friends later, or did not want other people to know that we were going out together, because he was afraid of what other people could think of him.
But the most embarrassing moment I ever suffered was when I was at my aunt's house, along with the entire family. All of my family always commented on how I always was fat and I had to learn the cause of the impression that I never cared about it. But this particular day, my cousins thought I was not paying attention to them and began to laugh about how they thought I was ugly and fat. It left me very hurt, because one thing is you hear it from someone who does not know you, is quite another thing to hear these same comments coming from your own family. They already did that in front of me, they still had to do this sort of thing behind my back. I was very hurt by it then and I still get when I remember that day.
How incredibly awful! I am so sorry you went through that!0 -
Shopping tor a wedding dress I had my heart set on a mermaid style gown. When I asked to try one on the sales lady told me that wasn't the best style for someone my size.0
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Honestly, I've never really had any ultra embarrassing fat moments. At least none that stick out in my head. I did do something awful once, though; in my 5th grade Halloween party, one of my female classmates dressed up as an Englishman (the top hat and monocle look), and I asked her... OMG... I asked her, "What are you supposed to be? A fat man?" Stupidly, I thought she was wearing stomach padding or something. She glared hard at me, and I realized my mistake and just walked away. Keep in mind, I was only about 10!
Ok, I hear you that you're very remorsful about this, but my question as a kid who was teased (not for being overweight, but for other "crimes against childhood" lol) - and as someone who is now raising 4 kids, HOW do I build a sensitivity into my children so they don't say something like this someday?? I can see that you were young, but there's lots of young kids that somehow get not to say it - is it parenting?? Any thoughts??0 -
Deanna, I am curious too.
My son (when he was 4yo) was in the shoe store with me. We had an employee approach us and ask if we needed any help and my son blureted out (in his best deep manly voice) "she got a big ol'belly" as he rubbed his own. I was mortified. The employee (whom I could see was hurt by this) walked away. I looked for her so I could apologize on my son's behalf (again, he was 4) but I could not find her. I quickly left after that. I wasn't sure what to do/say except that it wasn't nice and we don't talk about people and how they are different b/c it might hurt their feelings.
He is 5 now and has done much better but I still remind him before getting out of our car that he is to have nice words only and that all people are different. I also remind him this when I see something that is not "normal" in the eyes of a child that has not been exposed to it (like my friend's husband - he only has one arm and I explained to my children before seeing him that he did only have one arm and that it's not ok to ask a bunch of questions, etc).
I try to get them to think in the other person's shoes. I think it helps to talk about differences openly and often, and eventually it will all become normal and not so unique or intriging.
I am curious how others handle this, too.0 -
A guy asked me when I was due and I was mortified to say I wasn't pregnant. I thought he'd be embarassed and change the subject but nooooo, he carried on about my size and how he assumed I was having another baby. OMG! Shut up already.0
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My Dad and two of the step-fathers that I've had growing up were always so mean about my weight. They wouldn't allow me to eat as much as my younger siblings and if I asked for more I was yelled at for being fat and asking for more.
I went through a lot of bullying growing up and I never had a boyfriend until I was almost done with HS. That relationship only lasted 2 weeks because I wouldn't put out on prom night. One guy I dated when I was about 19-20 told me that he loved me and would ask me to marry him if I wasn't so overweight. Right after that is when I ended up in an abusive relationship with my daughter's father. I feel like the comments made by that one person impacted my life so greatly, and yet he was such a small blip on the radar truthfully.0 -
When I went to China to visit the great wall, a female vendor yelled loudly to me that she had shirts for fat Americans and held up the biggest shirt I've ever seen in my life, it must've been at least a 6x and I wore a 1x, maybe 2x at the time.0
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Nothing really major, but loads of little things over the years.
Gotta say, I really loved that episode where the former fat girl killed the people who had made fun of her. Not that id kill anyone lol0 -
This was about 2 years ago....Shopping on Phi Phi Island, Thailand, with my mum and I got asked by the Thai shop assistant "You have baby? You have baby in there?" while rubbing her belly with her hand. Embarrassing. I took it in my stride and laughed it off as I know people from that culture don't understand the sensitivities we harbour. And she wasn't being malicious, she actually asked a genuine question, which kind of made it worse0
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I was never overweight as a child, but I when I was in fourth grade I had a VERY thin best friend who told me I had thunder thighs...it stuck, and I know it is ridiculous, but I have never been happy with my thighs.0
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I live in the UK and the Les Mis film is coming out over here so the tv is full of previews. It brought up a long hurried memory,
When I was 7 I was obsessed with Les Mis (my mum and dad had gone to see the musical in the theatre as the production would go on tour every couple of years and visit our home town for a week or so.) my parents had brought back the sound track and I would play it over and over, singing along using words I didn't understand let alone say properly. I always dreamed of playing Cossette the young girl in the musical. Due to child labour laws here in the uk the production would have to have a 'bank' of girls ready to play Cossette in different shows in the week.
I practiced and practiced for nearly 2 years when my dad told me that there was an ad in the paper asking for girls to apply for audition for cossettes part. So with the kareoke machine my dad had bought me to support me with I put on a 'show' for my whole family singing the song from les Mis I hoped one day I'd get to sing on stage. After I finished my family clapped and my mom just looked at me and said
'sweetheart, I don't think you should audition'
When I questioned why she replies
'you're too fat'
Well I guess if you tell someone that they are something enough times, eventually that's what they become.0 -
my mom, at Newark Airport after I was visiting from moving to Seattle. I was about 25. The thing is I had tried to lose a few pounds before this and was feeling good and thought I looked good. I was wearing a cute denim skirt and tucked in shirt. When i walked off the plane (days when you could walk anywhere in an airport) she looked at me and said in a very Loud voice "Oh my, You got so chunky.!!) I vowed I would never fly home sober again. and I kept that promise for a lot of years; lol
Although my mom loved me a lot I am sure, she was obsessed with weight; she was very skinny and had to eat to keep her weight up. I was short and in high school was about 15 pounds over, although now I think I probably was just at a healthy weight. She dragged me to diet doctor who put me on speed and i lost those pounds, no problem; I barely could eat or sleep. After the pills I had to starve myself to keep the weight off and (this was before eating disorders) and actually lost another ten pounds; I weighed 90 pounds at 4'11' She thought I looked so good; but the minute I started eating, the weight of course came back on. At 95 pounds I remember she said to me 'If you were taller you could carry the extra weight" Ouch, I battled with a self image and alcohol for a long time until I gave up booze and took up running and started to like me.
But yeah, people don' realize how hurting some things said can be.0 -
I have no one real stand out moment that haunts me. It was my entire life. I've always been the fat kid. Picked on by almost every single person in my class. Even my husband, tho he doesn't mean to has used it on occasion when he could think of nothing else, and we were fighting. It's just always been there. I've always been the fat one in every situation. I don't know if I will ever get rid of that way of thinking. Even if I make it to goal, and that kind of scares me.0
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When a student of mine kept talking about when my little one was due, and I wasn't pregnant. I didn't even correct him I was so embarrassed. Took me another year at least to change, though.0
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I was living with my friend out in Seattle for a little while. We both really like mountains, so the obvious choice is to go up to Mt. Rainier for a day. We weren't going to climb or anything, just hike and whatnot. We got half a mile in and I couldn't go any further. It was embarrassing as hell. We went back down to the inn and had some beverages and enjoyed the view. It was nice, I guess.
Next time I'm going to enjoy the view, from the top of the freaking mountain!0 -
At my largest, I heard a lot of the fat jokes, which really didn't bother me too much. At my smallest, where I was within my weight range for my height, was when I felt the most embarrassment actually. I was told to stop eating certain foods by a significant other (at that time...no longer) because he didn't want me to get back to the way I was. That was embarrassing and very hurtful.0
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I was never really bullied or harassed about my weight. I've had pretty good self confidence my whole life...I suppose that shows and doesn't make me a target.
The only thing that has ever stuck out was in the 2nd grade. I was taller than a lot of kids in my class and was a bit chunky for my age. A boy (still remember his name to this day) called me fat during dodge ball...and I punched him straight in the face. Gave him a nice bloody nose. I told the principle what had happened and didn't get in trouble, lol.0 -
"Are you a boy or a girl?" "Girl" "Did you say HIPPO?" - Girl i didn't know at the bus stop when i was 9. That was the first time i ever heard someone point out my weight, and i started cutting myself after that until i was into my older teens...
"TIMBEEEER!" - My brother yelling this as i sat down in a chair at a friends bday party we were attending (i was 13, he was 11). i ran home crying from the party.
Childhood and my teenage years brought on a vast amount of insults and inquiries from people. I'm the oldest of 8 (5 girls 3 boys) so there were lots of fights and arguing, and my weight was usually the first thing brought up in any kind of verbal quarrel.
"So now that i've met your sisters... what the hell happened to you?" - Various ex friends over the years
"Did you have to buy a second seat?" - My coworkers at my old job when I told them I had bought a plane ticket to Japan.
Oh and when I found out my ex was cheating on me with a girl who I THOUGHT was a friend of mine, she texted my phone with "I would've told you in person but I was always afraid you'd get angry and eat me"
Same ex used to be a bouncer at a bar, and I'd occasionally hang out there towards the end of his shift since I was picking him up anyway. One night a guy at the bar he was talking to said "well at least you're not going home with THAT" and pointed to me, I pretended not to hear since I was sitting a few barstools away and just waited for my boyfriend to jump in and come to my aid.... but no, he laughed =/0 -
I was at Marine World in Vallejo when I was 15. I was 5'10" and ~250 pounds. I tried to go on one of the rollercoasters but the safety belt wouldn't buckle. The male ride attendant came over and I asked to be let off but instead he took it upon himself to try to buckle me in. When that didn't work he called another male worker over. One of them shoved on the safety bar around my gut while the other tried to buckle the belt, and the whole time I was begging them to stop and let me off. Ultimately they couldn't get it and had to let me off with the saddest look ever on their faces. Me being fat had held up the entire ride and of course I was sitting in the very front row so everyone could see... I've never been to a theme park since.0
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I took martial arts from age 8 to 19. I was ALWAYS bigger and taller than kids in my classes, and one day the other parents apparently decided to band together, approach the schools owner and demand that I be put in the adult class because of my weight. So I was, and there were mostly adult and older teenaged men in that class. I was picked on - not the constructive criticism type picked on, straight up BULLIED. Not only with words but since we had sparring class and activities that required close contact, I was bullied physically too. And my parents always wondered why I was so angry growing up.0
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I was at Marine World in Vallejo when I was 15. I was 5'10" and ~250 pounds. I tried to go on one of the rollercoasters but the safety belt wouldn't buckle. The male ride attendant came over and I asked to be let off but instead he took it upon himself to try to buckle me in. When that didn't work he called another male worker over. One of them shoved on the safety bar around my gut while the other tried to buckle the belt, and the whole time I was begging them to stop and let me off. Ultimately they couldn't get it and had to let me off with the saddest look ever on their faces. Me being fat had held up the entire ride and of course I was sitting in the very front row so everyone could see... I've never been to a theme park since.
Yeah same here! I had almost that exact experience at Kings Dominion.0 -
When I went to China to visit the great wall, a female vendor yelled loudly to me that she had shirts for fat Americans and held up the biggest shirt I've ever seen in my life, it must've been at least a 6x and I wore a 1x, maybe 2x at the time.
LOL omg! I had that same thing happen to me several times in Japan, especially in Okinawa where the "military" look was popular. A vendor yelled out to me that he had all sizes camouflage skirts, "even for the fat girls" >_<0 -
There have been a couple: realizing that the moms who have birth way after you did are already back in shape. Even the mom who was heavy before, and had twins is all skinny!! That was my eye opener. Or one of them.
My young kids asking, why my belly is so big?
Going out of the way to a different McDonald's because you've already been to one twice this week.
We took our Christmas card pictures during an outing with a couple of my girlfriends and their kids and husbands. It was a fun day. I was horrified when I saw the pictures. I KNEW I had put weight on, but I was absolutely horrified by what I saw
it ruined it the day for me, and I hated that. Worrying about my weight when we were supposed to be hanging out.
That has been my turning point. I am aiming for a better Christmas card picture this coming year.0 -
"Are you a boy or a girl?" "Girl" "Did you say HIPPO?" - Girl i didn't know at the bus stop when i was 9. That was the first time i ever heard someone point out my weight, and i started cutting myself after that until i was into my older teens...
"TIMBEEEER!" - My brother yelling this as i sat down in a chair at a friends bday party we were attending (i was 13, he was 11). i ran home crying from the party.
Childhood and my teenage years brought on a vast amount of insults and inquiries from people. I'm the oldest of 8 (5 girls 3 boys) so there were lots of fights and arguing, and my weight was usually the first thing brought up in any kind of verbal quarrel.
"So now that i've met your sisters... what the hell happened to you?" - Various ex friends over the years
"Did you have to buy a second seat?" - My coworkers at my old job when I told them I had bought a plane ticket to Japan.
Oh and when I found out my ex was cheating on me with a girl who I THOUGHT was a friend of mine, she texted my phone with "I would've told you in person but I was always afraid you'd get angry and eat me"
Same ex used to be a bouncer at a bar, and I'd occasionally hang out there towards the end of his shift since I was picking him up anyway. One night a guy at the bar he was talking to said "well at least you're not going home with THAT" and pointed to me, I pretended not to hear since I was sitting a few barstools away and just waited for my boyfriend to jump in and come to my aid.... but no, he laughed =/
so glad he's your ex.0 -
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I've never truly considered myself fat, just out of shape. I've never been athletic. I inherited larger hips (equaling larger behind) and larger top half from my mothers side, and a smaller waist from my fathers side, so technically I'm an hourglass.
During my first few years of high school some girls decided to pick on me and would walk around sticking their butts out behind them when they were in my sight. They also asked when my baby was due when changing for swimming once. This hurt a lot at the time but thankfully we all grew up over the years and I left high school on good terms with them.
Twice people have offered me their seats on the bus as they thought I was pregnant. One lady almost jumped off the bus in embarassment! I have since discovered that I have IBS and bloat to the point of looking pregnant if I eat the wrong foods. Thinking about it now, these situations for more embarassing for the others involved than for me!0
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