Keeping it to yourself??

I tell friends and my fiancee what I am doing. They arent too supportive. My fiancee is mindful of where I can and can not eat out and doesnt offer me junk food. My friends are on again off again dieters so when they want to chat about dieting we do. I am not big into talking about it with co-workers unless they start the conversation.

I used to let the whole world know when I was a diet, then when it didn't go very well I just felt silly.
You also get people commenting on what you eat like if you let yourself have a treat they're like "Aren't you on a diet?"

So now I keep it to myself and just let people comment on the fact that I'm looking slimmer, I get a much more positive feeling from that because I find people tell you that you look like you've lost weight when you are on a diet even if you haven't, they just think it's the right thing to say, so if they don't know about the diet then it must really mean I'm making a difference!

My Mom and boyfriend know, but no one else does. Most of the people I know live really unhealthy lifestyles, and when I used to bring up my attempts to get healthier, they are really nagative about it.
So I'm doing it alone, avoiding food related social activities, and people are on their smartphones 24/7 anyways, so no one notices.

This is the first time I'm not excitedly telling everyone and it is the most successfull I've ever been. :-)

Motivation from family and friends has been proven to be a major factor, but there are always exceptions.

As long as it works, it's a great plan! lol

I am not telling anyone... yet... i've said so many times that i was going to lose weight... dont want the outside pressure... when it comes of they can see for themselves!

CONGRATS !! I'm glad to hear ur story. I'm going trough a rough patch. Thanksgiving to Christmas a food marthon !!! Trying to get back & it's hard. Put 10 lbs. back. Need some support...My friends at work always comment on how healthy I eat. I'm a waitree & weight & measure everything & bring it to my job. That's a big help. Walk 50 min. everyday. 2 Zumba classes & 2 weight training . I feel much healthier. Need to get food on track again. So thank you for telling ur story. D

Hi everybody! I'm new to MFP, and SO glad I chose this thread to read first. Feeling alone on this roller coaster is something I thought couldn't helped, but reading about the differences and similarities in your struggles makes me hopeful again. Thank you.

I've been on this ride my whole life. My husband, my sister and my daughter are the only people who know I joined here. I don't plan to tell anybody else. Us gals are in the same boat and support each other, but I wouldn't have told my husband if I could have figured out how not to. He's clueless about being supportive (as am I), and he knows I like his Buddha shape. I'm trying so hard to make this about me and not everybody else ... Anyway, I'm here. You guys are great. Here's to making smarter choices!

I can understand why people like to keep this quiet, but personally, I've told family and friends as I find their support invaluable. Even if its a little bit fake when a friend says "You're looking thinner", it helps, gives you a little boost to keep going.

My mother in law I would say is the least supportive - we went round there for dinner at New Year and the meal was steak pie. You should have seen her face when I didn't eat the pastry and told her I was avoiding fatty foods. I did however eat all the meat (protein!) and loads of vegetables. When it came to dessert, I got a "I suppose you don't eat trifle now either?" I understand she went to a lot of effort to make dinner for us and I did eat the healthy parts of the meal and declined the less healthy parts as politely as I could, but it makes you realise not everyone is as supportive as others. I guess in future she will know what to expect and hopefully she'll not waste effort cooking unhealthy things for me.

So in short, I find it best to tell those you find most supportive, and for the rest, just keep it as quiet as you need to.

I've always kept quiet about it - make the excuse of just wanting to be healthy when someone asks why I always eat salads, why I don't want chocolate, etc.ect. Don't know why, but I'm kinda embarrassed about the whole thing, I guess. I only have one friend who knows, and she's trying to lose weight as well. It's the best feeling in the world when someone you haven't seen in a while says you're looking slimmer

Trying to keep your goals to yourself from the people closest to you will never work. Support is a MAJOR factor in weight-loss, and to be frankly honest MFP isnt full of the "best" supporters.

disagree. I kept it to myself for two years.

lost 50 lbs.

I made a general statement, obviously not every single person is the same. Dont take it so personal.

I don't tell because I like to see if they notice and the nice comments I will get