Would you bring your 13 year old to the gym?

Of course it's ok to take your kids. I don't see why her father would be against it. Haven't you seen the first episode of The Biggest Loser this season. They're tackling childhood obesity.

I would assume the father is just concerned about his daughter getting hurt. But you know what they sat about assuming.

I would if she was interested. I started heavy weight lifting when I was probably 12... maybe a tad younger and I was very interested in going to the gym.

My daughter already is trying to emulate my healthier choices and has learned at 4 how to do a push-up, crunch, reverse crunch and a squat. Don't know where she gets her motiviation to even want to try but it's adorable.

I would suggest taking her if she is interested. All kids have different sport type interests and if this happens to be something she wants to do then he should let her. He probably interrogated her about it to make her feel less inclined (or at least I know that is something my ex-husband has done on occasion, my daughter fearfully talks to me about some things because her dad is against it in entirety).

I started running on the tredmill when I was 12, I wanted to be in track and so I felt like running, infact I did a lot of running!!! If she wants too then let her, tell her dad that they do it in PE at school anyways so whats the harm?

Absolutely. There is nothing wrong with trying to instill healthy exercise habits with your children. My kids are too little to be on the floor with me, but the YMCA has a great program for kids once they reach the age of 9. Plus... there are other activities for kids to do as well, such as swim and sports, etc. Right now, since my kids are too young for the gym, they do run with me. My 8 year old has done a few 5Ks and lots of 1 mile Fun Runs, and.... even my 4 year old daughter has done two 1 mile Fun Runs!!! I think you are setting a good example.

My 13 year old nephew goes to the gym with his mom. They have TONS of activities (actual activity, not watching TV or playing video games) that he can/does do while she works out.

I think it's great for him. It gets him away from sedentary entertainment and moving around with kids his own age and teaches him about fitness and health.

I can't see a bad side....

Absolutely, my 11 year old son goes with my every day (except when he is at his dads)
He either runs the track with me, or swims or plays racquetball. Id like him to start using the machines, but its a work in progress.
Every human needs physical activity, the younger you can instill those behaviors in your children the better!
I wish his dad felt the same way...video games are the only activity they do together

I would, I think my 13 year old would enjoy going with me too!!

Yes, I brought both my kids to the gym when I exercised there. THe gym even had fitness & nutrition classes for kids.

I see absolutely no issue with this. What's wrong with encouraging your children to have a healthy lifestyle?! My son will be 5 in a few weeks. We got him involved in soccer when he was 3. He continued playing it until this past september. A couple weeks ago, he started wrestling. And he LOVES it. When i work out at home doing my MMA workouts, he is right there with me. He'll jump right in and start throwing punches, kicks, push ups, sit ups, etc. I love it. More importantly, HE'S enjoying it! This past October he ran a 1 mile kid run. He was so excited when he received his medal. He hangs it proudly in his room. I plan to continue to encourage him to be healthy and strong!

Yes! I would definately do it

I would try to educate him but we can't even have a productive conversation. :grumble:

Plain and simple...if you have the primary custody you can do what you want. If he tries to take you to court he will lose haha. The judges won't rule in his favor.

As a parent on the other end of this spectrum - I HATE this response. The goal is to not snub your nose at the other parent's opinions or concerns - but to work together. I have an ex that does just that - does what the hell she wants when she wants with HER kids to hell with me. Well you know what - they are my kids too. Imagine if courts decided if YOU got to raise your kids or not.

To be fair, neither parent can dictate what the other parent does on their time (outside of a school or medical decision). There is no way I would seek approval from my ex every time I wanted to do anything for and with my kids. Likewise, he would drive me crazy if he had to ask me all the time. I don't love everything they do with him, but it's not my business so long as they are safe. And vice versa.

I don't have any kids but i take my 13 year old sister to the gym with me just the fear of her reaching my weight at my age but she loves it or you can try sports we do Wii as a family not necessarily exercise games but boxing things to actually get you off the couch dance games etc.

It's up to your daughter whether she goes to the gym with you or not. I think it needs to be pointed out to the father that she is old enough to make up her own mind and perhaps suggest that she talks to her father about it? From all that you've said, she likes going with you, and at the end of the day that is all that matters.

I would try to educate him but we can't even have a productive conversation. :grumble:

Plain and simple...if you have the primary custody you can do what you want. If he tries to take you to court he will lose haha. The judges won't rule in his favor.

As a parent on the other end of this spectrum - I HATE this response. The goal is to not snub your nose at the other parent's opinions or concerns - but to work together. I have an ex that does just that - does what the hell she wants when she wants with HER kids to hell with me. Well you know what - they are my kids too. Imagine if courts decided if YOU got to raise your kids or not.

To be fair, neither parent can dictate what the other parent does on their time (outside of a school or medical decision). There is no way I would seek approval from my ex every time I wanted to do anything for and with my kids. Likewise, he would drive me crazy if he had to ask me all the time. I don't love everything they do with him, but it's not my business so long as they are safe. And vice versa.

I am a very fair parent and ex often times very accommodating to him and the children's needs. we both prefer to stay out of the court system, we just can't communicate without it turning in to more of an argument. we do speak on an absolute need to basis. the problem is even after two years he harbors so much resentment toward s me for leaving him after 13 years that he can't get past it and just be an adult and parent.

I have joint custody of my daughter and it really just depends on what day of the week it is as to how we get along . That being said you have to pick your fights and make sure that its your child's best interest in mind and not something that your bringing up from the past between you two. This can obviously happen from both sides even if you are " over it ". I have my arguements with my ex because I have my own beliefs in how my child should be raised. I don't believe that I am doing this to hinder what she's doing but to have my own input and be active in my daughters life. It's not always just trying to get back at you or sabotage. Though that happens to the best of people. Something made you split up and that just doesn't go away. You're still going to be bothered by those things but its necessary to put that aside.

Sorry for the rant probably just trying to convince myself