I don't want a big wedding...how do I stop this???

My husband is from another state, so we stressed for the longest time on how to plan a "perfect" wedding that will include family and friends from there and family and friends from here. But we realized that the only thing that mattered was being Mr. and Mrs. at the end of the day. So within two weeks, we got hitched at the county courthouse with just my parents, his parents and his best friend. After, we went for margaritas and quesadillas at Chilis, which was where we had our first date two years earlier. And THAT was perfect.

I'm the youngest of six kids, and all my siblings had been married - some more than once - before us, so my parents didn't care that I didn't want a wedding. Besides, they eloped, too. My husband is an only child, but if his parents were disappointed in our choice, we never heard a peep. They were just happy that he was doing what he wanted and was happy. And that's how it should be.

Every now and then, especially if someone I know is planning a wedding or I watch some of the TLC shows, I think, "Maybe we should renew our vows and have second wedding." I put serious thought into it a few years ago... then realized that having a kickass costume party for Halloween was more representative of our relationship than some fussy event with a puffy white dress.

I'm sure you can find a small church or chapel to have the ceremony in. The other option is find the smallest one there and still only invite a few people- though I would suggest doing it at a warm time of the year or you may freeze!

At the end of the day it you, as a couple, who need to feel please. After all those little touches that make it special, hand written menus and dinner settings to the blessing you talked of, really come alive with a smaller group of people rather then the big brash weddings.

Hope you two have a beautiful life together

This is YOUR special day.

Who cares about pleasing everyone else?

Are you getting married so that you and your future husband can spend the rest of your lives together, or are you getting married because you want to throw a party for everyone else and spend a ridiculous amount of money on one day?

Do what YOU want.

It's your wedding; do what you want to do, but there is a way to do both. You can have a small, intimate church wedding instead of being married at the courthouse. The latter seems so impersonal, and the decorations would be minimal. You could just have a lovely floral arrangement on the altar. Then you could still have your formal dinner.

My daughter thought about getting married at the courthouse, but we encouraged her to get married in a small church ceremony. I knew our family would be devastated to miss such a special event. She told me later how thankful she was, because she would have regretted that decision forever.

Best wishes on your marriage.

To me, being a grownup means making your own decisions, as opposed to having your parents (or someone else's parents) making decisions for you. I am repulsed by the idea that someone would have an opinion about how or where their grownup offspring "should" get married.

Ugh.....can somone explain how to follow up on individual posts? not only can I make a decision about my own wedding, I cannot figure out how to do individual replies!

I need to set a precedence NOW that this is our wedding, our day when it comes to how my MIL wants things done. I want simple and easy. I want a beautiful day with people I love. I don't care about showers, favors, centerpieces and stuff people are going to forget and that I clearly I do not care about.

You are all amazing and giving wonderful food for thought. This is perfect timing!

I just really want our new life to start as soon as possible. I don't think there's any sense to wait until November to have something just to say "ok, we're married now". I'm not into that. From the moment he proposed I wanted to be his wife. I would have married him wearing a potato sack the next day. At the end of the day it's about us and our union.

You guys rock, btw!

Use the "quote" at the bottom of the post you want to reply to... Btw, Don't wait. Winter is low season for weddings (well, except Feb. because of Valentine's day and all...)

I know it's easier said than done, but do what YOU want. Talk to your fiancee. And don't let the future MIL walk all over you, because you might have to deal with that for a while!

Just break up.

bahaha.

seriously. it's your day. screw what your family wants, it's not about them, it's about you. ((speaking as someone who's currently planning my wedding))

very simple..........

very simple..........

This is exactly what me and my husband did .. we had a beautiful wedding in Las Vegas!!! No we did not get married by Elvis Nor did we go through a drive through.. we got married out doors.. it was beautiful.. Check out my profile.. some pictures are on there! Enjoy YOUR and YOUR HUSBANDS day because in the end that is all that matters!!! :flowerforyou: