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Revenge Weight Loss....

sgtrowley

So MFP Friends... who here has honestly had a hidden motive to let an EX see you sexy an happy due to weight loss in order to make them jelious.......

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CaffeinatedConfectionist

Absolutely! I started getting fit long before we actually broke up, so it's by no means my only or my primary motivation, but I'd love to see the look on his face.... especially after his being so snarky when I put on some weight. Even though I didn't put on more than ten or twelve pounds, he made his feelings apparent, and he also made it clear that in his opinion, I could never lose it or be as attractive as I wanted. Nevermind that he had quite the beer gut himself and the only exercise he got was walking to and from the car. If I'm honest with myself, it would be sweet revenge to see his face when I've lost my last couple pounds and finished unearthing my abs!

vickthedick

I spent my whole childhood fat until i was 15. between freshman year and senior year of highschool i went from a size 14/16 to a size 1. there were 12 years of school boys who had rejected me sniffing around. it felt equally good telling each and every one where they could go lol

jenniferlouisebarrow

My weight loss wasn't a motive but a by product of the stress and depression I was left with once my 7 year relationship broke down. I just stopped eating and ended up weighing less than 8st. People said I looked ill.

Now I am in a better relationship and putting the pounds back on.. hence the reason I am here!

rgohm

No ex in the romantic sense, but an ex-coworker who'd always talked down to me, and dismissed my contribution to the team and admitted that it was because I was obese, and therefore obviously 'weak, and lacking in self-control'.

Saw her later at a conference. She weighed more than I ever had, and couldn't keep up with me walking.

revenge is sweet!

JacquiDawn

I didn't lose weight to show up my ex, but my god the satisfaction it gave me was incredible.

Once we had broken up (been together for 2 years), it came to light that he had cheated on me with 9 different girls (5 of which I regularly see back at home). When we met up for a dinner (still trying to be friends), it turned out that I had lost 2 stone and he had put 1 stone on.

HOW'D YOU LIKE ME NOW?!

But still. Mainly for myself, not the boys.

BeingAwesome247

For a while I did want to get back at an ex....then I realized his pathetic *kitten* isn't worth my time and even when I wasn't in great shape, I was still too good for him.

Besides, all my exes miss me - fat or not b/c they have all realized with the girlfriends after me, that no woman would treat them as well.

dmkirk28

For a while I did want to get back at an ex....then I realized his pathetic *kitten* isn't worth my time and even when I wasn't in great shape, I was still too good for him.

Besides, all my exes miss me - fat or not b/c they have all realized with the girlfriends after me, that no woman would treat them as well.

LOL I feel the same way! I hope I never HAVE to run into that loser again....

cuterbee

I had the divorce from you-know-where, complete with a violated VPO (victim's protective order)*. I'd just as soon not draw any attention to myself from that direction. I've managed not to see him for years (despite having had children together) and want to keep it that way.

Of the men I dated in the interim between my marriages, no need for any revenge fantasies; all nice people even if things didn't work out between us.

*Which is absolutely crazy, because he'd had multiple affairs during our marriage...what's the point of harassing, hurting, or even killing me (which he threatened to do) because I didn't want him any more? He obviously did not want to be with me!

Dark_Roast

I lost about 20 pounds during the divorce, he made comments on how good I looked.. I then gained it all back (and then some) after meeting my current husband. After cleaning up my act and exercising, I look better than I ever did while married to my ex. I will keep it that way, my husband deserves to have a hot wife. :flowerforyou:

SummerNights32

I lost the weight for me, but secretly hoped I would run in to him one day. His "other woman" (who happened to be bigger than me at the time), told me she didnt believe we had been together for the last 5 years because he said he would never date someone who look like me (once again, I don't think she had looked in the mirror in a long time). So, about a year after that, and about 80 pounds less than when he last saw me, we ran in to each other in a club. Haha, his expression was priceless, and it took all of about 4 hours before he emailed me asking for a second chance. My response was short and sweet..."no". That was the last time I ever talked to him.

Now I have a boyfriend who prefers a curvy and fit woman. I didn't lose the weight for anyone but myself, but losing him (and the weight) was the best thing that ever happened to be. From what I heard, he and the other woman were perfect for each other in all of the wrong ways, so I see myself as the winner here

. Plus, maybe it took me going through that to appreciate a good man when I found one!

SummerNights32

For a while I did want to get back at an ex....then I realized his pathetic *kitten* isn't worth my time and even when I wasn't in great shape, I was still too good for him.

Besides, all my exes miss me - fat or not b/c they have all realized with the girlfriends after me, that no woman would treat them as well.

Love this!

glittersupernova

I don't think I've ever done something like this. I think, when I experienced a breakup, whatever improvements occurred happened naturally because that prior relationship was an unhappy one. In unhappy relationships, I used to have the tendency to let myself go (cause the person had bad eating habits), dress in a not so flattering way, etc. Once, I was out of the toxic relationship, I realized what I had done to myself and it was like an automatic response to treat myself better and be healthy. Coming out nice looking was inherent in that auto healthy response, not a means to seek vengeance; I don't think seeking vengeance is healthy.

Mom2boysca

For a while I did want to get back at an ex....then I realized his pathetic *kitten* isn't worth my time and even when I wasn't in great shape, I was still too good for him.

Besides, all my exes miss me - fat or not b/c they have all realized with the girlfriends after me, that no woman would treat them as well.

That's a great way to look at it! I know my ex misses me because he calls me for a booty call. Yeah not gonna happen

NikkiWalt

Guilty - but I have to add that I also want the "pretty girls" from high school see that too.

Shameful, I know!

n0ob

I was Mr. Perfect in a small town and always had my weight/looks held over my head. In some ways my weight loss is a middle finger to the haters.

spicypepper

Guilty of this too!

Mom2boysca

Guilty - but I have to add that I also want the "pretty girls" from high school see that too.

Shameful, I know!

Your not the only one on that one. I live in a very small town so I see people from high school all the time (I graduated 6 years ago) and still have to see these people constantly.

infamousmk

NO.

ChristiH4000

It wasn't the main reason, but yeah it was a side perk.

oregonzoo

no. It's all about ME.

In my opinon if it's not all about you as an indiviual, you aren't going to be as successful.

MemphisKitten

Totally guilty!

cesereda

I did that once, I went down to a size 3, I am not sure with the new sizing now if they still have that. Plus I would not have looked for it in the past 25 years anyway. LOL, so I did that and then I met the guy I ended up marrying. Once we were onto our happy life together and we went out to eat all the time, the weight just kept pilling on. Be careful when you meet someone new, lol.

Windy_

Not really, I ended it with them and it's their loss whether I had a few pounds to lose or not.

yoovie

I recently had an ex tell me that i would never look like the girl i always post on my blogs, he didnt know it was me. I didnt tell him.

ive never wanted that revenge, so i didnt take it. But it felt cool to know that even though he didnt believe i could do it, that my genetics were working against me, I was still able to.

_Witsy_

Nope...cuz I broke it off with them. So it didn't matter either way. I do this for me and only me.

mikeyboy

If I cared what she thought, she would'nt be an ex.

DGK12

I didn't lose weight to make him jealous, but because I just FELT BETTER! I do think it's pissed him off that I look ten times better than him now though

RunsOnEspresso

Currently doing it for myself and my health (both physical and mental).

I have tried very hard to distance myself from the ex that I would want to get "revenge" on. I want nothing to do with him. Living 1800 miles away helps. Finding the man for me helps. I have finally put him to rest and have no desire to interact with him on any level.

amberpitz

Good answer and AWESOME job on your weight loss! You obviously have been working hard. Be Proud

HappyNinjaStar

it definitely hasn't been a 'motivator' as I don't really have plans to see any ex's again. But hey if I decide to go to high school reunion at some point, it would be nice to not be ridiculously heavier than when I was in high school eons ago