I want to give up.
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Start small and build on your successes. Pick one habit to form - take baby steps. Drink more water. Eat more veggies. Have a low-carb protein shake for breakfast. Look at the work of John Berardi on nutrition (http://www.precisionnutrition.com/). Trying to change everything at once is tough to do - take it slow, you'll be surprised by what changing one habit at a time can accomplish.
Get consistent with one habit, then go from there. Replace your less-than-optimal behaviors one at a time. Don't stress if you're not perfect - even the Biggest Losers contestants, with all the support they have, fail more often than not.0 -
I started 1lb more than you are now. We're the same height. I felt the exact same way. The last thing I wanted was to diet.
If you only do one thing make it logging your food. Just that alone will make a huge difference. Then when you're ready it will be because you want it. You got to want it.
I'm 177lbs now. It is so worth it.0 -
Just stay under your calorie goal! Don't give up.
And why are you so impatient?
Good things come to those who wait. -Madame Cliche'0 -
not to be harsh but if your even thinking about giving up your odds arent good to succeed0
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Never give UP! trust me Id love to snap my fingers and have a six pack again... but its slow... Ive lost 19lbs Since OCT... 4 Since I joined MFP... When you start to see progress, you will gain some motivation... Wont need to be visual progress... just seeing the numbers on the scale lower!0
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That is the problem right there, stop dieting!!! Diets never work out... Count your calories, eat right, workout. It's a lifestyle change not a for now change. You can do it, but you have got to shut your mind up and just do it. No one here can do it for you. I've lost 123 lbs but that is because I was ready and I was really tired of being obese.
^^^^^^^ this! and that's coming from someone who lost 100+ pounds...
I am 24 5'5 and was 210+ pounds...I have lost 70 now. It really is a lifestyle change. Going to the gym is pointless if your still eating more calories then you are burning.
don't give up on yourself!! you can do it!0 -
You know what, thats exactly it, your setting yourself up to quit. I've tried diet after diet after diet, and the only thing that seems to be working is just letting go of the mentality that you need to diet. You just need to analyze your food intake. See what your eating on a daily basis and record it. If your eating 2 portions of spaghetti and meatballs you need to measure out a portion and give yourself time to eat and indulge in it. Drinking water before eating helps me IMMENSELY! Infact I now carry and 1.5 L bottle everywhere in the house, this way I can keep my water intake up and the cravings down. Surprisingly enough I haven't opened a bag of Lays in over a week and I'm totally fine.. I did let go of myself over the weekend because I had dinner arranged at my place however I still worked out and gave it everything I got!
Your only 25 and you have the world at your feet. You can't let a number define you and your here on MFP for a reason so make it count! You gained it over some time its going to take a little time to lose as well!0 -
I felt the same way a week ago and the support I got on here was great, this is a journey and for me I had to realize it is a lifesyle change not a diet. I hope you don't quit you'll feel better in the long run0
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When you say you've started a diet 12 times in a year, did you cut back on the food hardcore and go mad at the gym? That's the sure fire way to produce fatigue - both physical and mental - and burnout. Set a moderate goal. Even for now, as you get started, aim for a 1 lb loss per week. Eat all the calories MFP gives you and eat back your exercise calories. Be diligent about tracking everything but with a more moderate goal you'll be able to fit in just about everything you like in moderation. Don't try and go overboard with salads and eat a bunch of fat-free/sugar-free/carb-free/food-free non-foods. Just eat real food and a bit of junk as it fits in to your calorie goal.
Once you're used to your calorie goal, you can start increasing protein intake and reducing carbs a little. Increasing protein helps to preserve your existing muscle mass while eating at a deficit. It can also help you feel fuller on less food.
Even if you lose 1/2 a pound weekly... or a pound... in 6 months you'll feel AMAZING and you won't feel like you've had to sacrifice hard for it. It will become very natural to keep eating that way and even improve your choices i.e. less process foods, more vegetables and fruits, more water, more exercise yada yada yada...
But don't try and do it all at once. You can do this. There are so many great success stories here. If we can do this, so can you.0 -
I understand. I just feel like I've given up. I've been overweight for most of my life and I just don't know how to break out of this vicious thing. I've been ready for this weight to come off. It's such a burden!
It's hard to get started, and there will be times when you will probably think it's not worth it, but it is. If you want to be fit and healthy then you're in this for the long haul, for the rest of your life. Take it one day at a time, and start being mindful of what you put in your mouth. Think about what you want, and go for it! I've only lost 11 lbs since September, and there's been plenty of times where I think it's not worth it. But I know it is because I know what I want. And even if I've slowed or stalled at weight loss I'm going to be patient and stick with it.
It's tough, but you can do it. You can add me if you'd like a motivational buddy 
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Please don't give up. I've been on the same road wanting to give up but you know you are worth it. You are worth the life style change, you are worth the time and effort. Make mini goals. 5lbs. Reward yourself every little goal. Write your rewards down and let everyone know what you are doing. The support is great. Count your calories and follow that and you will be surprised how full you feel and you can have everything as long as you are within your calories. One meal at a time. You can do it. Please don't give up. You deserve this!!!!!! A great long healthy life!!!! A great bod is the bonus!!!!0
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I was 25 yrs old and 215 lbs when I started out.
I am now 28 yrs old and I bounce between 145-155 lbs. Eventually I'd like to hit the 130's.
BUT my main focus now is (and has always been for the last 3 years) to get strong and be healthy.
Be patient.
Even if you aren't seeing results now...you will soon.
Being active and eating healthy will do your body good, and your body will thank you eventually.
Feel free to peruse my profile and my pics. You can add me as a friend if you want.
Good luck.
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The best and probably only advice I have is just to battle it out for 6 to 8 weeks..its mind over matter...your mind is the biggest factor..it will tell your body that you cant do it..you can! just keep on keepin on...no one said it would be easy..tomorrow is a new day! get it!0
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Habits are hard to break but here are my two cents;
One I have lost 30 pounds from four years ago and kept them off. Now it is time to hit 175. I have been trying to get up at 6 am since Dec 1st and have not been able to do it. However I have been able to work out 75% of the days four the last 4 weeks. Am I getting stronger and fitter? Of course, but the weight is still there because I am not eating right for me.
Two, quite the negative self talk. You help no one. Keeping a food diary is not so you telll yourself what a dumbass you are for eating that pizza but it is for your own honest self assesment of what fooods do damage to you.
3. Read, Read and Read again. There is free information on the web on for some solid diet plans then study them. Implament the ones that have had success then see how they work.
four: Do you know how much sugar intake you are taking. Are you drinking gatorade drinks which haves tons of sugar.?
Get that diary going!!! Maybe that should be your first step. This alone will be hard to do. Instituting a new habit takes 30 days I believe. You can do this so start today.0 -
I started in 2012 too and lost 72 pounds in 2012. I don't think that is a waste of time. And well before the year 2013 is over I will be at goal weight. Give up if you like, that's your choice.
Or you can choose otherwise.0 -
So much great advice has already been given, so I'll just add that I know you can do this! 2012 is SO yesterday. Start fresh, from this moment, with a new plan and a new attitude. It will pay off.0
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That is the problem right there, stop dieting!!! Diets never work out... Count your calories, eat right, workout. It's a lifestyle change not a for now change. You can do it, but you have got to shut your mind up and just do it. No one here can do it for you. I've lost 123 lbs but that is because I was ready and I was really tired of being obese.
best answer!!! i too fell victim to too many "diets" once i started eating right, working out more and kinda watching calories did i start losing weight...its a lifestyle change that you need to want to do....i was tired of being the "fat girl" i did something for myself and it worked.0 -
I'll be blunt - as someone else said, you didn't get to where you are now in a week, just as I didn't get to where I am in a week, so this process is going to take a while. I will add that usually there is a fear or a trauma that goes along with the food that we have to figure out and face. Otherwise, we will either sabotage our own progress or regain all we lose or both. I've done exactly that. This time along with the calories and the gym I am including my inner self in this process and it is working a lot better. So this is my advice:
Ask yourself this - "what is the worst thing that could happen if I do all this work and I succeed in losing the weight?" Be honest with yourself, and really think about that.
If your answer is "I could fail to lose the weight in the first place" followed by comments like "I fail at everything... I'm crazy to think I can do this... etc" What does that tell you?
If it is "People will expect me to_________(fill in the blank)." What does that tell you?
Losing weight is about so much more than just the food and exercise, and I believe that when we overcome the reasons that we got fat and/or the fears that have kept us fat, we will be both thinner and stronger people who know ourselves better and value ourselves more. Hang in there, I know you can do this!0 -
Also remember there is no short cuts, cutting calories is as important as eating enough. Never eat net under 1200, it is not good for you. Personally, I eat my goal and all my exercise calories and lose consistently. I earned them, I am going to eat. Your body needs fuel.
Many people exercise their butts off and starve themselves and his plateaus. Follow MFP guidelines they work. It creates a deficit for you.0 -
Don't give up! I feel what you are saying. I myself have done horribly with my food choices and portions, but keep on exercising. With encouragement we can all get back on that horse, so to speak. Let's get going and we will see and feel results, eventually.0
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Ok - yes it does take time...but I can PROMISE you that if you stick to it, you WILL get to your goal EVENTUALLY. I can also promise you - if you give up, you will get bigger and bigger and bigger. Your choice.0
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Thanks everyone! I'm gonna give it time. It'll be a week on Monday so ill give it till this time next month. I have a little more faith thanks to everyone's comments!!0
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Just hang in there! My workouts are a whopping 30 minutes. I'm doing a C25K program (determined to do a 5K in May!), stationary bike or Yoga Meltdown from Jillian Michaels. Don't mind the scale, just keep track of your NSV's. They make all the difference! :happy:0
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You have to come to grips with the fact this is a complete lifestyle change and nothing else. Make this about the rest of your life and forget about any short term prospects. I started my lifestyle change 42 months ago and have never looked back. Best of Luck to You...0
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There are so many crappy things that happen in our lives that we have no choice about. Things that are beyond our control no matter how much we cry and yell and stomp our feet.
Losing weight is not one of those things. Take advantage of something that is within your control to change. Just make the choice to do it, and find ways to keep doing it. And the more you learn and get into it, the less it starts to matter that it might take a long time. And a bonus! You'll learn patience along the way too.0 -
Great advice from everyone! I'll just add that you need to get rid of thinking in absolutes. If you slip up and eat a few cookies, for example, you have not ruined your diet and you are not a failure who should just eat the whole box. It's OK to eat a few cookies now and then, or whatever your favorite splurge foods are. Just don't eat them every day, plan them into your calorie allotment, slowly savor a couple, and then move on. No, not a failure. Just part of the plan. But if you do really go crazy and maybe have a little binge. OK, acknowledge it, track it in your food diary as closely as you can, and then get back your healthy eating plan the next day. A binge is going to set you back a couple of days from reaching your goal. It's not going to ruin the whole shebang.
Oh, and you keep saying you're going to keep working on it. Don't work on it. To me, at least, the word work has negative connotations. So learn to play at it. Choose exercises that are fun, that you enjoy doing, and that feel like play. Don't work at finding new ways to cook and eat. Play with new recipes, play with finding the healthiest foods that you like to eat, play in the kitchen. Make it fun.
If your social activities consist of sitting around and talking and, maybe, eating together. Suggest to friends you meet for walks, or bike rides, or go roller-skating, or bowling, or take up geocaching or hiking or beachcombing, go swimming at the lake or the public pool, or....well, you get the idea.
And remember that many studies show that flexible dieters have better long-term success. This means that it's good to take a diet break for a week or two every 3-4 months. Maybe plan that diet break around vacations or holidays or special events. And it's OK to have a big splurge meal once in awhile. If you do show a gain after doing this, it's usually just water weight and will go away in a few days. Don't deprive yourself but learn to budget your calories and fit splurges into your new lifestyle.
Well, I could go on and on but hope these extra tips help. Best wishes. You can do this and you can have fun doing it. Promise. (And I wouldn't have believed it myself when I first started but, gosh, life is so much more fun now!) Enjoy!0 -
As mentioned earlier .... Try the B complex vitamin or B12 Vitamin. And drink water. It will help ur energy which will help your mood. And google positive quotes about motivation. That helped me to maintain a positive outlook. I started me a page on pinterest to "pin" them to my wall. Don't let your mental stop u from changing ur physical! U can do this!0
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I feel like I'm never going to lose weight. I'm 25 years old, 5'4", and 216lbs. In 2012 alone, I tried to go on a diet 12 times and failed. I started going to the gym on Monday and have gone everyday since and have been eating better but I don't feel any better. I just feel like its all a waste of time. Maybe I'm impatient and want to see results quick. Very discouraged.
No you don't. You don't want to give up. The more you try, the more the results will WANT to come for you....
If you stop trying, you'll just be stuck the way you are: unhappy.
Doesn't it feel better that you're doing something good with yourself and trying to be healthy?
Not about the weight....try to think about being content with health.....let the weight take care of itself.
You need to set habits....
Btw, I have a group for 200+ pound people...
Lots of good stuff in the discuussions....lots of people that can help you out....let me get the link for you...
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http://www.myfitnesspal.com/groups/home/10893-over-200-pounds-really
You're welcome to join!!
-Mika-0 -
How much exercise is enough? I feel guilty when I'm not exercising.. It's weird.
I feel the same way. Especially if I go over my calorie (like today). It's addicting to work out at first, then it becomes habit, then obsession in a way.0 -
don't give up.
you said that you've always had a weight problem. that means you're going to need some time reform good habits.
just keep at it, little by little and you'll get there.
remember that your making lifestyle change so give yourself some time.
my suggestion would be to make some mini goals that dont involve weight loss but that involve fitness. those will keep you motivated to exercise.
good luck! you can do this!!
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