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joycebug
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My husband makes stupid comments like "guess u need to go work out to look good for your boyfriend", etc...It's getting really annoying! How do u deal with someone who constantly gives you crap for trying to be healthier???
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Is your husband happy with the shape he's in, healthy-wise, physically, socially? Typically, comments like this are made out of jealousy/insecurity. Maybe he should invest a little something in himself.0
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we joke about this all the time. i guess some folks have different sense of humors (or is it senses of humor? meh...).0
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Is his tone playful of snarky? Either way, I can see how it could get annoying after awhile. I agree with the previous poster, he might have some jealousy and insecurity issues he needs to work on.0
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He's just very insecure and controlling in general...0
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I have found poison to be most beneficial! jk What really matters is how do you feel about getting healthier. You have to want to do this for you, kind of like quitting smoking. you have to want to do it for you bcause its so hard to do. Good luck0
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Never playful...always snarky!!!0
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That's pretty childish of him.......... have him work out with you.0
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I get the same thing i know what ur going through just ignore it and keep on we cant let our spouses control our health and happiness of our body!0
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He can't keep up...lol0
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That's no good. I'm sorry, that just wouldn't fly with me, I'd have to say something!0
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My fiance hasn't ever been unsupportive in that sense but he's the kind that likes to get me "treats" and wants to go out to dinner so I don't feel like I have to cook, etc.
I simply sat him down and had a talk with him. Explained how important this was to me and why. He said he wasn't aware that I was that serious about it and things have been different since.
Sit him down and tell him how things like that make you feel. Boys can be kind of dense. I'm fully convinced that 80% of the time they hurt our feelings or are unsupportive they have no idea.0 -
He's just very insecure and controlling in general...
sounds like quite the catch.....0 -
he doesnt sound very supportive
ignore him or even ask him to join in? mine joins in yet trys to stop me as he likes my podge as he calls it lol
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My boyfriend and I will give each other a hard time when we skip out on the gym. (We are long distance, so this is all over phone or text). At the same time, we will laugh at each other when we have just eaten a bad meal, and are too lazy and full to try and even work out. It is all in fun with us...and although it gives us a little bit of accountability, we make sure to always keep it upbeat and positive...or at least in joking form lol.0
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Insecure can be fixed by a little soothing on your part. Controlling is a whole other ball of wax, and you'd better decide now how you want to live, because it will just get worse if you let it.
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he doesnt sound very supportive
ignore him or even ask him to join in? mine joins in yet trys to stop me as he likes my podge as he calls it lol
Haha sounds like mine...he is totally supportive when it comes to losing weight and getting fit...UNLESS I start to lose my curves. I don't think that can happen though, I think that is just the shape I was born with.0 -
I am sorry! You work out for your health- his insecurities are ihs own, we all have choices in life- he chooses not to be supportive, but a loving husband doesn't treat his best friend that way.
If he has not basis for jealous behavior, such as flirting, or any other things that would cause this fear, its time to talk, sit down and talk it out. If he isn't willing to talk, there's a bigger problem.
Remind him that you want to live the best quality of life possible, and you want that for him to, but your health and fitness need to be respected, in silence if he can't let go of the resentment.0 -
Sorry to hear you are also dealing the same problem as I am. I went from making snappy remarks back like "Yup my boyfriend sure loves the new me" to ignoring him, to finally just telling him "I'm doing this with or without your help but I would much prefer that you support me." The negative comments stopped but now I'm dealing with sabotage. I have nothing but healthy food in the house but he comes home with my favorite junk food. I make healthy meals, he brings home take out. I know he's trying to make a point of "you're on a diet, not me" but boy does it make hard to resist the food temptations.0
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i am having the same problems. when im eating something not viewed as diet food. he will say something. when he gets home from work he will check the elliptical just to see how much i used it. stupid little things. you have to do this for you and not worry about him.0
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Sounds like possible insecurity. I used to get those comments from my exes when I'd go to work, exercise, even to go to an arts & craft fair, etc. If he's having a half-joking-half-serious sort of tone to it, he might be feeling the need for some reassurance.0
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