IM LOST OR OVER MY HEAD

I get similar comments from my family too. Of course I love them, but it can be so incredibly hurtful. But I turned how sad those comments make me into anger and that anger fuels my motivation. When I take on fitness goals I keep them to myself until I achieve them. When I do achieve them its only then that I share it with my family. This means that they can't tear down my resolve WHILE I'm working on it. Bottom line- you have to want to do this for YOU, but you can turn all the negative influences into motivation to prove them wrong!!!

Good luck and hang in there!

I know it seems like such a long, hard journey, but seriously, set some smaller goals for yourself. Try for 10 or 20 pounds at a time. Also, I'm going to keep spreading the word, because I believe in it so much....ZUMBA! I love it! I love to dance and always have. I didn't care what I looked like when I started, and neither should you! Just get in there n give it your all. It is so much fun. It's better than any other workout, and it's addicting! Just stick with it girl...you CAN do this!!! I did! In the last year, I've lost 60 lb's, and at one time, I weighed as much as 260! I'm now 150! And keep this in mind....there's no better feeling than proving someone wrong!!! :happy:

I'm sorry your family is mean.

I weigh everything i eat. I bring my scale with me when i go out to eat or to a friend's. Also during the week, I have every meal and snack planned and a designated time to eat. Breakfast, Snack, Lunch, Snack, Dinner Snack. It's all about 3 hours apart. I know that is hard to do, but It keeps me happy. Also don't deprive yourself things. Chocolate in your trail-mix, a little jam on your PBJ. Buy good, quality ingredients. So go for the fancy smancy jam in the little jar instead of the big cheapo bargain brand. You'll be eating less of it anyway right? The big jar might go bad, and the little jar will be savored. This is just an example, but you get the idea.

My favorite naughty snack? Really good cheddar, a good cracker, and some quince. Yummo! I feel so decadent eating that, and I limit myself to 6 crackers and 1 oz cheese, and 2 teaspoons of preserves. I have a cup of hot tea and I pretend I'm in Victorian England. Silly yes, but I enjoy it more.

I also drink Tea all day long. Black tea, herbal tea, whatever I got. I don't like just drinking water, I want something with flavor. I can drink tea black, unlike coffee which needs a ton of creamer to be palatable for me. Water is for when i first wake up, right before bed after I've brushed my teeth, and the gym.

On the weekends I have a hard time because I'm with people. I try really hard to limit what I eat during the day so I can enjoy whatever we eat out. Also I try to exercise on those days in particular because then I have a few extra callories to play with.

Hope this helps.

Sometimes they do try to pull you down, it makes them feel better about their lack of effort.

I could make a number of suggestions about ways to make exercise habits and structuring eating etc, but the unfortunate fact is that it ultimately it comes down to you wanting it enough. A lot of people succeed in spite of others, not with their assistance (I'm one of them).

For me, knowledge was the key. Finding out the simple FACTS of fat loss, nutrition and exercise. Sorting the fact from the crap gave me a great sense of empowerment and allowed me to focus on what I needed to without the lingering doubts of whether what I was doing was 'right' or 'worthwhile'. That would be my suggestion; read, learn and apply! There are now some great threads on this site with easy to digest facts on these issues, if you are keen I'll happily point you in the right direction.

It sounds silly... but I spend about 90% of my internet time on MyFitnessPal, reading about food/fitness ideas ans success stories... keeps me motivated.

For me it's been the folks on this site.

Checking in constantly, motivating and getting motivated, the positive enforcement and checking in throughout the day has been a HUGE factor in my drive... it's so much different (better) that all my previous attempts.

I've tried and stopped so many times, I can understand my family's lack of confidence in yet another attempt at health and weight loss.

Login often, get lot's of friends who post a lot and are there for you... Add me if you like, I'm present quite a bit.

I know it seems like such a long, hard journey, but seriously, set some smaller goals for yourself. Try for 10 or 20 pounds at a time. Also, I'm going to keep spreading the word, because I believe in it so much....ZUMBA! I love it! I love to dance and always have. I didn't care what I looked like when I started, and neither should you! Just get in there n give it your all. It is so much fun. It's better than any other workout, and it's addicting! Just stick with it girl...you CAN do this!!! I did! In the last year, I've lost 60 lb's, and at one time, I weighed as much as 260! I'm now 150! And keep this in mind....there's no better feeling than proving someone wrong!!! :happy:

I don't know if youhave tried it but there is also water ZUMBA, it's AWESOME and much lower impact on larger bodies!!

It's really sad that the closest people are choosing to discourage you rather than build you up.....But hey, you can't make others support you or be happy for you....


Sooooo I guess all you can do is use it to fuel yourself!!! it's awesome that you're on here cause here you have sooo many people rootin for ya! So go ahead and tune out the people who are making you feel this way!!! Jealousy and resentment are ugly emotions!!! And when you've reached your goals you'll be even more gratified And those ppl can eat those words

It sounds silly... but I spend about 90% of my internet time on MyFitnessPal, reading about food/fitness ideas ans success stories... keeps me motivated.

This!! also make smaller goals.. start with 10lbs or even make your goals just promising to log all of your food for 10 days .. it can be super stressful to try and do everything at once. I just started (again) but im doing it right this time.. no gimmicks, no magic pills.. my first goal was just to log my food.. and drink my water.. after that I started easing into the workouts and now im addicted to MFP and wanting to do something everyday! you can do it!