Men! What motivated you? I need your help!

Four years ago, I lost 90 pounds using a different calorie app. It was a real eye opener for me when I first started logging food. I did it for 2 weeks without counting calories or changing my diet to try and get a baseline to see what I was actually eating. I thought I'd be around 2500 calories. Turns out 3500 calories was a low day for me and most days were closer to 4000. After that, I started making small changes, a little at a time.

Unfortunately I got lazy and reverted to old habits and gained back 85 of that 90 and here I am again!

I joined MFP because my husband was on here and the meals we were planning together were causing me to start losing weight without trying. Seeing him make an effort for himself and choose a method that seemed soundly based (eating real foods, being aware of what he was eating, beginning to exercise fairly regularly) instead of this fad or that or looking for a "silver bullet" solution and getting the collateral benefit for myself made me decide to actually put in a little effort myself and see what I got. Ultimately, each person has to decide for themselves. Your example, results, and (assumed) increasing happiness as you look and feel better are the best way for him to see that what you are doing works and is manageable.

Other than generally improved health, extended longevity, and ties created by working together toward common goals the best shared benefit:

Better sex. Yep, THAT seems a likely motivator.

Just try to simple ask him to workout with you. If he says no thats fine. When you workout, someday he will come around and join in. Thats what happend with my wife and now she worksout while im at work! I have also gone on facebook and LIKED fitness pages to motivate me and my wife. updating pics of people working out and in fit condition. We are always on Facebook so you always see it. Just keep everyone motivated!! Keep the rigth food in the house to keep him motivated.

I haven't read this whole thread, but I started doing a lot of research over at bodybuilding.com when I decided to change my body. Over there, I learned not only about the exercises, but about nutrition and what macros I needed to hit. And I learned that nutrition plays a much bigger role than exercise. So if I wanted to see results, tracking my nutrition just wasn't an option. So I found the mfp app and downloaded it as a way of tracking my food to make sure I hit the macros I need to hit as well as the calories I need to hit, whether it be defecit, maintenance, or bulking. Right now, I am running a deficit. And with this, I am able to keep up with my calories, and grams of protien (make sure I get enough), fat (make sure I don't get too much, while still getting enough), and carbs (not really following these too close, that is where most of my calorie deficit is coming from).

Boobs. My motivation. Actually, I'm more of a butt man but the principle remains.

I had a kidney stone. There's nothing quite like it the pain is terrible. At our age he is ripe for it, if he wants to avoid that problem and others he should diet and exercise.

I started nearly 2 years ago because i was tired of the way I looked and needed to address typical obesity related health issues. i often look at my before and after pictures to stay motivated. MFP has been a great resource that helped me change my lifestyle. :happy:

My motivation came through being able to play golf better. I started at 127kg and am have already improved my golf game. The past three weeks I have been able to walk 18 holes of golf and not feel exhausted by the end of the round.

Also part of my motivation is in regards to avoiding getting diabetes and other health issues. I am 30 years old so I am young enough to get healthy and live a long life.

are we allowed to post links on the forums? if not: the /r/loseit and /r/progresspics on Reddit definitely helped, and still helping me as motivation. that and the people on MFP too. people on here keep me accountable. they keep me pushing through, and understand why i am taking health and fitness seriously. for some reason my "social network" friends don't get it and aren't as enthusiastic as the MFP crowd.

Tell him oh god I'm tired from all my friend request from buff men on mfp I bet you he will join up 2 seconds later us men r simple creatures

You might want to look at the root cause of the depression. Without trying to address what is making him feel so down about himself, then nothing you do will likely matter. I have suffered from PTSD and major depression. Unless that can be pinpointed it will be a very tough battle. Even minor victories can turn to WTH moments, that put him in a spiral.

I'm working to get mine under control now, have been doing pretty well with it. now if I can just get myself going again, I should be able to finally lose.

It's something I really want to do, but I left my home 5 months ago. And now that I'm ready to do things, and want a little support, the support that I had isn't there. So that's my kickstart. If his actions or inactions are hurting his relationship with his family or children, maybe that will be enough to inspire him. No matter how much a man thinks he doesn't care, you let his wife lose weight, and find out that he is losing his kids, because he can't be there emotionally or even physically for them, it's about the best motivation there can be.