Guys that are a 3 trying to be with girls that are an 8...

Owns a penis and has working knowledge of female anatomy I'm in! Too fussy??

Feel free to PM me fabulous women of MFP! IM a total 3 but have an awesome tan and armed with the legendary Big Brown meat love hammer!!!!!!!!!:devil:

seem appropriate

Con Air...? I know I've seen this scene but can't necessarily remember the movie.

I have the opposite problem.. I wish the 9-10s would leave me alone... I know its a pity date and you are hoping to score... I'm not an idiot...

but, Yes, I will touch your abs........ which is why I say yes.. that, and free dinner......

It's really difficult to determine if you have any attraction, chemistry, like someone's personality, etc., if someone passes you up based on looks alone. So while it's clear that almost everyone here is only interesting in the person inside, not the packaging (/sarcasm) the truth is, that's not the case in the real world. Particularly when you're looking at profile pics on a dating website, people are totally judging based on looks and what little bit might be written. No one can say that they would contact people based solely on personality under those circumstances. And I sincerely doubt that most people look at someone across the room and say, "Wow, that girl has buck teeth, big feet, crazy hair, and an extra 75 pounds, but look at that PERSONALITY! I gotta meet HER!"

Can't we be honest and admit that the first attraction is usually a physical one? What happens AFTER that point may have absolutely nothing to do with looks, but in the first instance, it's most often about a person's physical traits. Many divorced, middle aged men I met when I was single were looking for the physical traits usually associated with first year college students, primarily meant to stroke their ego. Those guys weren't looking for relationships; they were just looking for that ego stroke, and maybe a quick lay. However, what they didn't realize was, a lot of those girls only went out with them because they had more money than guys their own age, and they got nicer dinners out of the deal. It makes me laugh to hear both sides from the folks at work ... I always wonder if they're really that unaware of what's going on ...

So has MFP turned this in to an essay assignment or...?

Maybe its because no guy want to be called a "3" by you...

Thank you for rating us men. I like how its ok for men to be rated but yet the same women scream when men do it to them.

I hope you get a "10" to date you soon. Go get you a Channing Tatum girl. I hear he's a 10...

^^ This. I dislike the rating people thing.

Dating and weightloss have a lot in common. In most cases, if you really believe that you are worth the effort to lose weight, you will get there. Ditto relationships: if you really believe yourself to be loveable you will find someone to love you.

However, if you have self doubt you may find it very hard not to sabotage yourself, to make up reasons why you can't lose more weight or find that man/woman.

What I got from the OP's post was a sense of a fundamental misunderstanding of attraction. Relationships are not job interviews; employment histories don't make great pillow talk.

This thread makes me glad I have an awesome personality.

I'm quite ashamed some woman felt this needed to be posted.

People are not the sum of their outward appearance.

Yeah that is easy for a pretty girl to say!!! :mad:


Just kidding. :flowerforyou:

You are frustrated obviously, but I agree with you. I haven't figured out online dating yet, but I know that people dismiss people easily based on looks, not necessarily attraction, because they don't know you yet. It's a fact. You AREN'T supposed to compare, and you never know what people post or say in their messages.... who knows. Just be patient and keep on working out.

Btw, I have heard men rate women, I've worked with lots of guys at my last job, and they would rate women, objectify, etc. Perhaps not the guys that comment on here, lol. And it's good that you have all those skills, job, etc and what not, but I don't think it matters. I guess I am frustrated too. You need to have good pictures up, men look at pictures.

So what if guys want to be with people they are attracted to? Don't most people? I find it hard to believe that a certain type of women are out there unknowingly snatching the men who don't want to be with somebody who may be considered equal in the looks department. Good grief.

Maybe its because no guy want to be called a "3" by you...

Thank you for rating us men. I like how its ok for men to be rated but yet the same women scream when men do it to them.

I hope you get a "10" to date you soon. Go get you a Channing Tatum girl. I hear he's a 10...

A-F$%/KINGMEN

Ladies I am the 10 you are looking for, my momma said so.

This topic makes me sad.
Stop rating people on some imaginary scale.

All that matters to me is that someone is a "10" in my eyes. Another woman might not look at him twice, but all that matters is what I think of him and he of I.