Guys that are a 3 trying to be with girls that are an 8...

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  • amandapye78
    amandapye78 Posts: 820 Member
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    I dont understand the rating system. Why does everyone have to be assigned a number?

    Would you prefer we refer to each other as butt ugly, mildly ugly, not bad, passable, average, somewhat cute, cute, pretty/handsome, hot, and smoking freakin hot. Still 10 spots

    Maybe I'm getting old but I dont remember the numbers when I was still dating. We either found someone attractive or we didnt. There wasn't a number assigned to them.
    WOW I do sound old!!
  • leftybadeye
    leftybadeye Posts: 26
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    Why girls settle for 3's.....


    http://www.financialsamurai.com/2011/05/23/why-do-women-go-out-with-deadbeat-losers/
  • Mhaney
    Mhaney Posts: 467 Member
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    This is why I gave up dating shortly after my divorce. I don't have time for that foolishness at this stage of my life.
  • triciab79
    triciab79 Posts: 1,713 Member
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    I dont understand the rating system. Why does everyone have to be assigned a number?

    Would you prefer we refer to each other as butt ugly, mildly ugly, not bad, passable, average, somewhat cute, cute, pretty/handsome, hot, and smoking freakin hot. Still 10 spots

    Maybe I'm getting old but I dont remember the numbers when I was still dating. We either found someone attractive or we didnt. There wasn't a number assigned to them.
    WOW I do sound old!!

    hmm I don't remember a time when there wasn't a number system. I have been hearing guys refer to some girls as perfect 10s my whole life.
  • mikegl1
    mikegl1 Posts: 238 Member
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    Id like to know this but from a guys perspective. My best friend in the world is average looking, A drummer, 27 years old and most importantly the nicest man bar my hubby i know. If i were single id marry him. He doesnt seem to be able to get any girls and even when he does they cheat on him.

    He recently dated a girl for over a year who to be honest was rough as but she still cheated on him, whats that all about? x

    I am sure I will not be the only one to reply to this but it is the nice guy thing..... Nice guys appear weak, women seem to get bored with them quickly, and/or they don't have that "excitement" factor that women are looking for. I find a few, very few women actually know what to do with a nice guy. For me - that was me, the nice guy. I am an average looking guy and nice. The hidden truth is that I am also a very good fighter. But that doesn't make me macho or a bully just someone who can take care of themselves if needed. But in the rare times I had to defend myself my circle of "friends" grew exponentially because all of a sudden this "nice guy" became interesting and exciting.
    My $0.01. Oh and as a note: It took until my late 30s to have women be mature enough to value me as the nice guy. So "my time" to be attractive to women came around then.
  • disdatdude
    disdatdude Posts: 118
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    Rating systems are only based on appearance. One person could favor a body and another person might favor a face. Basically, my 8 could be another man's 5 and vice versa.

    I think, not in an attacking way, that women are way more critical about physical looks then men are. They are even critical of each other. A woman's requires a certain height, certain build, certain hair color, certain hair style and all these other things. A woman will cut you off of the list because of what her friends says or because she can't wear a pair of stilletoes because she will be taller.

    Men have a more "blanketed" approach. It comes down to - Is she "doable" or not? It's rare to say no because she is too short, too tall, wrong hair color, my friends don't like her. Us guys don't give a "bleep" about that. We're men - LOL. Is she doable or not?

    Doable can change easily - Will I be made fun of?, if I'm drunk?, will it cost me?, will it be 1 time?, etc. Relationshipwise it can take a completely different turn. Some women not initially considered to make the cut can easily transition into GF/Relationship material after her personality is evaluated. To be relationship material the woman has to be totally DOABLE plus have a decent personality. For example, a guy is a boob man, but he meets a hot chick who happens to have so little breast a training bra hangs off. Enter the great personality and next thing you know...he's in love :love: OK, maybe not that forgiving, but you get my drift :wink:

    Personality is not configured into the initial rating system and there is no real way to to have more than one person rate that unless they are both dating or have dated that person.

    Doable to a woman (in regards to if a guy makes the cut) is a completely different animal. A good looking, dumb broke guy can be relationship material and so can an ugly or overweight or old or "whatever turns you off" guy with a big enough wallet. Most men can't be swayed with money. Men have their limits.

    I always say, "Men have 'working parts' and it's hard to become stimulated if they are completely turned off" (I know there are quite a few working men that are thankful for blue and gold pills:laugh: )...Women have an "Easy Button"....they're like, "Yeah, I can do that" - LOL.
  • icandowhateveriputmymindto
    icandowhateveriputmymindto Posts: 602 Member
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    I know EXACTLY what you're talking about. But then again, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, what looks beautiful to me may look very displeasing to another.
  • disdatdude
    disdatdude Posts: 118
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    BTW, how is it humanly possible to even rate a 3? Out of courtesy I wouldn't even let a woman know that she was under a 7 :flowerforyou: (and I rarely rate a woman an 8).

    At that point, any guy should just keep changing the subject on her. Who would say, "Well,_____, you're really only a 3. You shouldn't be setting your sights so high" - haha. You call me a 3...I'm letting you know those are fighting words :explode:

    I mean, since middle school a 6 outta 10 was a D and 7 was average. A freakin' 3!?!? Matrix throat chop for you - LOL. You rate lower than a failure in the looks department - CTFU
  • angelams1019
    angelams1019 Posts: 1,102 Member
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    Rating systems are only based on appearance. One person could favor a body and another person might favor a face. Basically, my 8 could be another man's 5 and vice versa.

    I think, not in an attacking way, that women are way more critical about physical looks then men are. They are even critical of each other. A woman's requires a certain height, certain build, certain hair color, certain hair style and all these other things. A woman will cut you off of the list because of what her friends says or because she can't wear a pair of stilletoes because she will be taller.

    Men have a more "blanketed" approach. It comes down to - Is she "doable" or not? It's rare to say no because she is too short, too tall, wrong hair color, my friends don't like her. Us guys don't give a "bleep" about that. We're men - LOL. Is she doable or not?

    Doable can change easily - Will I be made fun of?, if I'm drunk?, will it cost me?, will it be 1 time?, etc. Relationshipwise it can take a completely different turn. Some women not initially considered to make the cut can easily transition into GF/Relationship material after her personality is evaluated. To be relationship material the woman has to be totally DOABLE plus have a decent personality. For example, a guy is a boob man, but he meets a hot chick who happens to have so little breast a training bra hangs off. Enter the great personality and next thing you know...he's in love :love: OK, maybe not that forgiving, but you get my drift :wink:

    Personality is not configured into the initial rating system and there is no real way to to have more than one person rate that unless they are both dating or have dated that person.

    Doable to a woman (in regards to if a guy makes the cut) is a completely different animal. A good looking, dumb broke guy can be relationship material and so can an ugly or overweight or old or "whatever turns you off" guy with a big enough wallet. Most men can't be swayed with money. Men have their limits.

    I always say, "Men have 'working parts' and it's hard to become stimulated if they are completely turned off" (I know there are quite a few working men that are thankful for blue and gold pills:laugh: )...Women have an "Easy Button"....they're like, "Yeah, I can do that" - LOL.

    WHAAAAAT?! :laugh:

    This "Easy Button" mentality is exactly why a lot of you guys don't know how to put it down and why us women always complain about you. If less guys had the "easy button" mentality we wouldn't be faking it half the time :wink:
  • angelams1019
    angelams1019 Posts: 1,102 Member
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    And lets be real....Most guys' "working parts" aren't very selective in what gets them "working".....This is definitely NOT the case with our so called "easy button"

    Your "working parts" are like a honda- Pretty much anyone can work on them and get the job done.

    Our "easy button" is like a Ferrari. We need a specialist that knows what they're doing. Anything less and its a fail.
  • thoseblueeyes
    thoseblueeyes Posts: 812 Member
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    your 3 might be someones 10 so don't judge people...
  • disdatdude
    disdatdude Posts: 118
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    Nah, Hondas are known for their consistently good performance and reliability. I'm pretty sure that most men have malfunctioned in their lives :wink: If not, you ladies wouldn't have a reason for complaining and bad mouthing men:laugh:
  • disdatdude
    disdatdude Posts: 118
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    There IS a requirement for a lady to enjoy herself, but not quite that much needed in order to "participate."

    That's exactly why the "Indecent Proposal" scenario might not work for a guy and, sometimes, it wouldn't be for lack of trying.
  • Alohathin
    Alohathin Posts: 360 Member
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    FWIW, I'd rather have a 6 or 7 than a 9 or 10. It may be a stereotype, but most nines and tens are lacking in either personality (as per my preferences) or intelligence or both, in my experience. Naturally, there are exceptions, but regardless I tyically find "cute" much more attractive than "hot."

    Unfortunately, as a 3, I'm still overshooting, I suppose. ;)

    But as others have mentioned in this thread, the scale is very subjective. I have been very attracted to women who most men might consider a 4 or 5, and I have had very little attraction to some "standard" eights or nines.

    That said, women are not entirely immune to this phenomenon, either. I have been both fat and thin in my adult life, and the difference in attention from women is like night and day.
  • Matt_Wild
    Matt_Wild Posts: 2,673 Member
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    No need for numbers.

    People just find attractive what they find attractive. Simple as that really.
  • Chadomaniac
    Chadomaniac Posts: 1,785 Member
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    No need for numbers.

    People just find attractive what they find attractive. Simple as that really.
    exactly man , my view of a 10/10 girl may be 5/10 for u ... we all have or preferances
  • bouchienet
    bouchienet Posts: 114 Member
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    Who cares about numbers, saying that I married someone above my league????
  • Princess_Sameen
    Princess_Sameen Posts: 290 Member
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    Do you girls know what I'm talking about or is this just me?

    I hope the girls do because I have no clue.

    Ranking human beings like that by number is degrading in my opinion. There are no leagues. There is no objective standard of beauty where some people are 3s or 6s or 10s or whatever. That is just advertisers trying to brainwash you.

    There are only adults, attraction and differing levels of maturity.


    I am a girl! and I have no idea what they are going on about
  • Synapze
    Synapze Posts: 499
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    Im a 3 who married a 10 and now only allowed to socialise with 2s unless their a male workmate who's at least an 8.
  • jayche
    jayche Posts: 1,128 Member
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    btw, I AM that "3" guy who have dated girl who to me were perfect 10. You know my secret? I don't rate them like they're my USDA approved meat...
    But you just did...

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