Guys that are a 3 trying to be with girls that are an 8...
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"Rating systems" are subjective and totally based on the individual viewers preferences. Pointless thread is pointless.
PS.) Someone isn't a true "10" imo unless they have a bangin' personality and mind behind the bod.
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There is a difference between good looking and attractive, perhaps those who score a 3 on looks are a 9 or 10 on personality/talent/intelligence. I thought once the teenage years were gone most people looked further than appearance, but I guess not...0
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On the nice guy thing , here's what I don't get...
Women say they want a nice guy.
They say the nice guy is boring.
So they date a not nice guy. Which is exciting and dangerous.
The not nice guy is, surprisingly, not nice to them and maybe even really dangerous as in abusive.
They complain and say they just wish they could meet a nice guy.
They meet a nice guy who is interested in them but they knock him back as he's boring.
They eventually meet another exciting and dangerous guy who is not nice and now with a new guy at the ready finally leave the not nice guy. And date the new not nice guy.
Who is not nice to them and they moan about it.
Eventually they hit their mid 30s, panic and worry that they're never gonna have kids and settle down.
Eventually find some nice guy they aren't really into and tell him how many buff guys they've dated and how he's not normally their type. He then either dumps her *kitten* (and she moans to her friends that all men are pigs) or they both live unhappily ever after.
With a few exceptions, this sums women up for me.
So frustrating I don't even bother anymore and have absolutely zero sympathy for someone being treated badly...0 -
without reading everybody else's replies, this problem runs both ways. It's frustrating when i'm not exactly Channing Tatum (sic?) or Brad Pitt in Fight Club hot and i get passed over and those guys end up being d-bags who do nothing but mistreat women, cheat on them, and generally don't G-A-F. But, in the words of Ol' Blue Eyes, that's life! :drinker:0
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On the nice guy thing , here's what I don't get...
Women say they want a nice guy.
They say the nice guy is boring.
So they date a not nice guy. Which is exciting and dangerous.
The not nice guy is, surprisingly, not nice to them and maybe even really dangerous as in abusive.
They complain and say they just wish they could meet a nice guy.
They meet a nice guy who is interested in them but they knock him back as he's boring.
They eventually meet another exciting and dangerous guy who is not nice and now with a new guy at the ready finally leave the not nice guy. And date the new not nice guy.
Who is not nice to them and they moan about it.
Eventually they hit their mid 30s, panic and worry that they're never gonna have kids and settle down.
Eventually find some nice guy they aren't really into and tell him how many buff guys they've dated and how he's not normally their type. He then either dumps her *kitten* (and she moans to her friends that all men are pigs) or they both live unhappily ever after.
With a few exceptions, this sums women up for me.
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...sounds 'bout right.0 -
I have to disagree with that quote you just said you didn't marry above your league, stop putting yourself down, and I disagree with the topic too I think if there's a mutual attraction then anyone's for the taking whether your young, old, fat, thin, ugly or beautiful and only superficial people would think otherwise after all isn't it the person inside that counts moreWho cares about numbers, saying that I married someone above my league????0 -
I still haven't found someone i have wanted to touch more than myself.0
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HahahahahahahahahahahahahaI still haven't found someone i have wanted to touch more than myself.0 -
Doesn't it depend on what you go by , surely there are people out there whose looks give them a 3 but their personality makes them a 10 and conversely you can get people who ( to you ) are absolutely the best thing ever looks wise ( so a 10 ) but never have anything interesting to say etc..
I'll get my coat...0 -
I have found a lot that make me want to touch more than myself.
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I always dated up. A lot to say about personality and making girls laugh.0
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The ugliest dude can get the hottest chick as long as he's funny lol!!! It's the way of the world.. Although I will admit I'm a girl and I'm pretty shallow/blunt when it comes to looks lol O.o
There's definately a double standard though in society... It's okay for a guy to want a hottie but not a girl? .. Anyways brush those guys off and don't hold out for a number.. Hold out for whoever fits your mold!!
you'll have much better luck meeting guys elsewhere not on dating sites where it's some sort of competition!!0 -
I always dated up. A lot to say about personality and making girls laugh.
So true!! If you can make a girl laugh.. you're pretty much in!0 -
haha .. agreedSome guys are dilholes.0 -
My 3 year old doesn't go above a 5, I think 8 year olds intimidate him in that way. At the same time he certainly flirts with the older ladies (teenagers and older) so maybe I should be concerned about this.
Oh, that's not what were talking about? We're being disparaging about the decision of adults? Good to know.0 -
I love Steve Buscemi
Agreed!0 -
I have felt exactly the same way. I have always had low self esteem. Pretty much because of my weight and feeling rejected by others. I was not thin enough (even when I was), I was not pretty enough... Unfortunately, it took me till I was over 40, to realize
1 simple thing. I have been living all these years worrying if I was good enough. Would that guy like ME? Well, you know what?
Who cares! I am pretty, I have a lot to offer someone and I AM good enough. I will find someone who is WORTHY OF ME!
Treat me they way I DESERVE. Not the other way around. If someone doesn't like me for exactly who I am, get stepin, baby!0 -
I think this is a terrible post. You may think they are a 3, but they think much more of themselves. You think they are a 3 by looks but there is so much more to a person. They may be an 8, 9 or 10 with their personality. I think your post seems very shallow and sad. I would suggest that you work on feeling better about yourself as a whole and look at others the same way.
I think it is great that a person think more of themselves so they will hold themselves to a higher standard rather than settle with whatever because they feel like a 3...like you categorize them. Be frustrated if you want, but you seem to be in a very shallow pool that no one want to be in. Enjoy. I hope your outlook changes.0 -
Oh honey, why did you even post this? it's so incredibly shallow. stop judging people. beauty comes from within.
When I read your post, I thought it must have been written by a kid in high school, and then I saw that you are 27. :frown:
Hopefully one day you will learn that there are more important things than how someone look on the outside, and you will fall in love with their character, and who they are at their very core.0 -
Beauty is internal and external. Lets not fool ourselves.0
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It's the confidence thing.I love Steve Buscemi
me too, guy has something ( strangley) attractive about him!
My husband and I both think we married up. It has worked for us for 20 years.0 -
I would say one whom rates another human in my view are not worthwhile knowing I believe if you have learned to love yourself in your skin in a non vain way of course then you will learn you don't need the approval of a man or women or there rates in life to be happy and by doing so you will stop noticing the wasters of this life and will start to see others it's normal tho for ones self to aim higher and yes usually men are more vocal with there choice of women but women may not say it at the same level but still aim higher we live in a vain world there is more to someone then a number there is more to someone then just looks I say stop worrying about others and start to learn to love yourself then and only then will you be able to be loved by another
Dude Punctuation, it is a beautiful thing.0 -
If a guy likes someone, she will be an 11 no matter what she looks like.0
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Seems to me that 90% of women are 10's. I'm happy to find a lady that puts up with my sorry *kitten*. lol0
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Yep. Men are weird in this respect...where they seem to have this sense of entitlement to date whichever woman they want regardless of how much more attractive she is. And the superiority over women. Ugh.0
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Well said! And this is so true!! I'm not one who rates myself or others but everything to me is based on that persons actions alone... At the end of the day you do have to be happy and love yourself before anyone else can.0
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I would say one whom rates another human in my view are not worthwhile knowing I believe if you have learned to love yourself in your skin in a non vain way of course then you will learn you don't need the approval of a man or women or there rates in life to be happy and by doing so you will stop noticing the wasters of this life and will start to see others it's normal tho for ones self to aim higher and yes usually men are more vocal with there choice of women but women may not say it at the same level but still aim higher we live in a vain world there is more to someone then a number there is more to someone then just looks I say stop worrying about others and start to learn to love yourself then and only then will you be able to be loved by another
Dude Punctuation, it is a beautiful thing.
My thoughts exactly.0 -
What you consider a 3, may be a 10 in someone else's eyes. Why are you so worried about looks? Aren't the heart and personality more important? If you truly fall in love, the person will be a 10 in your eyes no matter what. Why judge a book by its cover? You seem kinda shallow. Shallowness never equals happiness.0
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Because men have a strange idea about what they bring to the table versus what a potential partner brings to the table. In the past I had a man in the bar tear my physical appearance apart before he ever even offered to buy me a drink. Mind you, he was missing some front teeth, bald, seriously overweight and wearing something that resembled pajamas.
He said to me, "Wow, you've got some real potential. If you worked out for a few weeks and dropped 10-20 pounds you could be a real hottie."
I asked him if he could recommend his personal trainer, then walked away.0 -
To the original poster,
There are a lot of good thoughts expressed here and then there's a lot of *kitten*. You'll have to filter out what is relevant to you.
My thoughts... let each person decide for themselves what it is they want in a partner. If they are able to get that, kuddos to them. They're living their dreams out.
I suggest that you put away your judgement of men and continue being fun, friendly, sweet, gracious, caring, loving, and thoughtful. You never know, the man of your dreams might just be a smile away.0
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