STOP IT WITH THE FOOD PUSHING!!!

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  • prettymorbidity
    prettymorbidity Posts: 138 Member
    had a girlfriend be like that all the time. she'd said "here have some cake!" and id say "no thank you" and shed say, " oh but it is sooooo good cmon just try it " and again id say "no, thank you" and she shoves a piece in my face and says "come on, one little bite won't hurt! " and i smacked it away and it hit her in the face covering her in icing! hahahaha! she said "WHAT THE H*LL WAS THAT FOR!" ......and i said, "well you didn't understood the first 2 times i said no so i thought i would be a little more clear!" lol i can be a b*tch to those ppl really easy. they don't understand ! once i start eating i cant stop! SO YES ONE LITTLE PIECE DOES HURT! .....im sure there are alot more tactful ways to say no and be clear. but i thought that situation was hilarious. she deserved it i believe for trying to force me to eat cake when i said NO ..
  • RhonndaJ
    RhonndaJ Posts: 1,615 Member
    Wouldn't it be easier just to presume the friend is being generous and thank her for the offer but decline than to get frustrated over her 'food pushing'?
  • katscoots
    katscoots Posts: 255 Member
    No, thank you and just walk away.
  • prettymorbidity
    prettymorbidity Posts: 138 Member
    I tend to be a smartass, so my responses tend to be shocking but they reduce the pushing phenomenon ... the last time a co-worker asked me if I wanted a donut, I said "No, would you like to smoke some crack" ... it stunned her but she hasn't done it since.

    ^ yessssssssssssss that is awesome! i love being facetious and saracstic lol!
  • LisaMia66
    LisaMia66 Posts: 45
    She's offering them to you because she wants you to cosign her choice to eat 'junk' food, undoubtedly subconsciously. She feels worse about her own choice because you, who is choosing to eat healthy, is saying 'No'. It's pretty simple psychology, actually. Most people's motivations can be traced back to their own feelings about themselves for situations like this- it has nothing to do with you, really.
    This!
    My suggestion: Bring some celery and carrot sticks to work with you tomorrow. Keep offering her some over and over again. Hopefully she'll get the message. Good luck! And keep staying strong!
  • LiftAllThePizzas
    LiftAllThePizzas Posts: 17,857 Member
    I experienced the same thing, with a coworker. I said "no, thank you." politely and that was not enough. Finally I said, "Sure! Thank you!" Took the ugly nasty pastry and threw it in the trash.

    SOLVED.

    Later she asked me how it tasted and I told her I threw it away. She couldn't believe it, but she's never offered me her nasty food again.
    Awww man! I thought you meant you threw it away like in one smooth motion, from her hand->your hand->garbage with a slam dunk as she watched. And then give her a big sincere "thanks!" as you're swiping your hands off. :laugh:
  • Mexicanbigfoot
    Mexicanbigfoot Posts: 520 Member
    My husband is also a food pusher, big time. He wants to do whatever it takes to make me happy and I love food. You just have to keep saying "no" and stay true to yourself :)
  • loobz12
    loobz12 Posts: 21
    Good for you hun I know a few people like that u have to sit your friend down and tell her eyes making you very unhappy by what she's doing. Ask her if she'd rather have you fat and miserable or slim and happy. Good luck xx
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    SINCE you've already all told her about it, she's just being nasty now or needs a stonger stance. The next time she offers you food, accept it sweetly and while still talking to her...walk over to the trash and toss it in the garbage. She will be pissed and say something and you just repeat whatever it is you told her when you asked her to stop food pushing. She'll be mad for a minute but isn't going to end the friendship over a wasted pecan roll. And hopefully this will make such an impression she will never offer again.
  • princesskellie60
    princesskellie60 Posts: 11 Member
    My husband, who I love so much. Was my biggest enemy, he would be gone on the road for weeks then come home and want spaghetti, pizza w/ everything, large meals and to go to all you can eat buffets. I would do well for a day or so then it would be like the eating is ON and it would be like a race to eat as much as him. This summer I made a hard decision and just talked to him about it and how it was hard and I felt like he, not on purpose, would sabatoge me. I could see how hurt he was and it killed me to see it, but he finally understood my struggle. I'm not saying you can have a conversation like this with a co worker, but you need to put it out there that it's not tolerated and unkind to continue, and BE STRONG, those people are everywhere.
  • smaihlee
    smaihlee Posts: 171 Member
    Just break up then

    Kick her in the taco.

    lol.
  • mommamisty823
    mommamisty823 Posts: 99
    a couple of my coworkers are and DH's family. I have been diagnosed with gestational diabetes about 2 weeks ago (I found out from a phone call at work and freaked out....so my co workers know). And a few of them can't stop offering md junk food, donuts, cupcakes, cookies, mixed coffee drinks etc. Drives me crazy, most of the time I say "No thank you" but when they start with the "Oh, it won't hurt." it starts to get to me.
  • imthejenjen
    imthejenjen Posts: 265 Member
    I smell an 'ABC afterschool special' here...

    <script>

    <skinny girl walks around corner... opens one side of trenchcoat...> "Pssst! Wanna honey bun?"

    <...switches to coat's other side...> "...How 'bout some Skittles? Got dem Skittles right here!"

    438891-Royalty-Free-RF-Clip-Art-Illustration-Of-A-Cartoon-Boss-Sitting-At-His-Desk-With-A-No-Sign.jpg

    LMFAO!! :laugh: :laugh:
  • imthejenjen
    imthejenjen Posts: 265 Member
    SINCE you've already all told her about it, she's just being nasty now or needs a stonger stance. The next time she offers you food, accept it sweetly and while still talking to her...walk over to the trash and toss it in the garbage. She will be pissed and say something and you just repeat whatever it is you told her when you asked her to stop food pushing. She'll be mad for a minute but isn't going to end the friendship over a wasted pecan roll. And hopefully this will make such an impression she will never offer again.

    lol. gotta love the passive aggressive ;]
  • ThriftyChica12
    ThriftyChica12 Posts: 373 Member
    I usually just say "No thank you." It really works wonders.

    this is my strategy as well! and i always think to myself that i break down the phrase like this:

    "no (honoring myself) + thank you (honoring the other person, but while keeping myself a priority)"

    when looked at this way, it becomes an almost spiritual practice. it is simple, firm, kind (to ME and others), and directs attention AWAY from food
  • Brianna72994
    Brianna72994 Posts: 887
    My mother is like this. She's always buying junk food. Yesterday she bought a container of mini chocolate cupcakes (I only ate one). It gets annoying, I need to develop a stronger will power.


    PS what's a pecan roll?
  • tndejong
    tndejong Posts: 463
    my sister is like this. one minute she is trying to lose weight. will exercise with me like crazy. but then she is eating fast food every night for dinner and drinking full calorie monsters. in your case, i think she uses you to settle her conscious when she eats these foods. kinda like a if she does it, i can thing. you either need to brush it off or make a bold statement that your trying to lose weight and to stop.
  • LiftAllThePizzas
    LiftAllThePizzas Posts: 17,857 Member
    Another way to stop them in their tracks, ask them what's in it. Like a list of ingredients. Then ask about each ingredient and keep digging for more and more detail until they give up. Take it to the absurd if necessary. Water? Is that tap water, distilled water, purified water, mountain spring water, organic non-GMO cage-free water?

    Don't ever be satisfied with their description of the ingredient, keep digging further. So is that heavy water? What's the protium/deuterium/tritium ratio? ...
  • Eightcosmo
    Eightcosmo Posts: 4
    Lol, sounds like a couple of my co workers. I solved the problem. I started making 2 and 3 of my healthy lunches and offering them to my co workers. Lentel salads, Spaghetti squash dish, my 10 almonds a day, fresh steel oats for breakie with blueberries and strawberries, daily carrot cake yogurt ( carborator) 6 bean dish, veggie chili just to name a few yummies. After a few months I had both of them eating what I do and they enjoy my foods now. I can now saw "I have them eating out of my hand" literally, lol.
    Good Luck and stay positive. Your health is about you and only you. Be kind to yourself, you deserve it!! :wink:
  • cheshire1865
    cheshire1865 Posts: 71
    My friend at work does this and because I adore her dearly, I don't want to hurt her feelings. I have taken to saying "thanks honey but I have my snacks all prepared." and show her my fruit. Sometimes she tries to give me packets of crisps and stuff so I have a packet "on hand" as my decoy pack. I show her that and go "I'm good thanks, got a pack already here." I think I've had the same packet for the last month lol!
  • MacMadame
    MacMadame Posts: 1,893 Member
    sometimes I wonder if it's a secret/subconscious plot to keep me fat.
    I'd be surprised if it's that. I think it's that they want to eat this stuff but feel they can't so they offer it to other people and somehow other people eating it meets a bit of their own need to eat it. IOW, they are using other people as their eating surrogates.

    It's kind of like when a reformed alcoholic pushes other people to drink....
  • CarmenSRT
    CarmenSRT Posts: 843 Member
    My mother is like this. She's always buying junk food. Yesterday she bought a container of mini chocolate cupcakes (I only ate one). It gets annoying, I need to develop a stronger will power.


    PS what's a pecan roll?

    Picture a tiny cinnamon roll with pecan bits. "Tis delicious evil sticky badness. On the plus side they're usually small, about 100 calories each. :happy:
  • sissiluv
    sissiluv Posts: 2,205 Member
    I'll admit it-I do this. A LOT. I was brought up with the mentality that I should never ever ever eat in front of a person who didn't have food, and if I had to then I should share and if I didn't, I was an aweful evil person. Probably came out of being low-income in a low-income neighbourhood for most of my life. Sharing really is caring!

    It's bugged my friends...way I see it, they're perfectly free to take it home and save it for later. : P And if they really can't stand me doing it then they can tell me and I'll do my best to refrain, but I make no promises.
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,990 Member
    I just need to vent for a second here. I have a friend at work (skinny, of course) who has seriously horrible eating habits and is one of the most weight-obsessed people I've ever met. I love her but she drives me NUTS with the food pushing! We spent about 15 minutes during lunch talking about food and what I am trying to do to lose weight. An hour later, and she's IM'ing me to see if I want a pecan roll. Seriously?

    I and others have given her grief about the food pushing over the years, and she has acknowledged that she does this. Yet it simply will not stop. It is in her nature to be generous and share with her friends, but sometimes I wonder if it's a secret/subconscious plot to keep me fat. Thankfully my willpower has shifted a great deal over the years in terms of not eating junk food, but just dealing with the nuisance of a food pusher is enough to make me want to go down to the vending machine and go apesh*t on a pack of Reese's Cups!!

    Anyone else have one of these people in their life? How do you deal with it?
    A pecan roll doesn't make you fat. It's over consumption that does. Lots of people who are "skinny" eat whatever they want in most cases because they have an idea of how to balance their calories.
    Yeah, eating more whole foods and reducing high calorie foods help, but you can get overweight eating whole foods too.
    Easiest way IMO to stop it is, accept, take a bite, spit it out or count it in your daily intake, then let the rest sit out in the open. A person who sees someone "wasting" food eventually stops giving it to them.

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  • auroranflash
    auroranflash Posts: 3,569 Member
    SINCE you've already all told her about it, she's just being nasty now or needs a stonger stance. The next time she offers you food, accept it sweetly and while still talking to her...walk over to the trash and toss it in the garbage. She will be pissed and say something and you just repeat whatever it is you told her when you asked her to stop food pushing. She'll be mad for a minute but isn't going to end the friendship over a wasted pecan roll. And hopefully this will make such an impression she will never offer again.

    That is seriously rude. lol ... I have never had someone grab my hand and force my fingers around a muffin, donut, or brownie. A simple "No thanks" works great. If they keep on, "COME ON TRY ONE!" I'll still say no thanks or I'll just set it aside and decide if I really want it later. If not, I'll chunk it when they're not looking. I already have my foodstuffs planned for the day, so it's no big deal unless a pastry or sweet will really throw you off that bad, and then it's your issue, not theirs.
  • Amazon_Who
    Amazon_Who Posts: 1,092 Member
    My husband is a food pusher and I'm constantly telling him NO, but it gets exhausting, learn to have some respect for the person trying to lose weight.
    ^^THIS!^^

    Gotta stay strong. It is up to you not them.
  • BamBam125
    BamBam125 Posts: 229 Member
    It's more like this:

    Her: Hey, I have a box of doughnuts over here. Hot 'n' Now light was on!!! You want one?
    Me: No, thanks.

    30 minutes later
    Her: OMG these doughnuts are so good! Come get one!
    Me: I just had a yummy bowl of oatmeal and I'm not very hungry. Thanks for offering, though!

    30 minutes later
    Her: Only a couple of doughnuts left--better come get one before they're gone! Great with a big glass of chocolate milk!
    Me: Appreciate you thinking of me but I am really not a big doughnut eater.
    You might want to point out how many times she's asked. For example for #3

    "I appreciate you thinking of me, but I've already said 'no' twice because I'm trying very hard to avoid that sort of food. Please don't ask me to have a donut again today. Maybe some other time I'll have room for it in my calorie budget, just not today. "
  • Mildern
    Mildern Posts: 5
    I love it when I'm at the gym and I see a commercial for outback steakhouse or olive garden. Super annoying.
  • terijoestoes
    terijoestoes Posts: 205 Member
    Say no with what my family calls the "mom glare " the one that means back off or I'll bite you!!!!
  • smantha32
    smantha32 Posts: 6,990 Member
    had a girlfriend be like that all the time. she'd said "here have some cake!" and id say "no thank you" and shed say, " oh but it is sooooo good cmon just try it " and again id say "no, thank you" and she shoves a piece in my face and says "come on, one little bite won't hurt! " and i smacked it away and it hit her in the face covering her in icing! hahahaha! she said "WHAT THE H*LL WAS THAT FOR!" ......and i said, "well you didn't understood the first 2 times i said no so i thought i would be a little more clear!" lol i can be a b*tch to those ppl really easy. they don't understand ! once i start eating i cant stop! SO YES ONE LITTLE PIECE DOES HURT! .....im sure there are alot more tactful ways to say no and be clear. but i thought that situation was hilarious. she deserved it i believe for trying to force me to eat cake when i said NO ..

    EPIC. :flowerforyou:

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