Left Handed Compliment. Who's getting them....

It's a good thing you're losing weight, because you have such a pretty face!" ::Insert mental punch to the forehead here::

Also...

"You've lost 129lbs wow that's awesome, but OMG how much did you weigh BEFORE??"

Ugh... lately I've been disturbed by people saying things like "you better not lose any more weight!"

Excuse me, you don't even know how much I weigh. And... just because I'm still eating better and exercising does NOT mean that I'm trying to "lose more weight". Maybe I trying to maintain my weight loss or (gasp!) gain muscle.

I know people don't mean anything by it, but I still think it's rude. I wouldn't say "you better not gain any more weight" to anyone, would I??

I get this a lot too. They start by saying something nice like "wow you've lost a lot of weight." and then something like "you better be done, you don't want to be to skinny."

WTF people. I still weigh 230 pounds, give or take, and I'm hitting the weights to get rid of the left over fat and add on some muscle. I do believe it is straight up jealousy. Not that I look that great, but they wish they had the mind set to do it themselves.

RIGHT
I run damn near everyday and ive had relatives ask me if i was "addicted to exercise"!!

no. umm.. im still over 200 pounds. i think your concern is a little insane. when i sat on the couch and ate a whole bag of doritos for 10 freakin years nobody asked me nothing. now im 70 pounds down and running marathons people wanna talk.

TL;DR: Don't get butthurt because you misinterpreted someone's compliment.

To be honest, I don't think a lot of these comments are meant maliciously. The topic of weight is very touchy for a lot of people, and I think friends and family can feel awkward about the situation. They want to recognize your progress but don't know how to go about doing it. Think about it. Girls of any size are known to say "OMG I look/feel/am so fat!" and her friends will likely respond "No! You look great! You're perfect how you are." So if you are trying to be open about your goals with your friends by saying "I still want to lose another 15 lbs and gain some muscle" their response will be the same "No, you look great right now! You don't need to change at all!" I mean, how else would you respond? "Yeah, 15 lbs and some muscle would do you a lot of good. Get on it, chubster!"

Having used it myself in this context before, I believe "Make sure you don't get too skinny!" is a sign of concern. They may worry that you have an eating disorder or are doing it unhealthily, but don't want to confront you directly with it. The best thing is just to use time to prove you ARE healthy and safe and doing it for your health and wellness. When I was much heavier, I dreamed of weighing 110lbs (at 6'-yuck) and being a supermodel. Now that I have a little age and perspective, I am shooting for a healthy 170 with a healthy-athletic body fat percentage. What impression do you give off, even if you are shooting for a healthy goal? Instead of saying "Oh, I wish I was that skinny" I talk about my weight loss in terms of "I'm trying to run a 5k by my birthday and I'm trying to get my butt to look like Leila Ali's" I don't get the "don't get too thin" comments anymore because people understand that a number on the scale is not my focus.

And finally, the fact is, healthy people DO look better. I wasn't attractive at 270lbs. I couldn't do physical activities with my friends. My friends didn't choose to hang out with me because I looked good though, they hang out with me because they like my personality. I'm not offended at all if people tell me "You've lost weight! You look so good now!" It's 100% true. I look a lot better than I used to and am lot healthier. So I respond "Thank you, I feel great, too." They aren't saying I was any less of a person before.

People have asked if I got sick. I always assume their concern is genuine. Having a serious illness IS a big reason people lose weight quickly. I just explain to them that I was tired of feeling sick all the time before so I took steps to get healthier. In essence, with pre-diabetes, insulin resistance, and joint pain, I WAS sick. It just so happened the best treatment was weight-loss from exercise and a healthier, mindful diet.

I always feel weird when someone says 'oh you're so skinny now' or 'you don't need to worry about losing weight you're fine' especially when

1. i'm obviously still overweight, so it feels more like patronizing

2. they turn around and either make comments about theirselves or others who obviously weigh less than me ('good lord she looks awful in that shirt' or 'i'm so fat i'm hideous' - if thats the case, then what do you really say about me when i'm not around, ya know?

not that i really care what they think either way but, i just feel so akward when they start up with these kinds of comments...

I got the "Wow, did you lose weight?" to which I replied "Yeah, I did" the response

"Good, I didn't want to say anything cuz I thought you might be pregnant but wasn't sure"

WTF mind your business!!! I was shocked into silence.

When I lost 20 lbs., I had someone say "You're too skinny. You need to eat." Mother got on my case, and although she was trying to be positive, she would tell me things like, "You should be happy. You are thinner than I was at your age, than you came along and I never lost the weight." Wow. It's my fault your fat? I think not.

Wow! I guess I am lucky enough to be surrounded by wonderful, supportive people. I have gotten the occasional "don't get too skinny", "you're done losing, right" comments but I'm 5'4" and 188 pounds. Nope, not done losing. Another poster had it right on when they said that these comments mostly come from people that are jealous, not of our body, but of our mindset and the ability to take control of our lives.

^^ Me too I get a few "don't get scary skinny" But for the most part people tell me congrats or your looking good... most are just mad because you are a bad *kitten* and changed your life while they more than likely have trouble changing into clean socks.

"Why are you losing weight you look fine". I hate that one!!

Just say "I know I look fine, but I want to look FIIIIIINNEEE!"

My MIL hugged me and said in my ear," Wow! You are so small and your face is drawn now. You look old."

B%tchy

I don't have that problem...I am told I actually look younger.

"Why are you on a diet your not THAT big? " <<< umm is this a good thing ?? NOT !! & how do people know how i feel ? Im only 5'0 so 12-15lbs on this Short/small frame shows like 20 -30lbs !!

Isn't it telling that in America, if you lose weight people start thinking you're sick! Why else would someone's weight be decreasing instead of increasing?? Ha! Keep up the good work, myfitnesspal comrades!

My mom told me "Your face looks so much more like... "you"!
Jealous much? Whatever happened to a standard, "great job"?

After losing 100 pounds in seven months, a coworker said, "It's really great you are losing weight sooo slowly. That way you won't look drawn and haggard."

My stepdad said to my husband that I would just gain all my weight back anyway. Good thing he didn't say it to me. He'd be talking around a knuckle sandwich.

" Heard you had weight loss surgery, you look good..." I have never had surgery (not that there is anything wrong with that) Glad to know that people from high school are talking about me & someone decided that I couldn't possibly lost 60 lbs on my own and decides to tell everyone I had gastric bypass.

Guy at work asked me how much weight I had lost. I always feel uncomfortable answering this, but I'm about being honest, so I told him my number (48 lbs at the time). His response was to laugh and say, "wow if I lost that much weight, I'd be a skeleton."

RUDE!!!!!!!!!!!!