Food Police And Nasty Hurtful Comments

mklassy123
mklassy123 Posts: 153
in Motivation and Support
Just a vent really, but I don't understand why some people think they can be the food police. For some reason I can remember all food police and hurtful comments made to me over the years, they stick like glue. It's not just me, I see and hear about it all the time happening to others.

I try to be polite to "the food police" even though I don't want to be. Whether I'm nice back or not, it is still frustrating. The nasty comments are so hurtful. Every time the food police show up I remember past nasty comments. These are some examples.

There was a catered in lunch at work one day and I was getting some food. Some woman very loudly said, "Why is it that all the ones with the fat *kitten* are getting food right now?" People watch what's on your plate!

I was leaving a concert last year and I was next to a grown woman (probably late 40's to early 50's) who was mooing at someone! I kid you not! I gave her this mortified look, then she looked right at ME and started to moo some more! I was so shocked at the moment that I couldn't even say anything. It completely ruined my night, and I thought about non stop for weeks! I was so mad at myself for not calling her a *****.

One day someone in my building gave me a small cupcake. Being polite I took it, it was small. I got in my elevator, there was another woman who got in with me and she said to me, "Do you REALLY think you should be eating that?".

I ran into a neighbor of mine in the supermarket and she saw me put a bag of pretzels in my cart. She started screaming at me, I mean really screaming at me to where people stopped and looked. She told me I might as well just put the suction in my thighs and put the fat in them that way because that's what I'm doing to myself! I was mortified!!!!!!!!!!!

I swear I remember every nasty comment made to me over the years. Each time I am policed or someone makes a comment I seem to relive all the others and they hurt! Just a vent but I'm sure I'm not the only one here who has had this happen to them.
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  • Sweet_Potato
    Sweet_Potato Posts: 1,119 Member
    Are you sure there isn't something in the water where you live? That is some crazy behavior.
  • umachanxo
    umachanxo Posts: 926 Member
    It sounds like you are surrounded by very judgmental and rude people. People that live their lives like that - well, you really ought to feel sorry for them. I mean, how sad is it for an adult to live their life only concerning themselves with what others are eating and doing?

    Don't let it get to you.
  • Rachlmale
    Rachlmale Posts: 640 Member
    That's absolutely disgusting... I admire your courage for not flooring these people and calling them up on something they may feel insecure about. They aren't food police, they're a55holes.
  • PRMinx
    PRMinx Posts: 4,585 Member
    The best revenge in life is success. Use it as motivation to attain your goals.
  • zingaravh
    zingaravh Posts: 14
    That's ridiculous! It sounds like you're surrounded by some really horrible people :(

    Chin up honey, at least you know you're staying strong. :)
  • cubbies77
    cubbies77 Posts: 607 Member
    When someone pulls that crap with me, I look at them, smile, and say all wide-eyed, "Gosh, I bet it's exhausting being 100% perfect all the time. I feel bad for you." Then I turn around and ignore them while they sputter and freak out.
  • wikitbikit
    wikitbikit Posts: 518 Member
    I have fortunately never had this happen to me, but I've read about it a lot on this site. Nothing absolves a person from that kind of behavior, but you gotta wonder: What kind of family and friends did they grow up with to think that behaving like that is ok? It's probably how they were treated in one manner or another, and probably for a good long time.
  • TAMayorga
    TAMayorga Posts: 341 Member
    That's absolutely disgusting... I admire your courage for not flooring these people and calling them up on something they may feel insecure about. They aren't food police, they're a55holes.

    I wanted to say something wise and supportive, but I couldn't come up with anything better than this last sentence.
  • Southernb3lle
    Southernb3lle Posts: 862 Member
    The best revenge in life is success. Use it as motivation to attain your goals.

    ^^this
  • chooriyah
    chooriyah Posts: 469 Member
    Where do you live?????!!!!!! That's unbelievable.

    Edited: I don't mean that I don't believe you - I definitely do! But I think you should move elsewhere, because - trust me - the world is not thus everywhere.
  • cubbies77
    cubbies77 Posts: 607 Member
    double post - stupid site
  • FitGuyWillDoIt
    FitGuyWillDoIt Posts: 111 Member
    Food police need a punch in the face. Then they can focus on their broken noses instead of minding other people's business.
  • amy1612
    amy1612 Posts: 1,356 Member
    Are you sure there isn't something in the water where you live? That is some crazy behavior.

    This!! That is bats**t cray cray
  • losingweightatl
    losingweightatl Posts: 34
    If it was me I would have knocked them all out. I think during my fatness I built a defense against people saying rude comments. I usually keep a mean look on my face and no one bothers me.... Thinking about it now, I prob look like a psycho :(
  • SoDamnHungry
    SoDamnHungry Posts: 6,998 Member
    A simple "**** you, *kitten*" will do quite nicely in most of those situations.
  • cutchro
    cutchro Posts: 396 Member
    OMG I am sorry this has happened to you. These are angry people and make themselves feel better by bringing others down. Keep your chin up and keep working on your goals. Don't waste your time on others that don't deserve it!
  • jillmarie125
    jillmarie125 Posts: 418 Member
    The best revenge in life is success. Use it as motivation to attain your goals.

    Yes! Success is the best revenge!!!
  • cubbies77
    cubbies77 Posts: 607 Member
    The best revenge in life is success. Use it as motivation to attain your goals.

    ^^this

    Agreed. Now, when I feel stares or hear whispers, I just think to myself, "I've lost 52 pounds, jerk. Think whatever you want." It's very empowering. I don't feel nervous going out in public anymore.
  • Tilran
    Tilran Posts: 627 Member
    Are you sure there isn't something in the water where you live? That is some crazy behavior.

    This....I cant believe these stories are real.
  • sura987
    sura987 Posts: 30
    Yes, it's happened to me, too. More times then I care to remember. I can really relate to how you feel. For me, even worse then strangers, are the people I know. They will practically attack me in a social setting, ask me to my face infront of a crowd...why are you so fat? Why are you not doing something about yourself? Why are you eating that? It's like on purpose trying to embarrass me. I go out of my way to only drink water, and eat celery or other veggies, and then hide in a corner somewhere until it's over.
    It's miserable and it's totally affected my self-esteem/self-confidence and I get mad at myself for allowing it.
    I should never allow it, I should grow a pair and stand up to those bullies.
  • terri0527
    terri0527 Posts: 678 Member
    Are you sure there isn't something in the water where you live? That is some crazy behavior.

    This!! That is bats**t cray cray

    My thoughts exactly.
  • YoungDoc2B
    YoungDoc2B Posts: 1,593 Member
    In what city do you live? Remind me not to move there! WOW
  • tapdance66
    tapdance66 Posts: 29
    I agree with everyone else. I'm not sure you are surrounding yourself with the correct people - although some of it isn't your choice. If all that is going on at work, talk to human resources. There are laws against hostile work places and that sure sounds hostile to me.
    When I was little, I was terrified of dogs. My mom and dad explained that when you were afraid, dogs could sense it, Seems like rude people are the same way. I cannot imagine saying things like this to anyone at all. I might be able to excuse the mooing concertgoer as a drunk idiot, but I would never excuse the behavior that your co-workers and neighbors are exhibiting and I would encourage you to seek out new people to associate with.
    For me, I've always found the best response to any type of rudeness to be something like the following. First put on my sweetest smile, then say without a trace of sarcasm or rudeness, but just in the form of a polite lady (warning: this might take some practice. LOL!):
    "Thanks so much for your concern. My mom always taught me that polite manners and a good character were beyond reproach. I'm so glad I've been able to make her proud." I deliver that in a gentle tone and sometimes add an arm pat. This never fails to shut a grown adult up if for no other reason than they have no idea what to say when their rudeness has been pointed out so politely. That gives me a chance to say, "I hope your day gets only better from here!" and make my escape.
  • footiechick82
    footiechick82 Posts: 1,203 Member
    Wow... not sure if I would have been as nice and walked away :/

    Just smile and know you're on the right journey... it's not a 'diet' you need to follow, it's a lifestyle. Keep remembering that! Chin up
    :)
  • Woolymancifer
    Woolymancifer Posts: 4
    Those people are idiots... Don't let dumb, sad, rude people bring you down!
    If anything, turn it into motivation to kick *kitten* for yourself!
  • droneofvelvet
    droneofvelvet Posts: 290 Member
    Are these people perfect? I doubt it. They make these comments because they are insecure about themselves and it makes them feel better.

    I had a friend once a few years ago. He was always pointing out my weight, how fat I was, etc. At his birthday party he told me not so eat so much and even stared at me while I ate a piece of his birthday cake. He kept telling me to go to the gym. This was back when I was 140 lbs at 5'8".. a very average weight. Of course this bugs me and still does especially when I am 40 lbs heavier than that now. Needless to say we aren't friends anymore. Tell these people to shove it. I wish I did and I regret every opportunity I had that I didn't take to punch this guy in the face. LOL.
  • jr1985
    jr1985 Posts: 1,033 Member
    Sorry to hear that people are treating you like that... Honestly people need to mind their own business a lot more... not just with food comments, but just life in general... People feel like it is their personal responsibility to tell people what to eat, what to wear, how to raise their kids, will correct EVERY grammatical mistake someone else makes.

    I feel like people that think it their personal responsibility to tell other people how to live, unsolicited, clearly do not lead full enough lives themselves, so decide to pick apart what everyone else does.

    Take solace in the fact that on the whole, you probably live a much happier life than they do.
  • Mexicanbigfoot
    Mexicanbigfoot Posts: 520 Member
    I have also been a victim of bullying, both as a child and teenager and sadly, as an adult. It got so bad for me that I tried to take my own life over it. Here are some words of wisdom someone showed me, "If someone treats you like **** just remember that there is something wrong with them, not you. Normal people don't go around destroying other human beings" :heart: Good luck on your journey, you are a beautiful person and you don't need anyone to validate you :flowerforyou:
  • PrinnyBomb
    PrinnyBomb Posts: 196 Member
    I know what you mean, I'm surrounded by people like that. You're right they hurt so much. You think you've changed and nothing will bother you, then BOOM! floored by a moron. Try not to let them get to you, they're clearly idiots.I always think if you can't say anything nice, then don't bother!
  • blink1021
    blink1021 Posts: 1,115 Member
    That is crazy behavior I have never seen people act like that or to tell a stranger what they should or should not be eating. People really need to practice if you have nothing nice to say then keep your mouth shut.

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