Why are people so mean?!

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  • pronetocrash91
    pronetocrash91 Posts: 125 Member
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    Some of the responses in this thread say a lot. ''Because it is the internet'' is not a valid reason for being a jerk and/or bullying someone.

    If you have nothing nice to say, why say anything at all? Really not a hard concept to grasp.
  • KenosFeoh
    KenosFeoh Posts: 1,837 Member
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    There's an ignore option? Whoopee! There are certain screennames - maybe you know who you are - who will be giving me a lovely opportunity to use that function. I can't wait!

    Very honestly, I'm afraid to post questions in the community because I've seen the hatefulness. In fact, it drove me to delete my account last year, but I couldn't find as quick and efficient a way to log my food as here. So I came back.

    If I have concerns, I post it on my page so my friends can give me feedback. I don't have any mean friends.
  • quirkytizzy
    quirkytizzy Posts: 4,052 Member
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    People on the internet are always crying out about how people would NEVER act this way in real life.

    Which leads me to wonder, are those same people going around asking every mean person they meet face-to-face "Why are you so mean?!" Are these people acting the same way irl as they do here, continually upset and getting angry at the mean people they meet randomly on the street?

    It's such a bizarre thought to entertain.
  • Deedsie
    Deedsie Posts: 348 Member
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    People are not so mean, your tolerance level is low, but don't worry it is a common problem. To increase your tolerance, add humor or sarcastic asides to their posts while you read them. Or pretend they are being sarcastic or just teasing a friend. If that doesn't work, go run 6-10 miles and then it's hard for anything to bother you because you are a freaking rockstar.
  • meadow_sage
    meadow_sage Posts: 308 Member
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    I just keep wondering why people don't take advantage of the ignore button. If you don't like the way someone responds to posts, just hit that little triangle next to their username, select "ignore" and POOF, no more posts by that person. Easy, and no need for whiny "everyone is so mean to me" posts.

    See, you had me, up until the last sentence. Maybe there is a need. Maybe this post will help someone to think before they speak, or before they type. Yes, it's absolutely productive to ignore negativity but if someone feels compelled to stand up and make a call for kindness, that to can be productive. Asking for people to be kinder is not whining, it's conducive to growth in the human condition. My point is we are all trying to get fit and motivated to do so, so what is the point of being mean to others. We should be encouraging each other.

    I believe that people that are mean, are unhappy.
  • cmcollins001
    cmcollins001 Posts: 3,472 Member
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    Well, let's see, millions of people have access to the internet, everywhere, all the time so you have various moods, personalities, backgrounds, social experiences, levels of education, upbringing, various levels of communication, English not being the first language, social and economical levels, and about a million other various nuances that you don't know about.

    Let's go ahead and add that a lot of the "mean" people are simply disagreeing with some piece of information because it differs from what they feel passionate about whatever piece of information they hold dear to their hearts and passionate about their answers and experiences.

    AND...let's add that there are times where people are on each others friends lists and just bantering back and forth being "mean" to each other...most of the time to make a point which often gets lost.
  • perfectionisntme
    perfectionisntme Posts: 205 Member
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    I just keep wondering why people don't take advantage of the ignore button. If you don't like the way someone responds to posts, just hit that little triangle next to their username, select "ignore" and POOF, no more posts by that person. Easy, and no need for whiny "everyone is so mean to me" posts.

    YES!!!!!!!!!!!! I have quit MFP twice because people can be so rude, but those who are rude also have HUGE (I can't emphasize that enough) egos.
  • CoachJameyJ
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    Oh look Don Quixote, it's another windmill!!!!!!!

    “Where envy reigns virtue can't exist, and generosity doesn't go with meanness.”
  • downsizinghoss
    downsizinghoss Posts: 1,035 Member
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    All I got out of the last 5 pages was that there were panties involved and that there was going to be a fish fry somewhere.
  • ticklepocket
    ticklepocket Posts: 36 Member
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    I just keep wondering why people don't take advantage of the ignore button. If you don't like the way someone responds to posts, just hit that little triangle next to their username, select "ignore" and POOF, no more posts by that person. Easy, and no need for whiny "everyone is so mean to me" posts.

    Thank you SO MUCH for explaining this!

    I am relatively new and had no idea that this feature existed! This is so great. I cannot tell you how much I appreciate it that you took the time to explain this.

    :happy: :happy: :happy: :happy:
  • ScreamingUnicorn
    ScreamingUnicorn Posts: 83 Member
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    I also think some folks are unaware that when people post questions or responses (and yes, there is such a thing as a DUMB question, but I defend the rights of people who post them) are from REAL people that may be struggling a LOT... and that flippant responses and "mere" words can hurt. For some, this is their only source of support in something that is very personal... and it's a shame the meanies are inclined to shroud their callousness in "sarcasm" or "humor." Debate and arguement are not at risk - you can do both and still be polite.

    ^^Agreed^^
  • KenosFeoh
    KenosFeoh Posts: 1,837 Member
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    I just made someone disappear! I feel like a wizard.
  • BurtHuttz
    BurtHuttz Posts: 3,653 Member
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    See, you had me, up until the last sentence. Maybe there is a need. Maybe this post will help someone to think before they speak, or before they type. Yes, it's absolutely productive to ignore negativity but if someone feels compelled to stand up and make a call for kindness, that to can be productive. Asking for people to be kinder is not whining, it's conducive to growth in the human condition. My point is we are all trying to get fit and motivated to do so, so what is the point of being mean to others. We should be encouraging each other.

    I believe that people that are mean, are unhappy.

    No there is no point. There have been hundreds of threads posted on MFP complaining about meanness, usually by people who don't perceive sarcasm. Adding one more to the pile just makes the place a little meaner and nastier.

    Thanks, OP. Good luck on your fitness gurney.
  • Serah87
    Serah87 Posts: 5,481 Member
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    Agree with the op, that's one of the reasons I will NEVER post a question on here!!! :ohwell:
  • KANGOOJUMPS
    KANGOOJUMPS Posts: 6,472 Member
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    it is what it is, wean the bad ones out.
  • BurtHuttz
    BurtHuttz Posts: 3,653 Member
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    YES!!!!!!!!!!!! I have quit MFP twice because people can be so rude, but those who are rude also have HUGE (I can't emphasize that enough) egos.

    Okay, not trying to be mean here, but if someone is rude to you in real life, do you quit real life? If you're at a store and someone cuts in front of you in line, do you just walk out? I don't understand this at all.

    A better example, perhaps; you're in a store, and you shout randomly "Does anyone know how many calories is in this box of food?" and someone comes up, rolls their eyes, and points to the front of the box, and says "It's right there, on the front of the box, under the word 'calories'" are you outraged that they weren't polite enough when they helped you? Do you throw a tantrum?
  • pronetocrash91
    pronetocrash91 Posts: 125 Member
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    I just made someone disappear! I feel like a wizard.

    Haha, same here. It'll be nice to get rid of those who feel the need to be *kitten* for no reason. It'll make this experience much better.
  • Hellbent_Heidi
    Hellbent_Heidi Posts: 3,669 Member
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    No there is no point. There have been hundreds of threads posted on MFP complaining about meanness, usually by people who don't perceive sarcasm. Adding one more to the pile just makes the place a little meaner and nastier.
    Exactly...another post complaining about mean people is just asking for what? more mean comments. Also, if you're thinking about posting a helpful "here's the difference between lose and loose" or "muscle doesn't weigh more than fat" threads...don't bother...its been done (the horse is dead!)

    I do think there's a serious need for a sarcasm font though!
  • quirkytizzy
    quirkytizzy Posts: 4,052 Member
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    YES!!!!!!!!!!!! I have quit MFP twice because people can be so rude, but those who are rude also have HUGE (I can't emphasize that enough) egos.

    Okay, not trying to be mean here, but if someone is rude to you in real life, do you quit real life? If you're at a store and someone cuts in front of you in line, do you just walk out? I don't understand this at all.

    This is my question as well. How do these people respond IRL? If it's anything like they do here (usually while screaming "ONLY BULLIES ACT THIS WAY ON THE INTERNET!") I would be appalled. And feel extremely sorry for that person.
  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,876 Member
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