Would This Violate Girl Code?

fara180
fara180 Posts: 1,260 Member
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Hypothetically:

You are talking to a guy who you really like, but are worried that it may violate "girl code." This guy used to date a girl you are acquainted with. The girl is good friends with your sister, but she is not your friend and you don't talk. However, you met the guy when THEY were dating so you don't want to step on her toes seeing as she is close to a family member. Would you call it off in the name of girl code, or just do what you want seeing as she isn't your friend?

Thanks.
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  • Im_NotPerfect
    Im_NotPerfect Posts: 2,181 Member
    She's not YOUR friend. I say he's fair game....
  • dfquigley
    dfquigley Posts: 186
    Screw it. It's not your friend.
  • seed_of_wonder
    seed_of_wonder Posts: 202 Member
    i would continue seeing him
  • 17ChargerGirl17
    17ChargerGirl17 Posts: 441
    I agree. She isn't your friend so he's fair game.
  • tj1376
    tj1376 Posts: 1,402 Member
    Absolutely not. If she is not a really good friend of yours then "girl code" doesn't apply. And even if you did meet him while they were dating, you didn't know they wouldn't work out and you two would start dating so that should have no bearing on your decision.
  • melinda200208
    melinda200208 Posts: 525 Member
    I believe its fair game as well. She is not your friend. Follow your heart girl ;)
  • wikitbikit
    wikitbikit Posts: 518 Member
    Would it bug you if it were the other way around? Go with that.
  • The_New_Christina
    The_New_Christina Posts: 818 Member
    Screw HIM. It's not your friend.

    There I fixed it for you! :flowerforyou:
  • sillygoosie
    sillygoosie Posts: 1,109 Member
    As long as you don't run in to each other at recess, it's okay.
  • _crafty_
    _crafty_ Posts: 1,682 Member
    This guy *used* to date a girl you are acquainted with.
    she is *not your friend* and you don't talk.

    I fail to see the problem here. Go hit that *kitten*.
  • MightyDomo
    MightyDomo Posts: 1,265 Member
    Fair game, what is that person going to do... stop being friends with your family member just because your dating him? That would honestly be pathetic if she did.
  • sohesays
    sohesays Posts: 9 Member
    Screw it.

    Well played.
  • CanuckLove
    CanuckLove Posts: 673 Member
    Tap it!
  • CherokeeBabe
    CherokeeBabe Posts: 1,704 Member
    Never understood these codes. Are you hurting anyone? Are you cheating/helping someone cheat? No to both? Then go for it.
  • SlickFootAnna
    SlickFootAnna Posts: 611 Member
    All is fair in love and war.

    Except being a home wrecker.... then you just deserve to be tortured.
  • Goosiesnougs
    Goosiesnougs Posts: 420
    Not married.......fair game
  • fbmandy55
    fbmandy55 Posts: 5,263 Member
    Would it bug you if it were the other way around? Go with that.

    If it bugged me that an ex was dating someone I know OF, I would say I have issues.
  • n8dawg77
    n8dawg77 Posts: 216 Member
    The first rule of "girl code" is you never talk about the girl code! :$
  • fara180
    fara180 Posts: 1,260 Member
    All is fair in love and war.

    Except being a home wrecker.... then you just deserve to be tortured.

    nothing about war is fair
  • Liatush
    Liatush Posts: 627 Member
    If she were your friend, I'd say don't touch the merchandise, but this is an ex of your sister's friend, so you have the green light to go for it.
  • AJ_Pete
    AJ_Pete Posts: 863 Member
    Go get yours.
  • HealthWoke0ish
    HealthWoke0ish Posts: 2,078 Member
    I wasn't even aware there's a girl code. But re: the situation...I don't believe there's a one-size-fits-all rule. Instead, I'd review the facts of each situation and then make a judgement call. In this case, without additional information? I'd probably go for it. :)
  • SoViLicious
    SoViLicious Posts: 2,633 Member
    There is a girl code? I thought it was every chick for herself?
  • mrstravisjones
    mrstravisjones Posts: 104 Member
    The first rule of "girl code" is you never talk about the girl code! :$

    ha
  • DeeDel32
    DeeDel32 Posts: 542 Member
    Would it affect your relationship with your sister? That would be the only thing I'd take into consideration.
  • sobriquet84
    sobriquet84 Posts: 607 Member
    talk to your sister about it. if she's cool with it, then go for it. if she's iffy about it, convince her to be cool with it. if she's downright AH HELL NAH about it, then you may have a dilemma.
  • wikitbikit
    wikitbikit Posts: 518 Member
    If it bugged me that an ex was dating someone I know OF, I would say I have issues.
    True thing. But you can't expect someone else not to be crazy if you'd be crazy. :)
  • _DaniD_
    _DaniD_ Posts: 2,186 Member
    If you don't consider her a friend, you don't owe her anything. Do it.
  • red0801
    red0801 Posts: 283 Member
    How likely are you to take him to family gatherings?

    Are you ok with him hittin on her in the kitchen during the next wedding your @?

    If it's not a concern....then be up for the rebound.
  • sobriquet84
    sobriquet84 Posts: 607 Member
    Would it affect your relationship with your sister? That would be the only thing I'd take into consideration.

    bingo.

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