i dont understand some people here

Yes- Let's act like adults, shall we? Last time I checked, adults don't whine and cry and stomp their feet every time someone disagrees with them or makes a joke they don't like. Adults do not run around snitching on other people, trying to get them punished for some small offense. Adults don't call meetings to rant every time someone they know hurts their feelings. An adult should - when they see or hear something they don't like - be able to have the self control to ignore it and move onto something else.

Just because we're all here to lose weight/improve our fitness does not make us all compatible. Do you like everyone in real life? I sure as hell don't. So why would I like everyone on this site?

Aren't we all here for the same common goal? To lose weight, get fit, and to be healthy.

Support isn't always hand holding and agreeing with someone...sometimes support is tough love...it's not beating around the bush and trying to make everyone feel warm and fuzzy.

As a parent, one of the greatest strengths I can teach my daughters is self-confidence. If someone is mean to them at school, I talk to them about their own choices, their actions. The focus is not on the "mean" person. Why give negativity more attention than it deserves?

Obviously, if my kid was assaulted, I'm not going to ignore that. But it nearly every scenario, my kid has a choice to react. She has some control over how much something bothers her. We have many discussions about words, and the power words have vs. the power we give to words.

There are "mean" people in the world. Calling them out doesn't change that. The number of people on the Internet who have been called out in a forum, then changed their behavior based on being publicly called out, is a very small number. I propose that it is a waste of time and energy to even call them out. You will never find agreement among a group of people on what is direct, honest feedback and what is rude/mean/uncalled for/hurtful. Unless that group is a small and very like-minded. In other words, not an Internet forum open to the world.

Rather than name-calling and postulating why someone might be rude/mean/etc., yhy not focus on the people we claim to care about? If someone's feelings are hurt, and you want to help that person, isn't focusing on that person the right call? I like to encourage others to not take Internet comments seriously, try to learn from different view points, ignore name calling, etc. Isn't that ultimately more helpful than calling out faceless meanies?

Well everyone! Thanks for your input! I am actually doing an article for human behavior/reactions. I posted this because yes I think people can be rude but I also posted because I needed to see how many different personalities collide with this statement. You all showed very many different reactions to my post. A lot of negatives and some positives. Its a proven fact that the average human thinks more negatives than positives. Good luck to everyone in their weight loss journey!

I'm curious, as an OP that I'm surprised to see isn't flying off the handle (that often happens) and seems pretty patient in responding to people on here, what you found to be the negative and positive reactions. Were the people agreeing that, "Yes, there's so much negativity here!" the "average human who thinks more negatively?" Or were the people saying, "Yeah, it happens; we get over it" or "Actually, perception's a tricksy thing, and I don't think it's all that negative here" the negative ones?

I suppose that's all in ones opinion. Crazy how the mind works isn't it? Thanks for your reply!

Yes- Let's act like adults, shall we? Last time I checked, adults don't whine and cry and stomp their feet every time someone disagrees with them or makes a joke they don't like. Adults do not run around snitching on other people, trying to get them punished for some small offense. Adults don't call meetings to rant every time someone they know hurts their feelings. An adult should - when they see or hear something they don't like - be able to have the self control to ignore it and move onto something else.

Just because we're all here to lose weight/improve our fitness does not make us all compatible. Do you like everyone in real life? I sure as hell don't. So why would I like everyone on this site?

As a parent, one of the greatest strengths I can teach my daughters is self-confidence. If someone is mean to them at school, I talk to them about their own choices, their actions. The focus is not on the "mean" person. Why give negativity more attention than it deserves?

Obviously, if my kid was assaulted, I'm not going to ignore that. But in nearly every scenario, my kid has a choice to react. She has some control over how much something bothers her. We have many discussions about words, and the power words have vs. the power we give to words.

There are "mean" people in the world. Calling them out doesn't change that. The number of people on the Internet who have been called out in a forum, then changed their behavior based on being publicly called out, is a very small number. I propose that it is a waste of time and energy to even call them out. You will never find agreement among a group of people on what is direct, honest feedback and what is rude/mean/uncalled for/hurtful. Unless that group is small and very like-minded. In other words, not an Internet forum open to the world.

Rather than name-calling and postulating why someone might be rude/mean/etc., why not focus on the people we claim to care about? If someone's feelings are hurt, and you want to help that person, isn't focusing on that person the right call? I like to encourage others to not take Internet comments seriously, try to learn from different view points, ignore name calling, etc. Isn't that ultimately more helpful than calling out faceless meanies?

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As a parent, one of the greatest strengths I can teach my daughters is self-confidence. If someone is mean to them at school, I talk to them about their own choices, their actions. The focus is not on the "mean" person. Why give negativity more attention than it deserves?

Obviously, if my kid was assaulted, I'm not going to ignore that. But in nearly every scenario, my kid has a choice to react. She has some control over how much something bothers her. We have many discussions about words, and the power words have vs. the power we give to words.

There are "mean" people in the world. Calling them out doesn't change that. The number of people on the Internet who have been called out in a forum, then changed their behavior based on being publicly called out, is a very small number. I propose that it is a waste of time and energy to even call them out. You will never find agreement among a group of people on what is direct, honest feedback and what is rude/mean/uncalled for/hurtful. Unless that group is small and very like-minded. In other words, not an Internet forum open to the world.

Rather than name-calling and postulating why someone might be rude/mean/etc., why not focus on the people we claim to care about? If someone's feelings are hurt, and you want to help that person, isn't focusing on that person the right call? I like to encourage others to not take Internet comments seriously, try to learn from different view points, ignore name calling, etc. Isn't that ultimately more helpful than calling out faceless meanies?

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