No support at home :(

Did you explain that you aren't happy? Maybe he feels like you're doing it for him and not you. I bet if you communicate your feelings with him he will get on board. Good luck, darling

If I suggest something, whether its workout more, get better food, going on vacation my husband always seems negative.. He just builds things up in his mind to be no fun. With eating better, I just make what I normally would and modify my meal and use as skinny products as I can. He used to not like ground turkey, but I did half half with ground beef and then eventually he didn't notice the change to turkey and now says he can't tell a difference. I make tacos, casseroles, Chinese food, roasts, everything. I just make mine a little different. Last night we had roast beef over rice and green beans. I ate the roast, green beans and only a 1/4 cup of rice. Tonight we are having tacos. I am putting mine in lettuce instead of burrito shells. I make a huge salad when I make something like pizza, so I'll eat a huge plate of salad and only one slice of pizza. My husband and kids are eating better by far, but they still eat "normal" if that makes sense.

I have found that I can't change anyone for the better, I can change ME and hope they follow my lead.

I'm also a Marine and I'm here with you. Feel free to add. It came down to exactly what you said, feeling the way YOU want to feel. He will listen and understand when you say you aren't happy because of it. I've told my wife for years that it didn't "bother" me with how big she got, but I realized how much it was hurting her efforts. You have to make sure you express how feeling better will make his life feel a whole lot better. Reverse psychology dear!!!!

Also, don't go into Marine Corps training. I've been there and made that mistake. You are setting yourself up for failure. You haven't done that training in 2 years, and you can't just go right back to it. It's basically starting over. You have a basis of knowledge, but make sure you realign your thinking.

Sounds to me he DOES care
he says he loves you no matter your weight

So start without him
why is he holding you back?
Are you doing this for you or him?

Quit your whinning and get to the gym and figure out your goals.

He doesnt have to be on board the only one jumping ship is you.

May sound harsh but this is the bottom line. My husband did not support my weight loss at all. He likes his girls big. He would do things like bring home almond croissants that I love or take out from our favorite restaurant. It took me a while but I simply stopped eating it... instead of eating it because he would kind of guilt me out by saying he spent money on it or I didn't want him thinking because I was rejecting the food that was the same as rejecting him.

I got my butt out of bed in the morning, hours before he got up so that I could get my gym time in. If he made annoying statements (like.. you're not going to lose weight, you're always eating something -- which does seem like it since I eat 6 small meals a day) I just learned to ignore it and let it go in one ear out the other.

Focus and just do it it... if you are serious about losing weight then you will find a way to overcome obstacles (real or perceived).

If you want to change, do it for you. If it will make you feel better about yourself then he should support you and be proud that you want to change!

Oh, I so know the feeling!!
1st - Dont' take him the the grocery store with you! While I love the extra help doing the shopping, it ends up just costing us more in the end ('cause my hubby is like a big kid in a candy store with a credit card!) and we end up with a cart full of "junk". I still buy him his snack items he likes, so he's content with the contents of the pantry.

2nd - Figure out meals that you can both eat. Like tonight, we are having grilled pork steaks, mashed potatoes (I did some major modifications to this recipe!) and big salads. My family won't feel deprived and we're all eating healthy. And on those nights when my husband just insists on something like homemade mac & cheese (and no, he doesn't want a healthy version) I go ahead and make it and make myself a small baked potato. You CAN make food that is low cal, but still very tasteful!

3rd - Just tell him you're going to do this with or without his help. Tell him you understand that he loves you just the way you are, but you don't love yourself anymore. It took a long time for mine to get this concept into his head, he figured if he loved me the way I am, why didn't I?

4th - Maybe you should suggest you 2 start working out together? If he's lost muscle tone, maybe he's depressed about it but not saying anything? Maybe he doesn't want you to get all slim and tone again? Maybe he's worried you'll find someone else who is still tone? I could be way off the mark here, I don't know him, but it wouldn't hurt to ask him.

And all that said, if you'd like to add me as a friend, please feel free to do so. Even though I have alot of the "issues" under control with my hubby - there's still those times where he brings me home junk. Why?? I don't know.... I think it's just a way for him to show he loves me by bringing me a treat.

LOL Oh yall are awesome. I'm sorry, I did get a little whine there for sec. Yes he probably does think I am actually doing it for him, and thats probably why he keeps saying he loves me anyways. However, it isnt. I really do want to do it for me. No, I have not turned into a tofu nazi (I cant stand the stuff) and the food we do eat really isnt that bad. I think he just upset him that I refused to get Hamburger Helper. And to Vitaminddd.... I doubt he would be 150 soaking wet with cinderblocks for shoes!!! I know he doesnt get what it feels like to try to lose weight, because he is always complaining about trying to GAIN weight! I guess I just wish we could meet somewhere in the middle. Maybe shared lipo???? Take it out of me and stick it in him Just kidding!!!

Yeah, it sounds like y'all need a plan. There isn't any reason he can't have hamburger helper. It has a lot of sodium, but the fat content depends on what you put with it. He needs the pasta to get his calories up. More importantly, he needs to know that your getting healthy isn't going to send his life on a roller coaster and he still has some say in the parts of the household that are not your body.

As a former Marine, I'm pretty sure you understand the concept of "just do it." Don't let your feelings about the situation get in the way. Put those aside and just do it because it is important to you. Just do it.

Don't try to make all your changes at once. That is one of the big reasons so many people fail at this. They try to make a change overnight and set unreasonable expectations. Only make small changes that you can maintain long term. Those are much easier to accept and adapt to if you ease into them. Eventually they can lead to big changes but don't make those changes overnight.

You probably won't be able to get him to give up what he considers "normal" eating. You probably won't be able to stop him from keeping all the foods that tempt you in the house. This makes what you want to do more difficult but I'm sure you can do it.

You will make a lot of awe-full "healthy" recipes. Don't expect him to eat these things but encourage him to try them. Along the way you will discover things that you really like and hopefully things he likes. Keep trying different things.

Communication and having a plan are key to the success of this operation.