"you have such a pretty face"

Fine, your face is ugly.

I'd be pretty happy to have someone say something so nice to me. Not enough compliments going around the world these days. (Plus you do have a pretty face. What's wrong with that? Parade it around!)

I've heard it for YEARS! My mother actually says that to me just to piss me off (in a fun sort of way). But I do agree - it's better than fat AND ugly.

Butterface = Damn, she has a fine bod, but 'er face??

Don't think I am. The OP seemed to be bothered by it; that's why she posted. *shrug*

The OP was likely bothered by it because she has low self esteem and can't see the compliment for what it was.

People create problems for themselves. Do you know how many ugly chicks are dying to hear that?

Fine, your face is ugly.

Oh come on that's just rude and unnecessary. It's neither clever nor funny. You should really apologize. And reflect.

People say dumb stuff in an effort to be consoling. Ignore.

You could always whip around and say to the offender, "Pretty is only skin deep, but stupid and mean go to the bone."

Or you could be the stupid and mean one saying that to someone giving a genuine compliment.

As you will. But I think what the OP was getting at was the unspoken BUT that tends to follow "You have such a pretty face."

If something is unspoken, how do you know it even exists? People can misinterpret words, stares, gestures, etc. all the time. There are so many posts about people getting angry about intentions they are projecting on other people; that is dangerous business, to assume mind-reading capabilities that paint you as a victim and others as abusers.

This sort of, "I'm getting a compliment, but I'm viewing it differently" is almost always an issue of insecurity with the person hearing the compliment. When I was at my most warped during my eating disorder, I would take the comment of, "You look so skinny!" as "They're saying I *look* skinny, but I'm not actually; they're trying to make me feel better."; sound messed up? Yeah, so does "I hate hearing I have a pretty face."

I hate it when people tell me I have a great body... and say nothing else. Um, hello, I have a face!

knife.to.the.chest.

just got told this and reminded why i keep going to the gym. this is what keeps me going. i NEVER want to hear that again.

That's funny...I always like hearing that big, small and everything in between.

It is just a compliment. Take it. And ease up ;-)

While I understand it can be hard to hear it... it does means you are pretty.
And you're only going to get more and more compliments as you progress through your weight loss journey.

Take it from someone who doesn't have to wear face paint to scare kids on Halloween, you are ahead of the genetic curve.

People say dumb stuff in an effort to be consoling. Ignore.

You could always whip around and say to the offender, "Pretty is only skin deep, but stupid and mean go to the bone."

Or you could be the stupid and mean one saying that to someone giving a genuine compliment.

As you will. But I think what the OP was getting at was the unspoken BUT that tends to follow "You have such a pretty face."

I think anyone who believes that is being overly sensitive. I looked at the OP's photos and she does have a pretty face. Why make it more than it is?

Don't think I am. The OP seemed to be bothered by it; that's why she posted. *shrug*

Well, I mean, you suggested giving an insult in return for a compliment, so yeah that does seem kind of overly-sensitive as far as that goes.

It sounded like she took it as an insult. Again, I shrug. I am not particularly sensitive, so stuff like that comment wouldn't bother me much. But is sounds like the OP was hurt by it. And I've heard a lot of people say they are bothered by a comment like that. Who knows if the person who said it was giving an actual compliment or being condescending? Do you really care what I think?

Or...you look like you were hit in the face with a bag of nickels?

People say dumb stuff in an effort to be consoling. Ignore.

You could always whip around and say to the offender, "Pretty is only skin deep, but stupid and mean go to the bone."

Or you could be the stupid and mean one saying that to someone giving a genuine compliment.

As you will. But I think what the OP was getting at was the unspoken BUT that tends to follow "You have such a pretty face."

I think anyone who believes that is being overly sensitive. I looked at the OP's photos and she does have a pretty face. Why make it more than it is?

Don't think I am. The OP seemed to be bothered by it; that's why she posted. *shrug*

Well, I mean, you suggested giving an insult in return for a compliment, so yeah that does seem kind of overly-sensitive as far as that goes.

It sounded like she took it as an insult. Again, I shrug. I am not particularly sensitive, so stuff like that comment wouldn't bother me much. But is sounds like the OP was hurt by it. And I've heard a lot of people say they are bothered by a comment like that. Who knows if the person who said it was giving an actual compliment or being condescending? Do you really care what I think?

Since none of us here but the OP knows the background and feelings that occurred, perhaps we should let her defend her story herself?

I have never been bothered by this...I get it lots. The older I get the more I like to hear it! As others have said, take it as a compliment and have a wonderful day!

Learn to accept a compliment, pretty lady!