I am an enormous failure

I know how you feel. I lost about 2 stone 2 years ago and now have put so much back on. I feel so depressed about it,
Therefore I will comfort eat to make myself feel better. After trying to struggle with this idea of being fat and feeling horrible for the past few months, I have decided that it is only me who can change the way im feeling, so I am going to try and give this dieting a good shot again.
I feel I owe it to myself not to feel so down and horrible about myself, but I also realise that if people look badly of me just because of my weight they are not worth it.
So remember we are not failures. We can do this for ourselves because we deserve to be happy and feel good.
I am going to add you , so we can support each other.

You are so not alone. This last year sucked, and I questioned my self worth and why I was here. I come home to an empty house too. But believe me when I tell you that God has a purpose for you or you would not be here. Lose the weight for yourself - no other reason. Sending a friend request.

Brian, you are NOT an enormous failure. I read your profile and looked at your pictures. You're a good looking guy, and smart, too. Let me tell you a bit of my story. I was diagnosed as diabetic a couple of years ago, so went to diabetes nutrition classes. My doctor wanted me to attend those classes and insurance paid for it. You might want to talk to your doctor about attending some nutrition classes and be sure you record everything you eat and exercise you do on MFP. It really does help you keep track, but a nutritionist can give you dietary guidelines which are very helpful.

Join a gym, and if you smoke, quit. I quit smoking after 35 years. So happy about that, but I absolutely had to because of the diabetes. I quit during Lent with Chantix. Speaking of Lent, I know it sounds corny, but a church community can offer encouragement and support. The peace and serenity in a church before mass or services begin imprints itself on you, I believe. It is very comforting.

I was doing the online dating thing for a while after my divorce, and got so discouraged, I quit looking for a while. I then resolved that God helps those who help themselves, so 11 years ago, I entered in the word "Catholic" into the search engine and found the most wonderful man. We have been married a little over 10 years and are so so happy and grateful to have each other.

You can do it. You've done it before. My husband and I joined a gym a few months ago, go every other day for about an hour, and have met some really nice people. We view it as a social activity as well as exercise, and only pay $30 a month for the both of us. That's works out to a dollar a day. We joined Planet Fitness under the no obligation plan, because we were not gym people at all, but we absolutely love it now. They have signs up that say "No judgement zone." It's so true.

You can do this, Brian! Go, go, go!

There is always hope. You are alive and capable. Do not stop fighting.

You are not a failure!! You are very brave for posting here.

I am amazed at the outpouring of support out here! I'm relatively new to MFP, but it's good to see so many who struggle like me, and have overcome the battle. Also good to see that we are never "cured". I had a friend tell me once that we can never stop fighting, never stop working at it. Some people may be 'lucky' about not having to watch their weight, I'm not one of them.

You can do it!! We can all do it!! I am so glad I found MPF.

I too like many others have sent you a friend request. No this is not for pity. We never need help with that do we? And no you are not a fraud. In the short time on here I have found some very caring people. We can support each other!

Saving... because this touched me so deeply, and because I can relate to these feelings so closely. I am 58 years old and still fighting that emotional battle with food. You are still a young man. You WILL have the wife and family you desire, I just know it. A sincere, loving and appreciative man is hard to find, and you also seem to be a very attractive man. I'm rooting for you. Believe.

You are only a failure if you give up. You wouldn't have posted if you did give up. You are only 32, you have your whole life ahead of you. You did it once you can do it again. You need to find friends to support you. All of us here will do that!

Don't waste another minute. You can do this! Saggy skin can be fixed. You deserve to be happy, don't let anything stand in your way.

It would really help if you went back and thought - what worked, and what didn't. When did you start to slip? How could you prevent that from happening again?

Assess your previous success/relapse and see where to go from there.

I wish you the best of luck.