WOMEN and cooking.

I do all the cooking in our home! I enjoy cooking so it doesnt bother me at all. Its my thing

I'm single right now, but when I am with a man I do all the cooking and cleaning. I enjoy catering to and caring for them. Old fashioned I know, but it is what it is and how I was raised.

i want to know the 2013 mentality, do women still do this for their men?

In my house my husband does 95% of the cooking. I can't cook well and he loves making delicious food. On the other hand I do 95% of the cleaning.

I am at uni, I cook for myself but I when I am with the other half we have the agreement whoever cooks doesn't have to do dishes! I like cooking, and mostly improvise meals, however he follows recipes and is getting better at not failing or ruining them! Still I appreciate it when he cooks for me or if he pays entirely for the meal if we go out....it gives him his manly pride and it means I don't have to be in charge

i like cooking for my man...because i like being in control and doing everything myself. i always complain he doesn't cook but honestly i get nervous when he's in the kitchen, that he'll overcook the fish, or cook the veggies into oblivion! must. let. go.

he gets a diner breakfast everyday, i usually make his food - bacon, eggs, toad in a hole, avocado, and half a banana then mine. omnoms.

oh he usually cleans the kitchen afterwards because i'm a sloppy bish.

You did not read the whole thing did you? I am speaking of those that CHOOSE to work instead of being good parents. Not those that are in circumstances that make things a necessity. Try to understand what you are reading before you accuse someone of being judgmental.

Wait, you are saying that someone that CHOOSES to work, is not a good parent. How exactly is THAT not being judgmental? Are men not good parents because they CHOOSE to work?

Another "look at me I'm single thread"

:yawn:

Yep, and with that attitude, I imagine he will remain single for quite some time!

I cook.
His cooking sucks.
So unless I'm in the mood for leathery, over-dead meats, its all me.

My dear, sexy, beautiful, hardworking wife continually tells me that I won/win her with my cooking. I have been the chef in our home for 33+ years. Download a book...take some free online cooking classes. This is not about gender or manhood..it's about serving the one you love.

Stop whining and bashing...much better ways to spend your energy.

i want to know the 2013 mentality, do women still do this for their men?

I'm not married, no kids, full time job, etc; but I love to cook for my boyfriend. However, it's something I decide on my own to do, because I want to do it, and because he likes what I fix, not because it's expected or required of me. And yes, I do make things that I know he loves, that I don't especially love (nothing I hate though).

In turn, he periodically cooks for me, and while it's delicious, it's usually lacking in fruits and veggies.

no, no no I am saying when both parents choose to work instead of raising there own kids. Pawning them off only so they can maintain a higher level of a lifestyle then they need to.

And if it's not about lifestyle, since you seem to think that a nice house, car, boat are the sources of bad parenting? If it's about two wonderful individuals and parents, both of whom enjoy and are fulfilled by their work? Whose working lives make them happier, better parents, either of whom would be miserable as a full-time home-maker/child-carer? That may result in a lifestyle you disapprove of, but also in parents who are happy, involved, and cherish time spent with their kids...I hardly think that's a bad thing.

To come back to the point of the thread (sorry!), a man who can cook well is a very sexy man. I enjoy cooking, as it happens, but watching a competent man, sleeves rolled up in the kitchen, creating something delicious for us to share, is a source of great joy to me.

my husband irons his own shirts. I only iron fabric when I am sewing.

i luv cooking 4 my man! When he compliment a new recipe,i am on cloud 9.. Taking care of him,fullfill me..

He cooks a couple times a week. When he cooks, I often help (chopping, prepping ingredients, etc). I cook the most though, and I cook the more complicated dishes with the least amount of help. We're both generally good cooks. We enjoy cooking something nice for the other, especially when one has had a long day at work. While sometimes cooking feels like a chore for each of us, I often truly enjoy cooking--as does he. We plan out the menu for the week together so we tend to have a good idea of who is cooking what (as well as which days are leftovers/fend for yourself).

I also clean the most (especially dishes), but he cleans as well. It freaked him out when I would first do his laundry, but often I had a small load and so I just grab a few of his things to toss in with mine. Once he got accustomed to that, sometimes I do a whole load for him. It still gives him a double take because he's been doing his own laundry sense he was a little kid, but he doesn't get upset about it anymore. He just smiles and then helps fold it. I do most of the household cleaning, including the bathrooms, but he does other chores (like taking out the trash, changing light bulbs, etc) on his own or by request (aka, Honey, will you move the chairs so I can vacuum?) I generally don't mind. I like being "domestic" on occasion and he always treats me so sweetly afterward that it just works for us.

I even sew a bit. It's amazing how grateful a man can be when you fix the button that fell off his favorite shirt. I'm also becoming more like my mother in that I buy most of his clothes as well. He'd wear things till the holes were embarrassing if I didn't. Often this means I buy a number of items and bring them home. He tries them on and then I return what he doesn't like or what doesn't fit well enough. When we were dating and I first did this, he paid me back for the items he kept (obviously). Now it just comes out of our combined "bucket" so it's even easier for me to do it. The end result is that he is better dressed and that he wears only things we both like.

He makes more money than I do too (about double actually), but what I bring home is nothing to scoff at. He manages the overarching finances but keeps me informed as to what they look like (and which bills he just paid or should be arriving soon) and then we both work to try to improve on things (they're already pretty good, but tweaks can always save money). We each have a set amount of "personal" money to spend on whatever we please no questions asked, so it's not like he has full control of the cash in the house. I like that I don't have to worry about things generally. When we started to draw up the overarching budget I actually told him to do whatever he felt was best, so it was him that set the personal allowance levels. Honestly, his personal cash allowance is higher than mine by a tad, but then again he eats lunch out with the guys whereas I pack my lunch from home, so while his lunch comes out of his personal allowance, mine comes out of the grocery fund. So in the end, the "spend on whatever" cash is pretty equal in the end, even if on paper his is higher than mine. It doesn't bother me any.

For bigger purchases or for things for the house, we talk about them first and buy them together. I feel I have more control over what we ultimately get, but that he has more control over the cost we're willing to pay. Sometimes he gets sticker shock in the process, but that's mostly because we're looking for things we've never looked for before (first home, so we need things we didn't need before, plus we want higher quality than cheap college kid stuff now). Usually, I will price out some examples at the high and low ends of the range and some reasons why they are/aren't better/worse and then let him know which one I prefer (typically something in the middle) and why. He'll think on it for a bit and often review the range of quality and features that we'd get for the price, as compared to something higher or lower on the scale. Then we end up getting what I preferred or something very close to it (sometimes he goes for the upgrades, but he rarely downgrades from what I prefer). It feels like a reasonable compromise to me and I know he appreciates the thought I put into picking what I prefer when I tell him about it. I certainly feel like I have an equal say in the process.

I probably do more of the yard work right now, but that will change to even out once the grass starts growing in because he'll likely do the mowing and edging. Right now, I enjoy getting my hands dirty and working out what we want to do with the yard (our first home). I'm pretty much in demolition mode right now and he is letting me have at it pretty much as I please. I really want a nice herb and vegetable garden. We both want to add a patio (that'll be a big project).

On the other handy, hubby takes care of anything that requires a plunger in the bathroom or the purchase and set up of an electronic device. As for the plunger--ew--he's better at it and I hate that sort of thing, so no complaints from me. As for electronics, I can use them just fine and can follow directions to set them up, but he tends to do most of that. He has more interest in it and he can do it better and faster than I can anyway. He also has a much better idea of when quality does and doesn't matter with an electronic device than I do.

We're more traditional about the division of labor than some of his colleagues. Apparently many of their better halves don't cook and clean like I do, even though I also work more than some of their SO's do (some SOs are students, others are unemployed). That I would work, cook and clean seems a bit amazing to them and a few seem to envy the arrangement slightly (I'm told). It makes me proud to know that my domestic side gives my husband something extra we can both be proud of. My efforts are well rewarded so to me it's fair. Not only do we have a strong loving relationship but our home is much nicer than some of his colleagues' homes. For them, their homes aren't as nice, or as clean and they "waste" a lot of money eating out because neither partner cooks. I'm not saying that to brag, but rather to show that I make a difference (and hubby is grateful for that difference). My role is important to our standard of living. Without me, we wouldn't have as nice of things as we do and they wouldn't be in as good of condition as they are. When we have his friends over, I take pride when hubby lets me know he thinks I've been a good host (AND I have fun doing it too).

Both of my parents worked full time and mom did most of the cooking and probably more of the cleaning. Dad helped out a lot though too and they have a strong marriage still. It wasn't uncommon for Dad to cook, clean or get me ready for school/church. (Oddly enough, Dad could braid my long hair much better than my mom when I was a kid. ) I guess to me, that's just normal division of labor for a family. Hubby's mom worked part time and they had a maid help with cleaning, so it's a somewhat new para-dime for him for the wife to do as much as I do. Plus there were more strong feminists in his life as a child. (Whereas my family was more traditional but still women were clearly strong and well respected. I think this is because his family were from the big city and mine were from farm country.) He says we can get a maid if we want one, but right now I can't justify that sort of cost so I'm plenty willing to take it on most of the time. I'd rather save the money to spend on other things... like books and vacations.

I'm probably the more handy of the two of us. I grew up helping my dad a lot so I can use power tools, change a tire, and drive stick shift. Hubby is only just learning power tools and some other "manly" skills. Hubby's dad was more likely to pay someone to fix things, so my dad has taken to teaching my husband some tricks of home-care whenever he comes to visit us.Even though sometimes I wish it was me helping my dad during these lessons, the fact is that I already know how, so I'm glad they get along well enough for the visits and glad hubby is a good sport about learning and doing new things. :laugh:

To me, there is nothing anti-feminist about a bit of tradition, so long as there is respect. When you dance with a partner, only one of you can lead at a time, but both dancers are equally important.

Mother-in-law lives with us, does the majority of cooking.
Next on the list, eating out
Third, me cooking
Last resort, my wife cooks

I do 99% of the cooking in my house. my husband is also an excellent cook and he likes to cook..I LOVE to cook but i'm always the one who has to clean up too and that part sucks LOL