Spousal sabotage

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  • jesz124
    jesz124 Posts: 1,004 Member
    None of it matters. Life is full of temptations in one form or another, either from your husband, kids, friends or co-workers. You can't blame everyone who ever offers you what you consider to be 'bad food'. You either choose to accept the food or you say no thank you. Simple as.
  • tootoop224
    tootoop224 Posts: 281 Member
    WOW!!! Was expecting a thread full of "man-bashing". Was very pleasantly surprised with some of you (you know who you are!!). Wish my ex had gotten advice from some of you, before she divorced me because "she shouldn't have to tell me, I should know what she wants ". Maybe there is hope....

    To OP: You've got to communicate with your spouse. It's the only way it can work. Now show HIM your post and... discuss!!! In the future, skip telling all of us what your mad about and tell HIM!!! :smile:
  • quirkytizzy
    quirkytizzy Posts: 4,052 Member


    Blaming others for bring food into your life you can't resist is a copout.

    BOOM. And that's what it boils down to.
  • TheLuSir
    TheLuSir Posts: 1,674 Member
    Communicate. Cooperate.
  • Moxie42
    Moxie42 Posts: 1,400 Member
    I feel bad for a lot of men. If they buy something unhealthy, they're sabotaging. If they buy something healthy, it must their way of calling the significant other fat. Thankfully not all women interpret their SOs actions that way. If only more people would work on communication...expressing wants, needs, concerns, feelings...instead of always jumping to the worst conclusion.

    (And yes, I realize there might be a small percentage of men that do intentionally sabotage, and there are women who do it too.)
  • jofjltncb6
    jofjltncb6 Posts: 34,415 Member
    Communicate. Cooperate. Complain online.



    There. I fixed that for you.

    :flowerforyou:
  • TheLuSir
    TheLuSir Posts: 1,674 Member
    ^ :D
  • lightdiva1
    lightdiva1 Posts: 935 Member
    I know as women we typically feel, "We shouldn't have to tell you!" about most things. Pick up your dirty clothes and place them in the hamper... hang up the towel you used, the food goes in the fridge like this, as it has for the 12 years we've lived together... I hate ___________ (insert food here) I like____________ (insert food here) Well, guess what, on matter how many times we infomr our loved ones (who are male) about our likes and dislikes, and how we do things and so on it boils down to this.

    What is important to us, is not important to them. Its not that they are actively trying to piss us off, or that they don't care about us. Its simple, you cannot force someone to care about every little thing you do.

    My husband doesn't care how the food is organized in the fridge. I care very much about this!!!!!!! I have told him over and over how I like it. He tries, but its just not important to him. So he fails at putting groceries away. Is he intentionally trying to piss me off? NO. (Well, sometimes, but we laugh about that)

    My husband does find me important. So he does things to show that. Like by cooking dinner, buying me treats, rubbing my feet. He isn't trying to make me fatter, he is trying to show me he loves me.

    As for your husband not cooking dinner, YOU NEED TO TELL HIM TO. seriously, i KNOW, YOU FEEL YOU SHOULDN'T HAVE TO... You do. You have to talk about it. You have to write sticky notes and text him to remind him and then praise the ever loving **** out of him when he does it.
  • joeint
    joeint Posts: 31
    Will Power is a muscle. The more you use it, the Stronger it gets.
  • AngryDiet
    AngryDiet Posts: 1,349 Member
    Will Power is a muscle. The more you use it, the Stronger it gets.

    But what about will power DOMS?
  • JenniBaby85
    JenniBaby85 Posts: 855 Member
    Umm, when my hubby picks something up for me because he thinks it's "my favorite", usually chocolate, (and he is usually right by the way) I thank him, have a small portion, share with him, share with my kids, and gratefully put the leftovers elsewhere for me to have small portions at another time. Portion control. I do not deprive myself of anything, and I have still lost over 20lbs. My hubby never does anything to sabotage me. He does things out of kindness for me.

    Now that may NOT be the case with you two. I hear and read countless stories about spouses who actually try to sabotage, but maybe it was just a not-well-thought-out attempt at kindness? If it is, maybe drop hints like "Oh, I love these flowers, I love THIS shampoo, it would be great if someone could give *Insert random thing you like here* as a gift. and so on? If it's actual sabotage, don't take it and stick to your guns.
  • RobfromLakewood
    RobfromLakewood Posts: 684
    Will Power is a muscle. The more you use it, the Stronger it gets.

    You need to get a refund from whatever medical school you went to, any basic anatomy book will prove this to be untrue.
  • jesz124
    jesz124 Posts: 1,004 Member
    Will Power is a muscle. The more you use it, the Stronger it gets.

    You need to get a refund from whatever medical school you went to, any basic anatomy book will prove this to be untrue.

    I am seriously hoping and praying this post was made with your tongue firmly in your cheek. If not....well...I just don't know!!
  • JackieHJ
    JackieHJ Posts: 9
    My boyfriend is skinny and pretty much only eats junkfood (seeing him eat at McDonalds and Subway in one day and then for dinner two plates of spaghetti is NOT an exeption :P), so there's lots of unhealthy food around.
    He used to just go and eat his food right in my face, but I explained to him that that's a little demotivating and now it's a little better, usually.

    ..the Subway cookies still get me every time, though xD
  • texmexmomma
    texmexmomma Posts: 11 Member
    ... hmm. You'd be a peach to be married to.

    Unless he's force feeding you, you're in charge of what goes in your mouth.

    Wow I new there would be a lot of comments but I was writting this in humor not to bash my husband. I do decide what to eat and I still haven't eaten them and I won't.

    Thanks for the positive & funny responses. Those who misunderstood my post sorry but I love my hubby & only vented at the temptation and asked for stories similar.

    FYI getting screwed can be fun some of you uptight folks should try it. :)
  • pixish
    pixish Posts: 79 Member
    In regards to dinner, have you thought of getting a crockpot/slowcooker? It seriously changed our lives since we're gone for 12 hours a day nearly :) It was such a relief to be able to dish up when we got home instead of cooking - plus you know what's in it! Soups are really great for weight loss too :)

    I agree with the first person that replied. My partner is very supportive of me BUT because he doesn't count calories, he has no idea of calorie content or what is 'good' or 'bad'
    I asked him to get me a tea from the coffee shop once, and he came back with a chocolate milk and a pie :p He just wanted to do something nice for me but he just didn't pay attention to what he got. :)
  • agentphantom
    agentphantom Posts: 30 Member
    if it fits in your macros, it's all good. Just saying...

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