At what point does weight become unattractive?
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My husband has always said women can be attractive at many different weights. When there's cellulite, thats when they become less attractive physically.
well thats crap.
my friend is super active, but her whole family had obviously the curse of the cellulite gene, her tights have cellulite on them no matter what she does so thats kinda..... knowing that there can be some 200+ without any of it.0 -
pretty muchMy husband has always said women can be attractive at many different weights. When there's cellulite, thats when they become less attractive physically.
Really? Even "super models" have cellulite.
this thread is full of douchness.0 -
Honestly, everyone assumes I go for the 6 pack dude because I lift, and honestly, yes, the 2 guys i've been with since lifting have been lean, but one doesn't look in shape really. I mean.... not lean.
I'm learning it depends on the person. These peoples body types are opposites. one was 6'1, 185, the other 5'8 180.
If I were going to draw a line, if the guys stomach hangs over, I'm unattracted.0 -
How about this for an idea....
We all stop giving a fu!K about other people and their perceptions of beauty and attractiveness and get on with the relatively short *kitten* life that we have.
One mans meat is another mans poison.
This. I think the original question was really pointless, one single person cannot define what is attractive for all..0 -
How about this for an idea....
We all stop giving a fu!K about other people and their perceptions of beauty and attractiveness and get on with the relatively short *kitten* life that we have.
One mans meat is another mans poison.
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pretty muchMy husband has always said women can be attractive at many different weights. When there's cellulite, thats when they become less attractive physically.
Really? Even "super models" have cellulite.
this thread is full of douchness.
LOL I didn't lose mine till I was UNDER weight. Dumb.0 -
I think it varies from person to person. Personality and confidence goes a long way towards attractiveness and everyone is different with their tastes too. I try to let the person show me who they are before I decide whether they are attractive or not. I have known people who are beautiful on the outside become completely ugly because of who they are and visa versa, people who are not super attractive that have something about them that makes them extremely attractive once you get to know them. I think it is best to not judge others based on first impressions because I don't like being judged.0
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Marilyn Monroe was a UK size 16. Just thought I'd throw that in there.
Our standards seem to have changed a bit, haven't they? She would be thought of as outrageously fat by today's Hollywood standards. Throughout history, Monroe's type of body would have been thought of as very attractive (and still is today among many men). Why is it thought that women who have a body that resembles that of a 12 year old boy are more attractive than a woman with a bust and hips? Kind of sad that we have made a fetish out of extremely thin.0 -
First of all, I think it is when you finally look at the real you in the mirror and decide that you are overweight. Bear in mind that the media has told us what is acceptable and what is not. Contestants who appear on shows like the Voice, for instance, are told that they need to have a certain image. While it appears that they take all body types, just take a look at the application process for the Voice. From magazine covers to prime time tv you know that thin is in. That is not to say that it is right.
I believe that when you change your lifestyle and get to your goal weight, your body seeks its own equilibrium and that is why you fluctuate between 3-5 pounds. You also will get to the point where you will know at which weight you feel your best.
I also want to know what difference it makes as to what anyone else thinks. I know I am fat, yes fat. I do not believe in politically correct words. I know that I feel better and have more energy when I eat right and exercise. I also know that there is no one in this world who is perfect. Fat people are targeted most often because it is something that can be seen. I assure you that those who are making judgements may not have their financial house in order or perhaps their relationships are suffering. There are so many facets to life and no one has them all in order.0 -
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Beauty is entirely subjective.
I think everyone is attractive.
That's my honest opinion.0 -
I'm only 5' tall so I can easily look very overweight in even a (U.S.) size 8, right now I'm wearing size 6 but they're getting baggy on me ^_^ I started at a size 100
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Oh. In THAT case:Again different perceptions, A innocent question becomes an attack on some individuals. I don't get it personally. Why can't people just have a little natter without feeling like comments are personal attacks all the time.
The definitive answer is 42. 42 is the point at which weight becomes unattractive. 42 pounds, centimeters, IQ points, years, degrees, hamsters? I don't know. That is a topic for another little nattering post.
Until then, 42. Absolutely.0 -
When it adversely affects your confidence.0
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Weight is unattractive when the person carrying it no longer feels comfortable with their size/shape.
At various times I've been smaller than I am now (never as big as this, but different sizes of smaller:ohwell: ) but when I had to move up dress sizes and could no longer ONLY blame it on shops cutting clothes smaller, and doing up laces made me feel as if I was 6 months pregnant, I decided enough ws enough - if I don't lose it now I never will. There are many poeple around me at work bigger than me (although much younger) and many smaller than me. The ones who feel comfotable in their skins generally look more attractive than the ones who moan "I feel fat" (usually with a chocolate or doughnut in one hand).
This post; this is what sums it up for me. Confidence and the right disposition can take you a long way...
At the point where I stopped hating myself for being 'quite as fat' (and I'm still very obese), people started behaving towards me as I was behaving to myself, ie. happy in the direction I was going. It really is a very fine line in my experience. I've also always noticed an 'echo' in the way people respond to me.0 -
My husband has always said women can be attractive at many different weights. When there's cellulite, thats when they become less attractive physically.
Cellulite isn't about weight. If you are overweight, it may look more dramatic. But weight doesn't cause it.
As a female, you have a 4/5 chance of developing it. And that is using the most encouraging estimates.0 -
It's different for every person. A very tall person could probably easily pull off a size 16 (US) but a very short person may not look so good in a 10. Height, bone structure, and muscle mass make a big difference. For me personally, the maximum size I feel I look okay in is a 12, and I'm 5'4. I look a whole lot better in an 8/10 though.
I agree. I'm the same height and I start to get a little "uncomfortable" with my looks when I'm at a size 12. Thankfully, my body proportion is such that I'm able to camoflauge my weight gain; and my weight is solid, not flabby, so most people don't think I weigh as much as I do. However, everybody's body is different and where and when they gain weight is also different.
I'm not a "big is beautiful" type person either. I absolutely DO NOT EVER want to be what society considers "big." Health issues aside, it just doesn't look good on me period; I'm way too short to carry a lot of weight. However, I have seen some "big" women who look absolutely gorgeous, and they have the confidence to go along with that look, and have NO issue attracting men. It all depends on the individual.0 -
I had had no trouble at all with dating or guys being attracted to me while being big. Of course I am in a long-term relationship now, but my point is- there have been many guys that have been attracted to me at this heavier weight.0
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http://i110.photobucket.com/albums/n105/Memoset/Public/people_zps00e15577.jpeg
I'm not sure how to post a link, but this is something a friend posted on Facebook from somewhere she "liked". It's interesting.
Numbers don't mean a thing. I weigh 150 and wear a size 10 jean, unless I wear a different brand, then I could be an 8 or a 12. Generally though, I'm firmly a size 10. I consider myself to have 15-20 pounds to lose to hit the weight that is best for me, but if I look in the mirror and like what I see, I don't care what "size" or "weight" I am. I have some belly fat to get rid of, and some fat on my thighs, but my primary goal for losing weight right now is trying to reduce the size of my breasts.0 -
http://i110.photobucket.com/albums/n105/Memoset/Public/people_zps00e15577.jpeg
I'm not sure how to post a link, but this is something a friend posted on Facebook from somewhere she "liked". It's interesting.
Numbers don't mean a thing. I weigh 150 and wear a size 10 jean, unless I wear a different brand, then I could be an 8 or a 12. Generally though, I'm firmly a size 10. I consider myself to have 15-20 pounds to lose to hit the weight that is best for me, but if I look in the mirror and like what I see, I don't care what "size" or "weight" I am. I have some belly fat to get rid of, and some fat on my thighs, but my primary goal for losing weight right now is trying to reduce the size of my breasts.
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I think its impossible to put a number on this question. Example. I am was a uk 8-10 before i had my children. I felt great and had guys sniffing around a lot (uninvited of course) i ballooned to a size 20-22 after children and felt worse then awful about myself who used to be a confident outgoing person. 1 of my bff's is in a size 20 and happy as a pig in poop and her confidence radiates. She puts great effort into her looks by buying flattering, fashionable clothes yet when i was that size i was so unhappy i would try and avoid going out to the local shop never mind social events. She gets a lot of attention regardless of her size as she is happy. So in a nut shell i don't think size in general matters its about how the individual deals with their size. If they are happy then they will attract attention and remain fun and outgoing. I know many "skinny" people who are misrable so it works both ways i think.
Individuals perception of fat differs as the way people carry weight differs Ie apples and pears etc.. My aim is to have a healthy BMI what i look and feel like when i get there only time will tell, but is any1 ever 100% happy with their bodies no matter how big or small they are?
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This is the second post I've seen in the same number of days to argue semantics. I really don't think this message board is the right place for it, as this is the "General Diet and Weight Loss Help" message board. This topic isn't productive or helpful and is only distantly relative to the idea of weight loss.
I think the answer to the OP's question is obvious: beauty is completely subjective. The use of vague adjectives like "attractive" is totally dependent on the person using them. There is no magic weight, size, shape, height, color, amount of cellulite or visible muscle definition, or proportion of certain body parts to others that makes a person universally attractive. People are different. They like different things. That includes bodies that are skeletal, and it includes bodies that are immobile because of their large size.
I'm getting fit because I want to be healthy, not because I'm worried about how many people think my body is beautiful. I've been a size 10, and I've been a size 20. I've felt beautiful at each of those sizes, and every size in between. I've been pursued and complimented by men (and women), even at my largest. Everyone is beautiful to someone. Now I'm lucky enough to have a husband who loves me at any size. He met me in a size 12 and married me when I was bigger than I am now, and although I know he's always been happy with my body, I'm willing to bet it has more to do with who I am as a person. He doesn't care what size my body is, as long as I'm happy. Learn to love yourself, and other people will love you too.0 -
Honestly, everyone assumes I go for the 6 pack dude because I lift, and honestly, yes, the 2 guys i've been with since lifting have been lean, but one doesn't look in shape really. I mean.... not lean.
I'm learning it depends on the person. These peoples body types are opposites. one was 6'1, 185, the other 5'8 180.
If I were going to draw a line, if the guys stomach hangs over, I'm unattracted.
Good to know that even though I've lost over a 140lbs and gone from sleeping with a breathing machine to working on a 10k women will still judge me based off whether my stomach hangs over. Loose skin sucks and so do shallow women.0 -
Oh. In THAT case:Again different perceptions, A innocent question becomes an attack on some individuals. I don't get it personally. Why can't people just have a little natter without feeling like comments are personal attacks all the time.
The definitive answer is 42. 42 is the point at which weight becomes unattractive. 42 pounds, centimeters, IQ points, years, degrees, hamsters? I don't know. That is a topic for another little nattering post.
Until then, 42. Absolutely.
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I'm glad someone mentioned a man and what's unattractive to them about a man. So far, this topic has been limited to women. I believe it's good to know that this "attractiveness" or the lack thereof goes both ways.For me, at 5'1, being a size 8-10 means I'm at my absolute limit for curvy-sexy. And that would be unattractive in a swimsuit. I don't know about other women, though.
For me, a man's weight is unattractive when he's soft and doughy all over, and/or has breasts.
Granted we are ALL on MFP because we want to see a better us, however, we also ALL have something that initially attracts us or turns us off about a person of the opposite sex. For me, a man is unattractive when his butt is bigger than mine! I don't go for obese men at all (trying not to offend anyone) and I'm not instantly attracted to an overweight man, however, if the overweight man has the right amount of confidence with it, then we could work (think G. Garvin at his heaviest, LOVED IT!, He was/is SO sexy).
By the same token, I don't like "skinny" men either. So, it does depend on the individual as previously stated. Everyone has an opinion of what they think is attractive and what's not. And that is HUMAN. It's the way we're wired; God gave us a will so that we could make choices on what we like and dislike. I don't appeal to every guy, and I've learned to be ok with that.0 -
I think it's your attitude. My husband fell in love with me at my absolute heaviest - 5'6", 200lbs, squeezing into US size 14!0
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Oh. In THAT case:Again different perceptions, A innocent question becomes an attack on some individuals. I don't get it personally. Why can't people just have a little natter without feeling like comments are personal attacks all the time.
The definitive answer is 42. 42 is the point at which weight becomes unattractive. 42 pounds, centimeters, IQ points, years, degrees, hamsters? I don't know. That is a topic for another little nattering post.
Until then, 42. Absolutely.
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I think beauty is in the eye of the beholder with regard to men and woman, plus its not all about looks. I have been out with some girls you would class as a stunner but in the personality department.......you can guess. Luckily I found my wife who is perfect in every way
, I am a lucky man.
P.S I would not pay any attention to BMI as according to BMI I am classed as overweight last time I checked and at 13.7% body fat I may have a ways to go to hit the 10% I want to be at, but I would say I am def not over weight.0 -
Honestly, everyone assumes I go for the 6 pack dude because I lift, and honestly, yes, the 2 guys i've been with since lifting have been lean, but one doesn't look in shape really. I mean.... not lean.
I'm learning it depends on the person. These peoples body types are opposites. one was 6'1, 185, the other 5'8 180.
If I were going to draw a line, if the guys stomach hangs over, I'm unattracted.
Good to know that even though I've lost over a 140lbs and gone from sleeping with a breathing machine to working on a 10k women will still judge me based off whether my stomach hangs over. Loose skin sucks and so do shallow women.
Not "women", woman. Clearly there are an awful lot of pretty shallow people in the world. But not everyone is, thank goodness!0 -
I'm glad someone mentioned a man and what's unattractive to them about a man. So far, this topic has been limited to women. I believe it's good to know that this "attractiveness" or the lack thereof goes both ways.For me, at 5'1, being a size 8-10 means I'm at my absolute limit for curvy-sexy. And that would be unattractive in a swimsuit. I don't know about other women, though.
For me, a man's weight is unattractive when he's soft and doughy all over, and/or has breasts.
Granted we are ALL on MFP because we want to see a better us, however, we also ALL have something that initially attracts us or turns us off about a person of the opposite sex. For me, a man is unattractive when his butt is bigger than mine! I don't go for obese men at all (trying not to offend anyone) and I'm not instantly attracted to an overweight man, however, if the overweight man has the right amount of confidence with it, then we could work (think G. Garvin at his heaviest, LOVED IT!, He was/is SO sexy).
I love that a woman who wants to lose 41lbs (your goal not my judgement) doesn't like big guys but would settle for one LOL. Stay classy ladies.0
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