Do your partners/family give you support or not?

he trys but he doesnt get the whole if you have leftover cals..who says i cant have ice cream he automatically thinks im cheating or something! drives me crazy...i also try n cook most meals because he looks to add olive oil to eevvvvvveeeerrryyyy thing!

My boyfriend eats whatever the f@#k he wants, and when we go grocery shopping he's the one throwing cookies and chips in the cart. He's got a little bit of a belly himself (mostly from soda I think), but it's not my business to criticize him when he's still at a normal, healthy weight. He doesn't exercise with me, he doesn't constantly encourage me, and he says "don't blow your diet" every time I talk about wanting to eat something like ice cream. And then proceeds to snarf down a whole bag of snack mix in front of me. :P

But you know what? It doesn't bother me. Because this is MY weight loss, not his, and ultimately at the end of the day it is most important to ME. Sure, I liked it when he told me tonight that he's proud of what I'm doing. But praises from him like that are few and far between. He's not required to be supportive simply because he is my boyfriend, and to expect that from a loved one is just setting yourself up for disappointment and upset. Your family is there to support you, yes, but that doesn't mean they have to be your personal cheerleaders all the time-- you can't force everyone to be on your same game plan.

If you feel like your husband is demoralizing you on accident (or on purpose), then communicate that to him. Tell him that his teasing is discouraging to you, and that you would appreciate more positive encouragement. But don't expect him or anyone else to hold your hand and guide you every step of the way. Be grateful for support you DO receive, but realize that if you want this bad enough, if you really want to change your life, you'll do it for YOU, and not for recognition or approval from anyone else!

Just have to move on and not let every comment get to you. Or you will drive yourself insane. I cope by running.

Wow, you need to tell him how you feel. I would be so annoyed and upset! you do not need sarcastic remarks and rude, judgmental stares. He needs to know that getting healthy requires support and encouragement. If I didn't have my man and all of my family cheering me on, I would have fallen off a looooong time ago. Good luck!

Once I complained to my boyfriend's friend about how he doesn't support me trying to lose weight and he told me that guys feel uncomfortable because he doesn't want to imply that he's unhappy with me not trying to lose weight and make me feel pressured.... if that makes sense?
Idk, man logic.

Before I started MFP and my weight loss journey, I discussed my plans at length with my husband. I communicated to him what I needed from him - support, encouragement definitely - but that I was ultimately the one responsible for policing myself. I'm only 2 months in, but he's been terrific so far.

But he's not a mind-reader. If I have extra calories available due to better food choices/smaller portions, or have earned them through exercise - I'll tell him that I have XXX calories left for the day and that I can now enjoy that cookie (or whatever). And if I don't have extra calories available and I choose to indulge anyway? I tell him that too, and he doesn't judge me either way. Like I said, I'm the only one responsible for my actions.

My husband has supported me for my health. First clean eating, then switching to a vegetarian diet. He is my biggest cheerleader but sometimes he can be the biggest instigator about sweet treats lol

There are different ways of being supportive. My husband is a lot less strict about his diet than I am, but he eats what I cook (and says nice things about it). He used to keep a lot of junk food and soda around, but he's cut back on that, even though I never asked him to. He's always into going for a hike or a bike ride. Also, he's extremely supportive of how I look, no matter what my weight is. But I would do what I do, with or without support. I think that my determination is really what has gotten his support, and also gotten him going to the gym and cutting back on some empty calories.

For the most part, my husband is very supportive. He has actually enjoyed a lot of the healthy meals I've made. He does sometimes make a face when I check my phone before ordering when we're out but he understands why I do it. And he enjoys that I am liking how I'm looking.

Mine has benn great save for moments of being a little (and I do mean little) frustrated with the whole checking my phone thing. He's just not too used to having to stop and wait while I aim my phone and scan barcodes while he's trying to make something. He forgets and throws packages out before I can scan them, and he gets a little annoyed when I try to micromanage what's going into the pan. But it's a little bit of an adjustment, and I get that, so I try to be flexible also.

But these little adjustments aside he has been just wonderful. Most of the time, if we are out somewhere, like say we're at a place we havent been to before, he asks me "Did you check your phone yet? Did you find something you can have?" Or he will suggest we go to a certain place and he will say "Check your phone see if you can have this".

He's been very encouraging also, every single day he tells me how well he things I'm doing and he doesn't criticize at all when a "bad food" goes into my mouth. He goes on walks with me (he likes to walk so he will usually be the one to suggest it) and he didn't bat an eye or make any kind of bad comments when I ordered Shaun T's Rockin' Body. (I guess I'm overly grateful for his support because my prior relationship offered nothing but criticism with ANY kind of interest or venture no matter what it was, so I'm shock not to have been made fun of for any of this yet)

He's been SUPER supportive and super helpful about the shopping and cooking. And now he's starting to infringe on my food a little too... he wants all of my tasty snacks! (he still eats his own crappy ones too, but he's trying, at his own little pace).

It makes me sad that not everyone gets that kind of support at home. I think its just terrible and selfish not to support people who are trying to make any kind of positive change in life, especially when it comes to health.

My husb does not say negative things to me, he's been supportive. Even if i cheat and have ice cream he never makes rude comments he knows i've been working hard andhe knows i know what i'm doing. I've even got him eating better:) by his own choice:)

Just have to move on and not let every comment get to you. Or you will drive yourself insane. I cope by running.

^^^^Do you RUN AWAY, or do you run back also? ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^:huh:

I run in a circle

Mine doesnt really know Im dieting. He knows Im watching what I eat and exercising a lot but not really for losing weight purposes.
He has noticed and commented that Ive lost weight but not actually complimented me about it.
I still want to lose 20 pounds so lets see what he thinks then.

My husband and I are on this journey together. We are very supportive of each other. We work out together every day. The only difference is that we eat completely different - he is doing no/low carb and I am counting calories but we don't criticize each others food choices. We cheer each other on when we lose weight or have a NSV. It has done wonders for our marriage!

I don’t think we men are (for the most part at least) trying to be unsupportive. We have just been taught from an early age that saying anything about a woman’s weight other than “You’re beautiful just the way you are” is a surefire way to end up in trouble. Plus, I think a lot of them feel like it is starting to intrude on their lifestyles since this a choice they didn’t make, but it is affecting their lives in a significant way. I’ve had to be on this end of things multiple times: as a vegetarian living with a carnivore and as someone trying to lose weight with a partner who isn’t. She has flat-out told me before that having to live around choices you haven’t made sometimes feels intrusive and confining (I do my best to research restaurants before I go so I don’t have to make things difficult there and I do most of the cooking for the same reason). Plus, she worries that it can become slightly obsessive (and in a world where anorexia is as prevalent as it is, and where the poor body image the causes it is often caused or exacerbated by comments from men, tv has taught men to be careful about saying anything or aiding anything that could conceivably lead to that kind of obsession). If you feel he is being unsupportive, talk to him. Explain what he is doing and why it is hurting. If he is a decent human being, he’ll at least try to improve.

I have been every size from 4 to 24 and the only unpleasant thing my husband ever said was, Will you quit losing weight? You look like Skeletor! (My face never holds fat, even when I am big so when I am thin I can look gaunt) He never teased me when I was big, or acted like he thought I was unattractive, but he knew I hated my own appearance. For a while when I was just dieting he would constantly bring home candy (my weakness) and leave it laying around. I can't eat "just one" of anything so I don't buy it. I wouldn't call it "sabotage," but it came close enough that I had to put my foot down and ask him if he liked me fat and miserable, because he was doing his best to ensure I stayed that way forever.

My sons are very supportive. My daughter makes the Jabba the Hutt laugh if she sees me with ice cream (her way of helping)