Emotional affair-need advice!

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  • ISABELBEARD
    ISABELBEARD Posts: 15
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    I have been through this ....your better than that ..the more times you forgive the easier it is for them to do it all over again. pick yourself up and move on .. kick him to the kirb ..life isn't a dress rehersal ..you don't get those years back.. be happy ...yes you will be unhappy for a few months then you will look back and say why didn't I go earlier.. go girl put yourself first. us women are stronger than we think ...
  • ISABELBEARD
    ISABELBEARD Posts: 15
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    your a smart kid
  • Sabine_Stroehm
    Sabine_Stroehm Posts: 19,263 Member
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    Does nobody recognize this as a troll? OP has had four posts, all in this thread, and now has discontinued their account. Doh!
    A sock puppet, yes quite likely. A troll? Not by my definition.
  • ISABELBEARD
    ISABELBEARD Posts: 15
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    but if he was doing the right thing by her she wouldn't have to check his things ... its all about trust and loyalty quite honestly this guy is giving her reasons to do these things . ive been there when theres no trust the relationship is gone .. men do cheat you know as do women but why suffer there little games ..life s to short
    To everyone else : There have been some really good responses, and some...not so good, then some, down-right ignorant. Those of you that are advising in short little comments like this...

    "Get out of the relationship." or "He's a cheating loser."

    You're basically sabotaging the OP's marriage. STFU.
    ummm, yeah...THIS is what is sabotaging her relationship... It couldn't be the cheating, the distrust or the fact that she's spying on him and reading his phone messages...its the dismissive advice from random people on the internet :laugh:
  • DoingitWell
    DoingitWell Posts: 560 Member
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    4 posts. Really? Everyone responded to this troll.
  • Hellbent_Heidi
    Hellbent_Heidi Posts: 3,669 Member
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    4 posts. Really? Everyone responded to this troll.
    ....and so did you!

    Besides...someone who makes a fake account to ask a real question doesn't really qualify as a "Troll". I don't think this OP was trying to piss people off....she really has this issue, and probably just didn't want to ask it under her real profile.
  • DoingitWell
    DoingitWell Posts: 560 Member
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    4 posts. Really? Everyone responded to this troll.
    ....and so did you!

    Besides...someone who makes a fake account to ask a real question doesn't really qualify as a "Troll". I don't think this OP was trying to piss people off....she really has this issue, and probably just didn't want to ask it under her real profile.

    You. Are. Hilarious.
  • Davariluv
    Davariluv Posts: 32 Member
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    You have invested enough time with this man and now it's time for you to move on. Have respect for yourself and know that you deserve better and deserve to be with someone that will treat you right! Life is too short for this honey. It's going to hurt your heart and soul but eventually you will realize it's the best thing for you.
  • kelliflores
    kelliflores Posts: 1 Member
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    Please leave him..you are better than that..Keep up posted on what happens..Curious to see what his excuse is this time
  • 1brokegal44
    1brokegal44 Posts: 562 Member
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    Clearly he's trying to move on. Maybe you should do the same. Contrary to what we're brought up to believe, love does not conquer all. Best of luck to you.
  • JUDDDing
    JUDDDing Posts: 1,367 Member
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    That this is cheating is YOUR opinion. The OP may, or may not, agree. For example, I've been with the same woman now for 8 years, 3 of them married to her. We have a good and strong relationship and keep nothing from one another. We both agree that if you have sex with another person, that's cheating. Cybersex...it's more like "Choose Your Own Adventure" porn. She can look at a guy and tell me he's damn hot...and I can do the same with women.
    Lol, there are sexual innuendos made on this site daily. If a spouse saw their SO's posting of it, would it be cheating?
    Not according to my wife and I :wink:

    I actually agree. I think there is a lot of insecurity around here. Or a lot of Internet false-saint-hood.

    He's flirting. Some girl flashed him.

    This, in my opinion, does not rise to the level of cheating.

    I live in a relatively conservative area and this sort of behavior is not particularly rare or sordid - at least for the people I know.

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