Online Dating: The way to go or just plain desperate?

I met my fiance through a mutual friend. We all played an online mmo and she introduced us one day and from there we talked as friends for a few months. He eventually came to see me and decided to relocate to my home town to be with me. I would have never thought it would happen that way but here we are almost 3 years together and planning a wedding.

I was on match.com years ago and that's how i met my husband!!! we got married this past dec!

I see a good tool in online dating, but it has it's drawbacks.

You will only get a certain dose of someone. Look at all the pics on our site here. We only pick the ones that we like. In person, you get the whole story, good side, bad side, embarrassment, confidence, etc.

You only get a certain dose of someone when you meet them in real life, too. Sure, you can't really hide what you look like, but people meeting for the first time or going on a first date tend to put their best foot forward. People have social masks that they wear and it takes time to get to know the whole story.

I met my guy online. Here. We were friends for close to a year or so before we ever became anything more than just online friends. Situations changed for both of us and we live relatively close together, so we decided to meet for dinner one night. It was the best first date I've ever had. Everything since then has been the best I've ever had.

My first relationship, which lasted four years, began online and continued long-distance for four years. Sounds doomed from the start, right? It probably was. And while there are still a lot of negative emotions and things I'm still struggling to come to terms with and accept, I will always stand by the reality of my feelings in the incredibly sloppy and unorthodox mechanics how I have no clue lasted that long. But when people share a genuine connection, the avenue through which they meet, all on its own, does not define whether someone is desperate or not. There are many people who have met online, who have had incredibly lengthy long-distance relationships, and who have managed to create wonderful lives together. Calling the entire endeavor pathetic or desperate or silly or unrealistic is a ridiculous presumption to make and I personally found it very offensive when people laughed at me when I first came out and told my friends and family that I had a girlfriend across the country. The stigma around this has gone down considerably, but it still exists and it still sucks.

As terribly as we both handled our relationship, and though we've gone our separate ways, at least for a part of those four years I managed to share an unbelievably strong friendship—and for a while, a romance—with the first person I allowed myself to be completely open with. That alone was a big step for me in the context of my own life, and as much as I sometimes wish I never bothered with any of it, that personal development is what makes it all okay.

All of that said and in spite of my support for this, it would take a hell of a lot to get me to even consider something like non-local, online dating or long-distance ever again.

Anyone have any experience with cougarlife.com? I need to meet a rich sugarmama! :laugh:

I met a guy who stalked me once. Thankfully, it was short-lived.

I have met some nice couples that met on eHarmony or some other dating site. They will tell you there is a lot to weed through. If you have the patience, you can go that route. Otherwise, why not get involved in activities that you like where you can meet people to date....tell everyone you know that you are looking to meet someone. Some folks meet through their friends.

Remember though, online, people can hide all sorts of things. Not everyone does though. It is tricky to figure out who those people are.

Sersly, I 'd rather tell my future children I met their father online than drunk in a bar. Online dating is fun, I never have too do my hair or put clothes on.. hahahahha, I am much more approachable when Im not confronted with having too "show up, all dolled up" when Im out with friends, I cant concentrate on picking up men, cuz my Girrrrrls are so amazing, we have way too much fun w/each other too care about the men. I find it too be more relaxing too sit and chat online listening too music and gettn all silly and cute. Plus the upside of this is that we didn't bang on the first date. hahahahaha

I've been on POF for 6 months or so, and so far, nada....I joined it around the time I moved to where I am now and outside of work I don't do anything, or go anywhere except the gym and walmart. So I thought It'd be an okay route to go to meet guys since I don't get out much...but...no...I've had countless guys that just want a one night stand, there have been many druggies and straight forward players, and then there were a few that seemed like really nice guys and would say hellp but then go no further, and then all the guys I found attractive or liked what I read in their 'about me's. would never reply to me or say they weren't interested....so I've pretty much given up... I know lots of people have found their true loves on dating sites but I'm not one of them...

forever alone.

Met my husband of almost 13 years online, but not a dating site. It was back in 1999 when chat rooms were the thing to do. It was a local chat room. That was what - like 14 years ago? I don't think it's desperate