My boyfriend doesn't like the body I am trying to get

yeah I know what you are feeling. I have the same questions when it comes to my husband. When he talks about my little sister (and I mean that in every way, she's younger than me, skinner than me, and even a little shorter than me) he doesn't find her attractive, which is good because well he's my husband. and although i never want to be her size (she's almost 23 and is less than 100lbs) I feel he won't find me sexy when I hit my goal weight. He's a boob man and since we've been together I've lost 2 cup sizes and he's sad he is "losing his boobies" so it scares me that he will not find me attractive anymore. He says that won't be an issue the issue will be will i still find him attractive when i am smaller. pff as if

Don't you love men? When you want them to state their opinion they don't say anything, and when you want them to mind their own business they can't keep their mouths shut. *Sight*

Why would you even discuss it with him? Don’t even pay attention to it, be healthy, happy, and comfortable with yourself, everything else will fall into place.

Take it from an older woman: realistically, you're going to have your body a lot longer than you're going to have this boyfriend. If I'm wrong and he's a keeper, he'll love you even if your body changes. If he's not, you'll have the body you want and time to find a boyfriend who loves it as much as you do. Win win.

Exactly this!!

While its nice to have his opinion and all you have to work for what YOU want to look like. Don't please him by doing what he wants, it's your body. You have an idea of what you want to be like it sounds like. I'm sure once you get to your goal he will change his mind;) good luck!!

Yep this. And if he doesn't want you to be healthy and happy do you really want to be with him?

My husband says he would love me if I was large or thin...BUT then says he doesn't want me to get as thin as I was when we first got married. My wedding gown was a size 6 and still needed to be taken in a couple inches. He thought I was miserable and cranky all the time and didn't eat much. AND he will point to women who weight lift and say please don't ever get like that yuck! I think he would love me no matter what. He just says some silly things now and then. We've been married over 20 years and my weight as well as his has been up and down. It really doesn't matter. When I was heavy he made cute comments about how soft I was but in a nice way. When I was skinny he made cute comments about how delicate I looked and called me his doll baby. Just go with it as it comes..and goes. If he is turned off by the way you look then sad to say he really didn't love you anyway. I hope I explained this well enough.

I'll have to second these previous comments.
He might feel awkward about it at the moment but then once thing change he will probably be fine with it.

A cuple guys i dated didn't want me to lose any weight because they didn't want me to be better looking in fear of other guys wanting me. (winners I know)

One guy let me get fatter than fat and kept telling me I was fine because he loved me and didn't care, but i was SO EFFING MISERABLE and self-concious that relationship didn't last.

decent guys will say they like you how you are and if you get super disgusting (either too skinny/veiny or too fat) they will probably comment on your health.

a good thing to do is to not make a big deal about it. DO what makes you happy (actually happy, not OCD "happy)

the worrying could cause more of a problem than the actual body transformation.

I hate to say this about my baby, but he is a chunky guy and I secretly think that part of it is that he may be intimidated by the body I want to have. But if that's part of it he would NEVER admit that to me. And if it is, there's NO reason for him to feel that way.

I think you are right. I have never been more than 150 pounds but when I met my man I was only 110. He has been in love with me through thick and thin, no pun intended but recently I lost about 10 pounds and I was working out to Jillian Michael's 30 Day Shred. The first day, he was nice and supportive and whatever. The second day he was just kinda like giving me this weird look. I asked him about it and he was just like, "You don't need to look like that." I told him that I appreciate that he loves me for me but I NEED to do this for myself and he dropped it and didn't say anything negative again but yeah, it is kind of a blow to not have your significant other really rooting for you. He was rooting all along and I think you are right - either they are insecure with themselves or they are insecure that maybe YOU will find someone new once you reach that sexy, ripped new look. I am gonna do what I want regardless and good luck to you as well. I agree that if someone is in love with you, nothing (esp not weight gain or loss) will change the person's feelings for you.

I'm going to have to keep looking out for signs of him no longer being attracted to me. He says he would still love me, but loving someone and being attracted to them are 2 different things. And we all know what happens when a man is no longer attracted to his woman.

I've extracted what I think is the most pertinent part. My husband's ideal body in a woman is a volleyball player, long, lean, very very tall, pretty straight up and down, and nothing but legs. Look at my pictures, I am 5'4" on a good day and have enough donk to keep an *kitten* man happy for years . . . I married a leg man, not an *kitten* man.

My ideal man is about a foot taller than me, and build like Dwayne Johnson (The Rock), yum . . . I love an exotic looking man with some serious steel. I married the guy next door, and he is 5'10".

Are we not attracted to each other because we don't fit these ideals? **** no, we find great enjoyment out of each other's bodies, we have a deep love and commitment to each other, we are a matching set. You need to worry about you and your enjoyment of your body. If you feel sexy and attractive he will find you sexy and attractive.

I'm going to have to keep looking out for signs of him no longer being attracted to me. He says he would still love me, but loving someone and being attracted to them are 2 different things. And we all know what happens when a man is no longer attracted to his woman.

I've extracted what I think is the most pertinent part. My husband's ideal body in a woman is a volleyball player, long, lean, very very tall, pretty straight up and down, and nothing but legs. Look at my pictures, I am 5'4" on a good day and have enough donk to keep an *kitten* man happy for years . . . I married a leg man, not an *kitten* man.

My ideal man is about a foot taller than me, and build like Dwayne Johnson (The Rock), yum . . . I love an exotic looking man with some serious steel. I married the guy next door, and he is 5'10".

Are we not attracted to each other because we don't fit these ideals? **** no, we find great enjoyment out of each other's bodies, we have a deep love and commitment to each other, we are a matching set. You need to worry about you and your enjoyment of your body. If you feel sexy and attractive he will find you sexy and attractive.

And all of this ^^^

Agree with PP about the photos being taken during a workout. My muscles have some crazy definition when I'm lifting, but I look soft and cuddly when I'm relaxed.

Also, something that no one has mentioned..... Your muscle shape and size are largely genetic. As you lift, especially if you are eating at a deficit, you won't be getting any more muscular. You'll just have less fat on top of. In my case, it took me at least six months before starting to lift weights. I KNOW I lost LBM during that time. So, while I might look like I have "more" muscles now, I'm just strong and healthy and don't have 70 pounds of fat covering it up.

Be strong. Be you. Rock what you've got. And if he loves you, he will love what you are doing for yourself.