My boyfriend doesn't like the body I am trying to get

This boyfriend may not be forever. Your body is.
Don't settle for something that doesn't make you happy just so that he is content with what you look like.
Also, if he finds YOU attractive, odds are he'll find you attractive no matter what.

It sounds like you are working incredibly hard for his approval of what you are doing.
Do this for YOU - not for his approval ... and don't let his reaction affect your actions!

That guy is a jerk and has no clue what he's talking about.

Pretty sure he'll love it once he sees the finished product. Good luck!

1. You're not going to get big. Period. Unless you do some 'roids and a serious calorie surplus, etc.

2. He can get over it. If he really loves you, this should not be a problem.

For reals!

I hate to say this about my baby, but he is a chunky guy and I secretly think that part of it is that he may be intimidated by the body I want to have. But if that's part of it he would NEVER admit that to me. And if it is, there's NO reason for him to feel that way.

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You should tell him that!

why does it matter what you look like? are you moving towards a healthier, more active lifestyle for yourself or for him? honestly the idea that people go through so much trouble changing their appearance against their will in order to be more attractive to someone else is beyond me.

When you learn to be happy in your own skin in the way YOU want then you will be happy. Others opinions are that, and like arseholes, everyone has them.

Be YOU.

^^^^^^^^ what he said girl!

if he does not like "in shape" or "athletic" ladies he sounds like a complete moron in my book..but that is just my opinion...

I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. He was with me at my heaviest, and his ex was a big woman. As I started losing weight I was concerned he would not find me attractive. It hasn't really been a problem, but recently I decided to start doing weights (to tone, not get big) and Saturday I showed him a picture of a girl who has the kind of muscle definition I want. The first thing out of his mouth was "eww". The girl was laying on a weight bench pressing and the pic was dark. He said that the reason he said eww is because the angle he saw it at it looked like the girl had tennis ball sized arm muscles. He was like "You've always said you don't wanna look like that" I said so what if I change my mind. I showed him a clearer picture of what I want to look like and he was fine with the clearer picture (I don't want huge arms, on that first pic I like her stomach and thighs, which he was fine with). But my problem is now I feel like as my body keeps changing, I'm going to have to keep looking out for signs of him no longer being attracted to me. He says he would still love me, but loving someone and being attracted to them are 2 different things. And we all know what happens when a man is no longer attracted to his woman.

I learned the hard way to NEVER live my life according to what others want for me. I live with some regrets for doing what men wanted me to do (career wise, childwise and even body wise). Anyway, where did he say he didn't want you fit? I think he fell in love with you and with his ex bc he LOVED the insides of you two and not because he loves big women. He wants you happy, healthy and confident. If you are sick, you won't be able to be there for him. If you are not confident, he won't really be attracted to that, bc no man wants a woman who is insecure. The fact that you want to change and have a goal, tells me it is for a reason. IT is bc you KNOW what you want. You WANT that look and will be most confident for achieving a goal and for looking your best. Shoot for your goals and he will love you more than you ever dreamed, bc you will be a confident, sexy, happy woman with a rock hard bod he will want to ravage.

p.s. my ex hubby never wanted me fit bc he was insanely jealous. I couldn't leave the house without him etc. But anyway he made sure I didn't get more fit. He wouldn't let me go to the gym (and like a dumb young girl, I obeyed). I gained weight and he started looking at other women. . .go figure?? So I started shaping up and losing and he got mad. So I kept going and he got madder ,so I divorced him and got a banging body and now I wonder what he thinks, lol. Oh well, I am happy. That's what counts most and I want a man who will LET ME BE ME.. Nothing worse than being with a man who doesn't support your dreams.

I hate to say this about my baby, but he is a chunky guy and I secretly think that part of it is that he may be intimidated by the body I want to have. But if that's part of it he would NEVER admit that to me. And if it is, there's NO reason for him to feel that way.

Maybe he is just afraid that when you get to where you want to be, you will be more attractive to OTHER men, in other words he may be a bit jealous of the idea. My hubby keeps saying what if.....
Just stop worrying about it and enjoy the changes.

He says he would still love me, but loving someone and being attracted to them are 2 different things.

You already identified that love and attraction are two different things! While I don't know the dynamic of your relationship and how he really feels about you, just based on reading your post, it seems like he isn't gonna be changing how he feels about you based on how you look! Also, if he does choose to not love you anymore because he doesn't like your new body then he isn't worth your love!
But totally agree with the dude that said sometimes guys don't know what the right thing to say is because they don't want their significant other to think that they dislike their current bodies!!

I'd say do what you want and for you!!! Ultimately you are the one living with your body

I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. He was with me at my heaviest, and his ex was a big woman. As I started losing weight I was concerned he would not find me attractive. It hasn't really been a problem, but recently I decided to start doing weights (to tone, not get big) and Saturday I showed him a picture of a girl who has the kind of muscle definition I want. The first thing out of his mouth was "eww". The girl was laying on a weight bench pressing and the pic was dark. He said that the reason he said eww is because the angle he saw it at it looked like the girl had tennis ball sized arm muscles. He was like "You've always said you don't wanna look like that" I said so what if I change my mind. I showed him a clearer picture of what I want to look like and he was fine with the clearer picture (I don't want huge arms, on that first pic I like her stomach and thighs, which he was fine with). But my problem is now I feel like as my body keeps changing, I'm going to have to keep looking out for signs of him no longer being attracted to me. He says he would still love me, but loving someone and being attracted to them are 2 different things. And we all know what happens when a man is no longer attracted to his woman.

Your body. Not his.

And what's to say you'll still find him attractive when you look and feel hot and he doesn't?

Which could be a reason for him going 'ewwww', possessiveness. Thinking you'll be more attractive to other guys and wanting to stop that by keeping you the same.