WTF, Who Says That?!?!?!?!?
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Wow, the lack of sense of humor in this thread is appalling. Or maybe it's just everyone is way too insecure. My wife admires other men (and women.) I admire other women. It's a natural thing. If you get bent out of shape over your significant other looking at someone else, or commenting about looking at someone else, then the problem isn't with your significant other.
Totally agreed. One of my favorite travel stories was when DH and I were in Budapest and I ended up in a dental clinic with an emergency abscessed tooth. DH had to wait aroound while it was pulled (had already been root-canalled, not much else could be done). I'd noticed the place was staffed by thin young women in white uniforms. DH noticed that the uniforms were transparent enough that he could tell they were all wearing thong underwear. He was quite cheerful about missing some sightseeing on the streets while he waited for me Heck, I laughed. He was 67 at the time. I was glad he still noticed and appreciated female beauty. He's 74 now. He still does.0 -
Hahaha. I can top it.
Ex started his college course:
"There are a few good looking women in my class but don't worry, they're all way out of my league anyway!"
lolz.....that's funny right there...0 -
Nope no code! Honesty is the best policy!0
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Hahaha. I can top it.
Ex started his college course:
"There are a few good looking women in my class but don't worry, they're all way out of my league anyway!"
If your man says this and then immediately joins MFP and starts working out, you could have a legit problem on your hands.0 -
Sure doesn't sound like he respects or appreciates you. Thats not something you say to anyone let alone someone you love.0
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I hear worse all the time. It's okay though, because I'm cooking up a dish served very cold
A new me, and a divorce!
Ditto!
If I am dating a guy he can look all he wants, I don't care. It's normal. I am going to look too. I love guys. But it is a matter of respect .I want to feel like the hottest one in his eyes. When he is with me, I want the majority of his attention. I don't need all of it. We are adults, we are human and we will always look and flirt, etc. No matter how you feel, learn how to play your cards so your date doesn't feel like a dog. He can gawk on "guys night" but not in the presence of her.
He should have said, "wear something sexy tonight so I can check out your cleavage and your butt when you bend over to shoot" And then when at the bar, he could check out the chicks all he wants but then put his hand in her back pocket, pull her close to him and kiss her and say, "you're the hottest one in this room". He may not really THINK it, but if he wants an AMAZING night, he'll be smart enough to know what to say. It all depends on him. So many guys, "just don't get it". You all could have women eating out of your hands if you played your cards right.
This!0 -
Hahaha. I can top it.
Ex started his college course:
"There are a few good looking women in my class but don't worry, they're all way out of my league anyway!"
If your man says this and then immediately joins MFP and starts working out, you could have a legit problem on your hands.
Funny...sad...true. :laugh:0 -
eh..
i dont understand the problem.
when I go out and a single guy is with me...... that's the first comment out of his mouth. 'got any single hot friends?"
Hey - if i were single and i was going out with a male friend (friends only), i'd def wanna know where the hot guys are.....
i dont see the issue..0 -
My advice;
"Honey, you'll be so happy ... there are a lot of hot girls that go there. & THANK GOD a lot of hot guys, too. It should be fun for both of us ... I dunno about you, but I could sure use some eye candy this weekend ... those buff college guys are so yummy "*wink* *walk away*
But honestly, why are you even wasting your time with this dude? I don't want to be the precursor to a debate here, but it's my experience that when a man is dating you and is genuinely interested, he will put his best foot forward. If you're in a long term relationship or married, IF he is still committed to you and in love with you, he would never make this sort of a comment or have those kinds of thoughts. Especially if you are feeling down on yourself.
We're all human, and of course we can look at people objectively and think "they're attractive". But to me, it's the difference between FACTS vs. FEELINGS. If a woman walks into a restaurant, and your husband/boyfriend observes that she's attractive, that's no different than a woman observing another woman is attractive - bottom line there is no attraction, it is just fact. He would never tell you "that woman is attractive" in this instance, because it's not something he really thought much about. On the other hand, if a man is sitting at home wondering if there are going to be "hot" girls at the place he's taking his significant other on a date ... he is thinking and obsessing about it. There is not even a "hot girl" in question - it is all in his fantasy mind. His emotions are involved, his Ego is raging, he wants to hurt his wife/girlfriend ... in that instance, it is just a matter of time before he cheats. And no woman can "fix" him, - he needs professional help.
Love yourself. Get rid of this jerk.
Okay so if you're dating someone you aren't allowed to look at the opposite sex and do the natural human thing and think someone in attractive? Ok I will never date anyone ever again.
So did you actually read her response at all, or....?0 -
what a jerk0
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hahaha ya, the code book is at the bottom of the porn pile...most men don't get to it....but eventually some venture downwards. And I wouldn't take that comment personally, not that I would thank him for it or anything lol but I know what he means.0
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OP, if you let this guy say things like that, then proceeded to go out with him, then proceeded to let him pleasure himself with your goodies, you give him permission to treat you this way.
^THIS!^
Don't be ANYONE's Doormat. Throw his sorry butt to the curb.0 -
My advice;
"Honey, you'll be so happy ... there are a lot of hot girls that go there. & THANK GOD a lot of hot guys, too. It should be fun for both of us ... I dunno about you, but I could sure use some eye candy this weekend ... those buff college guys are so yummy "*wink* *walk away*
But honestly, why are you even wasting your time with this dude? I don't want to be the precursor to a debate here, but it's my experience that when a man is dating you and is genuinely interested, he will put his best foot forward. If you're in a long term relationship or married, IF he is still committed to you and in love with you, he would never make this sort of a comment or have those kinds of thoughts. Especially if you are feeling down on yourself.
We're all human, and of course we can look at people objectively and think "they're attractive". But to me, it's the difference between FACTS vs. FEELINGS. If a woman walks into a restaurant, and your husband/boyfriend observes that she's attractive, that's no different than a woman observing another woman is attractive - bottom line there is no attraction, it is just fact. He would never tell you "that woman is attractive" in this instance, because it's not something he really thought much about. On the other hand, if a man is sitting at home wondering if there are going to be "hot" girls at the place he's taking his significant other on a date ... he is thinking and obsessing about it. There is not even a "hot girl" in question - it is all in his fantasy mind. His emotions are involved, his Ego is raging, he wants to hurt his wife/girlfriend ... in that instance, it is just a matter of time before he cheats. And no woman can "fix" him, - he needs professional help.
Love yourself. Get rid of this jerk.
Okay so if you're dating someone you aren't allowed to look at the opposite sex and do the natural human thing and think someone in attractive? Ok I will never date anyone ever again.
If I am dating a guy he can look all he wants, I don't care. It's normal. I am going to look too. I love guys. But it is a matter of respect .I want to feel like the hottest one in his eyes. When he is with me, I want the majority of his attention. I don't need all of it. We are adults, we are human and we will always look and flirt, etc. No matter how you feel, learn how to play your cards so your date doesn't feel like a dog. He can gawk on "guys night" but not in the presence of her.
He should have said, "wear something sexy tonight so I can check out your cleavage and your butt when you bend over to shoot" And then when at the bar, he could check out the chicks all he wants but then put his hand in her back pocket, pull her close to him and kiss her and say, "you're the hottest one in this room". He may not really THINK it, but if he wants an AMAZING night, he'll be smart enough to know what to say. It all depends on him. So many guys, "just don't get it". You all could have women eating out of your hands if you played your cards right.
Well I don't get it either...if he doesn't actually think she's the hottest woman there why's he even with her?!
You want to be lied to so he'll get you to "eat out of his hands"....due to some lies? You're kidding yourself.
No thanks, not me.0 -
On our one rare night out....
Me: What do you want to do?
Him: Drink.
Me: I want to play pool.
Him: Ok. Find out where we can play pool and drink. Make sure there's a lot of girls.
Me: WTF, What does that matter?
Him: I don't want to go to a place where I have to look at a bunch of guys playing pool.
As if I'm not already super self conscious of my appearance right now. Thanks.
I know it's just typical guy talk, but I thought guys had that guy code crap of things you just don't say.
Its not typical guy talk.
Exactly - it's NOT. I would dump any dude who talked to me like that.0 -
I thought the rest was obvious. He's a douchecanoe. Even if he thinks it, it's just wrong for him to verbalize it, unless they are in an open relationship. But, if that were the case, I doubt she would have made a forum post.
I don't know what a douchecanoe is, but I love you for inventing that epithet.
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Well. I say go without him with your girlfriends and check out the mens!0
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Sounds like a disrespectful jerk that will cause you nothing but heartache and pain if you stick with em.0
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My advice;
"Honey, you'll be so happy ... there are a lot of hot girls that go there. & THANK GOD a lot of hot guys, too. It should be fun for both of us ... I dunno about you, but I could sure use some eye candy this weekend ... those buff college guys are so yummy "*wink* *walk away*
But honestly, why are you even wasting your time with this dude? I don't want to be the precursor to a debate here, but it's my experience that when a man is dating you and is genuinely interested, he will put his best foot forward. If you're in a long term relationship or married, IF he is still committed to you and in love with you, he would never make this sort of a comment or have those kinds of thoughts. Especially if you are feeling down on yourself.
We're all human, and of course we can look at people objectively and think "they're attractive". But to me, it's the difference between FACTS vs. FEELINGS. If a woman walks into a restaurant, and your husband/boyfriend observes that she's attractive, that's no different than a woman observing another woman is attractive - bottom line there is no attraction, it is just fact. He would never tell you "that woman is attractive" in this instance, because it's not something he really thought much about. On the other hand, if a man is sitting at home wondering if there are going to be "hot" girls at the place he's taking his significant other on a date ... he is thinking and obsessing about it. There is not even a "hot girl" in question - it is all in his fantasy mind. His emotions are involved, his Ego is raging, he wants to hurt his wife/girlfriend ... in that instance, it is just a matter of time before he cheats. And no woman can "fix" him, - he needs professional help.
Love yourself. Get rid of this jerk.
Okay so if you're dating someone you aren't allowed to look at the opposite sex and do the natural human thing and think someone in attractive? Ok I will never date anyone ever again.
Oh dear. Please actually read my post. I said of course we are all human and at some point your man is going to think other women are attractive. However, when it becomes more than just something someone notices objectively, it is a problem for a committed relationship. If your man is a passive observer, who cares? We are all superficial to a certain degree, so sexual attraction doesn't even really play into it ... in your mind, when you see someone who is good looking, it is noted. Just as if you see someone really unattractive, you subconsciously think it. My husband and I are very close - and sometimes when we are out and about I'll make a comment like, "that girl had beautiful eyes, did you see?" "that young man bagging our groceries had a really great smile." etc. Or my husband will say something like, "I liked that woman's hairstyle a lot, that would look good on you!" "That lady was dressed really nice," etc. But do you see the difference between those statements and, "that girl was stacked! I'd love to hit it", "I hope there are hot women for me to look at on our date" ... The examples I've given you from my relationship are healthy examples of committed individuals thinking other people are attractive and complimenting them. The later is just misogynist bull**** designed to make a woman feel badly about herself.
As far as just dating, you are not committed, you are just getting to know each other. So if you are dating a guy and he acts like an *kitten*, just move on. When there is no commitment yet, and both parties are aware of that fact, of course it's just fine to explore other options.0 -
There is no guy code. Where do you women get this stuff? LOL
Dang, sounds like the guys have left you out of the loop. So I think the "LOL" is on you because no one told you.
A guy told me there was "guy code" - that is where I got that from. So since then when I tell stories I say to the guys, "you know guy code" and they laugh and say they know. We use the term a lot where I live. Seems other places obviously do too.
It basically means that men have an understanding of the way they ALL are in some areas and look out for each other, they "have each other's backs" even if they don't know one another. They don' t rat each other out and they warn one another, etc. For example, they chase women, they pursue women and they keep it a secret among themselves . . .that is "guy code". A guy could probably explain this better. They lie for one another, etc.
I have passed info from a guy client to my personal trainer (both guys) about a chick that one had met from a dating site and the other was going to meet for the first time. My client said, "tell your trainer she is using old pictures and she is xyz. . ." I said, "wow that is really nice that you are warning my trainer and you don't even know him and he said "it's guy code".
So I passed the info along and my trainer said, "man, tell your client thanks". I said, "he's looking out for you, that's guy code". My trainer laughed and said, "yep, that is guy code".
Guy code in this situation means, you are a man, you think differently than a woman, you think with the "little head" but the guy code is, you use the big head when around women. It's hard to explain, it's basically hiding some of your "guy thoughts" bc we don't get you guys. . and your women-chasing-desires bc we are programmed differently.
Google "guy code" .0 -
Ugh. He sounds like scum.
Why would he say something like that? I guess I am not sure if that's "normal" in your relationship but in mine, if my fiancé said that- his *kitten* would be handed to him. Can you let him know how it made you feel or is that not how you two work things out?0
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