In love with relative of Deceased spouse.

life is short and love is too hard to find. go for it.

This.

I don't see why it would be an issue, it's been years and I'm sure the child would be aware of who this person is and this person loves the child as that's family. I would imagine no one's going to lie telling this child that this is it's father.

My grandma married a man who died in the war so she then married her husband's brother (my grandpa). He raised his brother's child as his own and they had many other kids together as well as adopted others. My uncle loves what my grandpa did for him and wouldn't have changed a thing about his life.

Wasn't this a Sandra Bullock movie?

Sure it's unusual and some might see an ick factor. But as has been said life is short and love is rare. So be happy.

Only if the spouse REALLY IS DEAD. You don't want a Pearl Harbor situation on your hands...

I thought the same thing!!

I say go for it.

I think the wife and cousin should be together if they are in love.

True story -
My husbands Grandmother passed away when he was very young (I think around 6). At roughly the same time a wonderful woman (we will call her Jane) lost her husband as well. Grandma and Grandpa were very close friends with (Jane) and her husband. Shortly after Grandma and (Jane's) husband passed, Grandpa and (Jane) married each other. (Jane) became my husbands new Grandma. She and Grandpa were married for about 30 years before Grandpa passed (at age 100) and about 8 years later (age 104) (Grandma Jane) too passed away. When a marriage ends in the death of a spouse, those who knew each other & knew and loved the deseased often find that they have a lot in common and the friendship can easily blossom in to love.

I think so long as there's no chance that the husband can miraculously return from the dead and appear at the wedding ceremony, just before the couple says "I do," then it's okay.

But doesn't the husband always return from the dead in these shows?

I think the wife and cousin should be together if they are in love.

True story -
My husbands Grandmother passed away when he was very young (I think around 6). At roughly the same time a wonderful woman (we will call her Jane) lost her husband as well. Grandma and Grandpa were very close friends with (Jane) and her husband. Shortly after Grandma and (Jane's) husband passed, Grandpa and (Jane) married each other. (Jane) became my husbands new Grandma. She and Grandpa were married for about 30 years before Grandpa passed (at age 100) and about 8 years later (age 104) (Grandma Jane) too passed away. When a marriage ends in the death of a spouse, those who knew each other & knew and loved the deceased often find that they have a lot in common and the friendship can easily blossom in to love.

This same thing happened to my grandfather. She said my grandmother "willed" him to her. They were very cute together.

I also agree, if they're in love, have at it!

I think the wife and cousin should be together if they are in love.

True story -
My husbands Grandmother passed away when he was very young (I think around 6). At roughly the same time a wonderful woman (we will call her Jane) lost her husband as well. Grandma and Grandpa were very close friends with (Jane) and her husband. Shortly after Grandma and (Jane's) husband passed, Grandpa and (Jane) married each other. (Jane) became my husbands new Grandma. She and Grandpa were married for about 30 years before Grandpa passed (at age 100) and about 8 years later (age 104) (Grandma Jane) too passed away. When a marriage ends in the death of a spouse, those who knew each other & knew and loved the deceased often find that they have a lot in common and the friendship can easily blossom in to love.

This same thing happened to my grandfather. She said my grandmother "willed" him to her. They were very cute together.

I also agree, if they're in love, have at it!

Yes. I have also already chosen my successor. Husband is informed and has been instructed how to woo said successor. If he were alone, no big deal but we have a kid so only nice ladies please in the event of my untimely demise by caveman club or otherwise.

It's entirely doable. I've seen something similar in real life. We have a brother and sister, let's call them Jack and Jill. Both are married. Jack is married to Sue and Jill is married to Bob. The four have always been close, visiting each other, going on vacations together, etc. Then, when they were in their sixties, Jack and Jill, the sibling pair, died. After a while, Sue and Bob, finding they already had an extremely close friend they liked and, to the appropriate level, loved, got married. It worked out great.

In some respects, keeping things "in the family" meant the bonds were largely pre-formed and actually helped because the children didn't need to incorporate a stranger into their lives.

In my family's case (not the one described above), my grandmother remarried after my dad left for college. While there was no conflict and he was the only grandfather I ever knew, there always seemed to be this slight disconnect because my dad didn't grow up with him, meaning there wasn't a strong bond between those two generations, making connections between all three generations more of a challenge.

My ex-wife got together with someone that was in our wedding party (we met through him originally 10 years earlier) less than 30 days after his wife (number 3) of 5-6 years died.