My Cat Scratched My Baby...I Need Advice
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"She has never liked children, and we knew that..."
And yet you still brought a baby into the home? :huh:
You have a few choices, but bottom line: your baby comes first. I love animals, but humans matter more.0 -
Honestly, getting a new cat that is raised around kids isn't going to solve your issue. The cat could still get pissed off and scratch your child.
Giving your cat away seems more inhumane than declawing it at this point. I am all for declawing because that is what we have done with the multitude of cats we have rescued, but if you are truly against it then I would file and cap the cat's nails.0 -
*Declawing her. I've always been sort of against this procedure, as I feel it's inhumane and usually unnecessary, and putting my six-year old adult cat through a painful and whoppingly traumatic surgery (that is usually only done on small babies) that could very well depress her and alter her personalty for the rest of her life, well, that also breaks my heart.
You should talk to your vet, I know there are caps you can have glued overtop of their claws. Kind of like fake nails but doesn't harm them in anyway but dulls the claw. My friend does them to her cats all the time (they will eventually grow out and need to be replaced periodically)0 -
I am glad that your son is okay. Very fortunate! I think you see lots of suggestions beyond giving your kitty away or declawing her. Animals - even non cranky ones - sometimes bite and scratch. They don't mean it. If you love the kitty and want to keep her as part of your growing family, trim or cap those claws, give her a place to escape that is kid-proof so that she isn't "bothered" by curious little ones and as early on as possible, teach your babies that "kitty is afraid of you" so they don't approach her. Just my thoughts...good luck with this and again, I'm glad your son's injury wasn't super serious (even if it is still super scary!)0
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My advice is to get a dog.
Agreed! And a puppy at that. (Sorry, we take from the OP's post what we want to!)
We had a dog that had to be re-homed when he started growling at our then 7 month old daughter. The other dog she could pull the ears off and he'd let her but I'll never leave them alone together.0 -
Time to get rid of the baby!
(*gets shot*)
I love animals, but in this situation, I don't think de-clawing is inhumane. Good luck!0 -
Get rid of that old, crazy cat. Your child's safety comes first0
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My cat has scratched my son on multiple occasions, never with the intent to hurt him, but merely as a byproduct of her swiping at him.
She's never been big on kids (namely loud, screechy kids like my kiddo), and we knew this when we had our son. But giving her away was never an option, and frankly, my son eventually needed to know that you need to respect the personal space of animals as well as people.
Unfortunately, he's going on 3, and has selective hearing, LOL.
So when we tell him, "Ben, leave Sabrina alone," and he doesn't, and continues to pester her, yeah, he gets a little scratch on the leg or hand or arm. He gets his feelings hurt more than anything, we clean it up and put an Angry Birds bandage on the scratch.
As time has gone on, though, he's learning more and more to just leave her alone. If it had been more of an issue, say, if she were scratching him out of pure evil malice, yeah, we'd take more drastic measures.
What it sounds like is your cat was scared and reacted because you guys didn't make sure his perceived "safety" was handled. That's more operator error than kitty's fault, in my opinion.
Take the time to really socialize your cat with baby, to show your baby that firstly, kitty needs their boundaries respected, and to show kitty that, despite the loud noises, baby is mostly harmless. Getting rid of a cat because of something like this is really unfair to the cat.0 -
Id say get the caps or go with getting declawed! A lot of people are against it but do what you have to Id much rather get my cat declawed then have to get rid of it! we have 2 cats and we had to have them declawed to live in the house we rent one is older and was cranky he has actually become a lot more cuddly and friendly since but im not saying thats why and the other cat acted fine as well no visible changes in personality in a negative way0
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I had this situation when my older daughter was younger. And believe it or not, it worked itself out. Your kid is not stupid, he will learn to leave kitty alone. In no way am I trying to minimize what happened, but it probably isn't as bad as it seems.
Now my grumpy cat gets along great with my now twelve year old daughter. But my now 16 year old cat hates my two year old with the intensity of the sun. So we relearn how to leave the kitty alone and everyone is happy.
I would never declaw.0 -
My older cat is declawed in the front and she never really recovered. The procedure went well according to the vet, but they made her stay overnight so she chewed out most of her fur from being stressed out away from home. When I got her home, her paws opened up and she bled everywhere, called the vet and they said it was normal, just apply pressure until it stops. Well now she refuses to run. She doesn't stretch out like a normal cat. She won't clean her paws, so I have to wipe them down gently with a wash cloth a few times a week. Her life sucks and it's my fault.
When I got another cat, a cute little kitten, I opted for nail caps. They're adorable, such cute colors, and they're pretty easy to put on.
Now I have a 15 pound declawed, miserable cat and a 5 pound nail capped, loving life cat.
Do the nail caps!0 -
We had a very cranky, older cat before we had children and the kids pretty much learned that they couldn't touch her. Mind you, we made sure she always had an escape route because, let's face it, kids can be rough.
If the choice is death or declawing, I'd go with declawing, but be aware that sometimes this makes an aggressive cat more aggressive. Also, is your cat overweight? That has bearing on the surgical recovery. After all, it is an amputation of the toes to the first knuckle joint.
Keep your cat's nails trimmed. Try Soft Paws (as have been mentioned already). Allow your cat its space and teach your child to respect the animal. Do not allow your child and your cat to be together unsupervised.
Also, please note that just because a kitten is brought up with kids, it does not mean that it will not scratch. If you want a guarantee of no scratching, particularly if kids do what kids are wont to do, and pet the cat with abandon, you would be better served with a webkin until your child is older.
Edited to add: I agree with the above few posters about this not seeming like an aggressive, malicious move on your cat's part. More fear related.0 -
My cat scratched my 14-month old toddler in the face last night, narrowly missing his EYE. She has never liked children, and we knew that, but last night the door to where she hides from our boy when he tries to play with her was closed. This can never happen again. One half of an inch higher, and my son would be in the hospital right now, being fitted with an eye patch. His life would be ruined forever.
My options as I see them:
*Give her away. I don't know of anyone who would want a cranky old brat cat that hates children, so that would probably mean a no-kill shelter for her. That would break my heart.
*Make her an outdoor cat. SHe has little to NO outdoor skills, and between her yowling outside the door to get back in, and joining the pack of wild cats that infests our apartment complex, this option seems pretty irresponsible. Plus, it wouldn't solve the problem; what if she just went and scratched somebody ELSE'S kid and blinded them? :noway:
*Declawing her. I've always been sort of against this procedure, as I feel it's inhumane and usually unnecessary, and putting my six-year old adult cat through a painful and whoppingly traumatic surgery (that is usually only done on small babies) that could very well depress her and alter her personalty for the rest of her life, well, that also breaks my heart.
If we get rid of her, we will get a replacement baby kitten, that we will raise to be comfortable around small children. The cost of vaccinating spaying/neutering it will be probably more than what we'll be charged for declawing Elphaba. So cost isn't really a factor in our decision.
Has anyone been in a similar situation, and had to make this decision? What did you do? Your thoughts? (Please no douche or smart-alec comments, like "I'll taker her, my snake needs food" or "just get a dog". I have enough on my plate right now without dealing with internet jerks. I'm not in the mood. Serious advice, only please.) Thanks!
I have two cats that have scratched my daughter before too. Close to the eye too, which makes me sick to think of what had happened if it were on her eye. Anyways, our cats are part of our family so our solution involves trimming the cats nails weekly (the same time I trim my daughter's nails) and teaching my daughter how to handle the cats properly.
One of our cats is a cat we got as a kitten when my daughter was younger and that has made no difference in her getting scratched, so don't believe that replacing your cat with a kitten will solve anything. I'm not trying to be a jerk, btw, just speaking from experience.0 -
How about de-facing the baby? No more scratches on the face.
I'm sorry but it's cruel to mutilate an animal. I would suggest getting claw caps or finding it a loving home oppose to declawing it...how much can you really love something to harm it like that? Also declawed cats poop all over the house because the litter hurts their paws.0 -
Firstly I'd try the option of trimming the claws a little or the claw cap thingys... But you might find your son stays well away from the cat after recent events! Problem solved.
If your cats happiness is important to you then of the options you outlined I'd find it a new loving new home for it over giving it to a shelter/de-clawing/making it an outdoors cat.0 -
Edited to add that declawed cats especially when declawed later in their years will want to protect themselves in other ways and may start biting. If this cat does not like your child then I don't think there are that many options.
This is very true. My oldest cat was a rescue who was de-clawed when I got her and she actually bit me once, which led to me being hospitalized overnight because the infection had caused cellulitis in my hand and they were considering surgery to remove the infection.0 -
Dont declaw! It's painful, they do not just take out the nail they cut off the first knuckle of the toe and the healing process is miserable. Try the rubber nail caps, I've heard from many people that they work great. You can always try restricting your cat to one room of the house while your kid is around, baby-gates always work for that to keep them separated. I work at a no-kill shelter myself and trust me all the old cranky cats do not get looked at very often. Your cat is used to living in a home, surrendering it to a shelter is going to make the cat worse and lessen the chances of it getting adopted. Don't blame the cat since you knew it didn't like children.0
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Good news! Your toddler now knows not to mess with the cat.0
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Cats are evil. Get a dog
Please refer to the last paragraph of my original post. Reading comprehension is a wonderful thing, you might want to look into it.0 -
I definitely think it will be time to rehome your cat if you have some worries like this. If you cat doesn't like children you can find a home that doesn't have kids and that can spend time with her to help improve her 'grumpiness' that would be the best option and there are a lot of homes like this out there. So this would definitely be a good first option.
Soft Paws would be another good alternative but this does not solve the problem in it's entirety but allows you to feel that your babe is more safe. It is a nail cover and it comes in different colors, can be applied by yourself or your vetrinarian on a schedule and reduces claw related injuries in the home and less occurences of scratched walls/furniture.
I think these would be the best and most humane options. If you do get a cat do research the breed. You'd think all breeds would be the same but then you'd be wrong, they are similar but not the same and certain breeds are more likely to like big groups and children so they would be a better option for the home. I wish you luck in your deicison, it's a hard one to make.0 -
Sell them both. Problem solved.0
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ok - firstly the problem has most likely resolved itself right now. your kid is old enough to have the logic of "mess with cat: cat hurts me" so, i say give it a week or three before you do anything.
secondly - and i know i'm going to get flamed, i don't care - this is where you can also try that crazy thing called "being a parent". TEACH your kid not to touch the cat. or to be GENTLE with the cat when they start to warm up to each other. toddlers are loud and they grab and they hurt - the cat isn't gonna like that (shocking i know). so sit down and TEACH THE KID to be gentle and to be quiet. teach your kid how to interact with the cat.
in the mean time, trim the cat's claws. this is a process for everyone involved, but it is YOUR responsablity as the parent and the human to teach everyone what to do.0 -
Toss the cat.
What do you want to tell your child when they grow up without an eye? Declawing would have been mean to the cat?? Gee thanks mom.
I've always felt that people who own animals remind of abused spouses. "Oh it's not their fault, they're usually really sweet, the baby did something to set the cat off..."
Be a parent. Take care of your kid.0 -
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A declawed, nasty cat will still be a nasty cat. With teeth. And the surgery kind of sucks for the animal. So I'll repeat what others have said - cap the claws.
Or you could try kitten mittens. Look at how happy this feline is!
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Toss the cat.
What do you want to tell your child when they grow up without an eye? Declawing would have been mean to the cat?? Gee thanks mom.
I've always felt that people who own animals remind of abused spouses. "Oh it's not their fault, they're usually really sweet, the baby did something to set the cat off..."
Be a parent. Take care of your kid.
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Also declawed cats poop all over the house because the litter hurts their paws.
???? Seriously. I demand evidence.
This might be the most absurd claim I've read in the last 20 minutes.0 -
Clip your kitties nails and teach him/her to tolerate your baby. If that doesn't work after a few months I would rethink options. Two kitties (9-ish and 5-ish years) and two babies here (infant and 17-month old), one super friendly guy that LOVES his babies (though was super skeptical of the first running and screaming weeks right around 13/14-months) and one that tolerates the babes daily and might seek them out on her own once a month.0
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Here's the claw caps. We just do this to front paws but you can do all four. If you just do the front this contains enough to do it 4 times.
http://www.petsmart.com/product/index.jsp?productId=4033287&f=PAD/psNotAvailInUS/No
This. Our cat tears up our carpet like no ones business and these are awesome! I take find it's best to take the cat to a groomer to get her nails done since she doesn't like it so we can't get them on as good as they should be.0 -
A declawed, nasty cat will still be a nasty cat. With teeth. And the surgery kind of sucks for the animal. So I'll repeat what others have said - cap the claws.
Or you could try kitten mittens. Look at how happy this feline is!
Problem solved.0
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