My first negative reaction.

It sounds to me that she's a bit selfish. She wanted you to do what SHE wanted you to do, regardless of how you felt about it. She didn't care! I would be willing to bet it wasn't the first time. As I always say, "Ex to the next!" Congratulations on staying strong!

Reclaim your power, doll. Don't allow her to hurt you ever again.

Personally, I think she's disappointed with herself and taking it out on you.

Jealousy and Selfishness.

If it was me, id be looking at it like a compliment and be pretty darn happy with myself.

It happens. My ex got unbelievably pissed at me and started yelling a similar rant when I last saw her at a friend's wedding. I found out later that she was pissed because I had lost 100 lbs by clean living, whereas she has gotten lap band surgery and still didn't lose much weight. She was taking out her frustration on me for having more willpower (this was the same woman who insisted that her parents hide all of their snack food when she came over because she "couldn't stop herself" from eating all of it if she found it). Let it roll of your back and just remember how well you've done.

I have found through the years that comments like those are usually spoken from a person that is bitter with their own failures. A girl told me that exact comment to me a few years back, and will admit it hurt me, but it also drove me to keep trying. She is still struggling, and I have moved past it. -There's no way to speak to your ex in a civil matter at this point, but at some point, you should sit down with her in a quite place and express to her how you feel. if she tells you to get over it, then just know you tried and you are dealing with an immature person.

As far as the whole, not going over your cal limits, I have been dumped my guys when I say stuff like that, so I just keep my mouth shut and I make healthy choices. Even at a buffet, you can do that. So, I really feel for you.

First of all, congrats to you on your success. Great job! I feel she is probably very insecure with herself, and often people will try to bring down others, to try and get a sense of their own self esteem. ( For me it would only make me feel worse if I tried bringing someone else down.) I would not worry about it though. EVERYONE deserves to be healthy, whether they are skinny or not!

You've lost 177lbs (which, by the way? AWESOME!!!!) You're not her man any more (whether she wants you to be or not) you look great, she's still overweight (I'm guessing?) and she's pi**ed.

Take it as a compliment of sorts, shrug it off, keep things as they are, amicable for the kids (which is also AWESOME!!! that you CAN eat out together etc.) and remember that it doesn't matter what she thinks, or says. So just carry on BEING AWESOME! :happy:

Many years ago (18 years) I lost 43 pounds prior to having children. My husband (now my ex) was not very supportive. He would discourage my exercise nights and want to go out to eat, a lot. There were several occasions where the waiters openly flirted/stared at me in front of my ex, hardly acknowledging him. He took offense to the lack of attention and would leave a penny for a tip. I would get yelled at all the way home and he would sulk for the rest of the evening and sometimes the next day. Congrats on what YOU have accomplished. Be proud of yourself! Your kids are proud of you. Your ex will eventually deal with the changes in you.