How to dump a guy without being mean?

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  • AIZZO4
    AIZZO4 Posts: 404 Member
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    Just sleep with someone else and tell him. He will run. Plus it will be fun for you.

    Damn! Heartless
  • Laura42012
    Laura42012 Posts: 180 Member
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    Wait... What is he still doing? Is he acting like you simply didn't break up? Begging for a second chance? Stalking?


    After all you've done, I'm baffled.

    I changed my textplus number but kept my regular cell number, so he keeps texting, keeps texting, saying he loves me. I finally messaged him back, to tell him AGAIN that I do not want to be with him anymore, I said he couldn't call me on the phone, or come back on my FB, but that we could still talk as friends, he immediately goes right back into asking me who I am talking to and trying to tell me what to do, which is the main reason I dumped him in the first place. So now, I feel like I have to dump him ALL OVER, even though I never said I'd changed my mind. It's just frustrating.

    Ignore him.
  • carrieous
    carrieous Posts: 1,024 Member
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    tell him you are going back to an old boyfriend. If he thinks there is another guy in the picture he will usually back off.
  • aaronlawrenc
    aaronlawrenc Posts: 666 Member
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    tell him you are going back to an old boyfriend. If he thinks there is another guy in the picture he will usually back off.

    or stalk/kill your old boyfriends...either way you win
  • Cr01502
    Cr01502 Posts: 3,614 Member
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    Get drunk and sleep with one of his family members.
  • corn63
    corn63 Posts: 1,580 Member
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    Send one last text: Please do not contact me any further.


    And let that be it. You cannot be friends with him, you cannot communicate with him. He doesn't get it. Ignore him. If he gets threatening, let the authorities know. But DO NOT CONTACT HIM ANY FURTHER (and that includes reciprocation to his texts). By doing that, he still has his foot in the door and will continue to message you.
  • jenbit
    jenbit Posts: 4,289 Member
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    Wait... What is he still doing? Is he acting like you simply didn't break up? Begging for a second chance? Stalking?


    After all you've done, I'm baffled.

    I changed my textplus number but kept my regular cell number, so he keeps texting, keeps texting, saying he loves me. I finally messaged him back, to tell him AGAIN that I do not want to be with him anymore, I said he couldn't call me on the phone, or come back on my FB, but that we could still talk as friends, he immediately goes right back into asking me who I am talking to and trying to tell me what to do, which is the main reason I dumped him in the first place. So now, I feel like I have to dump him ALL OVER, even though I never said I'd changed my mind. It's just frustrating.

    Hmmm what is he in high school j/k...... Stop answering him block his number and ignore him.. you already told him you didn't want to date him anymore .... Seriously if he escelates get a restraining order

    Edited cause well just cause
  • JustAboutDelicious_wechanged
    JustAboutDelicious_wechanged Posts: 2,487 Member
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    Just sleep with someone else and tell him. He will run. Plus it will be fun for you.

    Damn! Heartless

    What???? It works like a charm I tell you.
  • iAMsmiling
    iAMsmiling Posts: 2,394 Member
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    Get drunk and sleep with one of his family members.

    Unless you're in West Virginia, in which case you'll automatically become a member of the family.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
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    Get drunk and sleep with one of his family members.

    Unless you're in West Virginia, in which case you'll automatically become a member of the family.


    Very good advice here....
  • _Witsy_
    _Witsy_ Posts: 609 Member
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    I would suggest....to stop responding to him and engaging him?
  • cburky911
    cburky911 Posts: 89 Member
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    We can still be friends.

    Girls Translation - I want to break up with you (but don't want to hurt your feelings)
    Guy Translation - She still wants to be with me but wants more attention from me

    Hurting his feelings a little now will save you both alot of hurt feelings in the future. You can't break up with someone without hurting their feelings. Guys don't get hints the way they are intended. Tell him this word for word...."I no longer want to date you. We are no longer a couple. I'm sorry it didn't work out. Good luck to you. Please stop contacting me, I will no longer respond."

    No more explanations, no more excuses, no more "it's me, not you". They don't work. Take it from a guy who was dumped by someone "not wanting to hurt my feelings."
  • Guillotined
    Guillotined Posts: 115
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    Is he showing up on your door step? That's stalker and needs policee involvement.

    Um yeah, no. Please do not call the police because a guy you just dumped showed up at your door. If he shows up with a gun, or if he refuses to leave and you truly feel you are in danger, have at it. But being annoyed that someone you actually have a personal relationship with won't get the hint that it's over does not constitute being stalked. The police have bigger fish to fry.

    Just.... thank you....=]

    I'm sorry, if I tell someone I don't want to see/talk/text or be any part of their life, they randomly show up at my door and won't leave when I ask, I think that deserves an escort.

    You have to realize the damage you do to someone by getting a restraining order. There's many ways to avoid it, so many that there's no point in listing them. A restraining order was and is meant for people in DANGER. Yes, someone showing up to your doorstep and crying and begging is annoying. But so are telemarketers, so are beggars, so are step parents. If you aren't in danger, why waste the police and sheriff departments time? I'm sure at least one in your life you've said out loud "where are the cops when you really need them?!" Well there's your answer.
  • annwyatt69
    annwyatt69 Posts: 727 Member
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    Don't know about dumping a guy, as I never have. But my husband (the father of my 3 sons) left me by postcard.
  • Cr01502
    Cr01502 Posts: 3,614 Member
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    I would suggest....to stop responding to him and engaging him?

    Complete broscience.
  • WinnerVictorious
    WinnerVictorious Posts: 4,735 Member
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    nvm. thought this was a joke thread (Chit Chat Fun and Games). :frown:
  • drchimpanzee
    drchimpanzee Posts: 892 Member
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    Send him a sex tape of you and the new guy you're banging. Also a copy to me.
  • Heaven71
    Heaven71 Posts: 706 Member
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    But still making him understand it's really truly over. I tried the "it's not you, it's me" it didn't go so well. Help a sister out.

    How about... Please don't make me get a restraining order. :drinker:
  • KANGOOJUMPS
    KANGOOJUMPS Posts: 6,472 Member
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    um, sorry, but see ya.!
  • wildcatnyc
    wildcatnyc Posts: 2,410 Member
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    Tell him you are never, ever, ever getting back together. Like ever.

    Hahaha - oh Taylor...

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