what do guys really think?

jennie0918
jennie0918 Posts: 69 Member
in Motivation and Support
this is a question for the guys. when you see women working out at the gym obviously you're sitting there checking out the hot girls who are there but what do you think of the bigger girls there? Do you ever think oh good for her she's working out? or are you like .. get out you're a waste of space? i'd like to know
«13

Replies

  • ldrosophila
    ldrosophila Posts: 7,512 Member
    unless she's naked I dont think they even notice frumpy mcfumpants wallflower. I am an invisible speck on the wall, but this speck watches and plots. Mwhahahahahaha!
  • RxVirus
    RxVirus Posts: 61 Member
    I'm not a guy but whoever makes fun of a fat person for trying to loose weight is a jerk!
  • rowanwood
    rowanwood Posts: 509 Member
    In case you haven't heard, "guys" don't share a group brain or consciousness. Some people who are male are jerks and some are nice and some are gay and most of these magical "guys" could care less what you are doing.

    Just a thought.
  • bostongrl13
    bostongrl13 Posts: 58 Member
    Here's a better question: What do YOU think of yourself when you're in the gym? When you see yourself in the mirror do you think "Damn she's hot, good for her!" or "You shouldn't be here, you're a waste of space?"

    Not trying to be snarky...it's a legit question.
  • diodelcibo
    diodelcibo Posts: 2,564 Member
    I that guy at the gym who doesn't even know you exist unless your using something I want and to be honest I probably wouldn't notice or care if everyone just randomly got naked.
  • eatcleanNtraindirty
    eatcleanNtraindirty Posts: 444 Member
    I think that it's good that those bigger girls are in there! And hoping that one day with enough dedication and consistency that they too can be that hot girl I'm checking out.
  • Contrarian
    Contrarian Posts: 8,138 Member
    In case you haven't heard, "guys" don't share a group brain or consciousness. Some people who are male are jerks and some are nice and some are gay and most of these magical "guys" could care less what you are doing.

    Just a thought.

    Almost like people!
  • Skrib69
    Skrib69 Posts: 687 Member
    Really.....? I thought 'Well, they are brave coming to a place like this. Good luck to them - I hope they succeed'. Getting passed peoples percieved prejudices can be so hard so I always admire someone who has the determination to put themselves in such an alien environment
  • SoViLicious
    SoViLicious Posts: 2,633 Member
    As I loaded the bar a guy walked by and said... "Nice rack".
  • Green_Ash
    Green_Ash Posts: 16 Member
    I've actually gotten help and advice from the guys in the gym since I'm over in the free weights a lot. At first I was really shy, but I noticed I wasn't getting looked at funny or treated differently. The worst time I've ever had was when two girls walked by and laughed/pointed while i was doing rack pulls...but that's only happened once, it's not a norm.
  • drchimpanzee
    drchimpanzee Posts: 892 Member
    I notice women at the gym pretty much the same way I do everywhere else. If I thinks she's cute I notice. If I don't I probably just don't notice her at all. If she's dressed like a prostitute I stare. As for someone's fitness level, male or female, I could care less I never judge one way or another honestly unless it's a guy lifting like the hulk. Then I just wonder how long it will take me to get there.
  • MireyGal76
    MireyGal76 Posts: 7,334 Member
    I that guy at the gym who doesn't even know you exist unless your using something I want and to be honest I probably wouldn't notice or care if everyone just randomly got naked.

    *gets membership at his gym for 'scientific purposes'*
    *gets naked to see if he notices*
  • matt2442
    matt2442 Posts: 1,259 Member
    I usually add a sarcastic twist on everything i post on this site but:

    I would never ever ever ever say that someone is a waste of space, so rephrase your question and you might get better responses.
  • jdm0804
    jdm0804 Posts: 98 Member
    This post reminds me of Barney Stinson on How I Met Your Mother. "Investing" or paying attention to the less than fit girls so that when they are fit, they think the guy has a heart of gold. Then it. is. on!

    But as for me, the only girl I really pay much attention to at the gym is my wife.
  • MireyGal76
    MireyGal76 Posts: 7,334 Member
    this is a question for the guys. when you see women working out at the gym obviously you're sitting there checking out the hot girls who are there but what do you think of the bigger girls there? Do you ever think oh good for her she's working out? or are you like .. get out you're a waste of space? i'd like to know

    as for the OP...

    men and women alike, I am proud for every person that is there and getting their sweat on.

    I had my pride handed to me on a plate when I strolled into boxing thinking I was in "great shape" and a woman with 80 pounds to lose could out squat me, out pushup me, and out plank me. Me with my abs and *kitten* and legs - meant nothing to this woman, she was stronger than I may ever be.

    All I do is see people pushing themselves to be better, and that works well for me.
  • Barbellerella
    Barbellerella Posts: 1,838 Member
    As I loaded the bar a guy walked by and said... "Nice rack".
    QFT
  • BarbellApprentice
    BarbellApprentice Posts: 486 Member
    I think "good for them".
  • _DaniD_
    _DaniD_ Posts: 2,186 Member
    Do you ever think oh good for her she's working out? or are you like .. get out you're a waste of space?

    tumblr_m8l60jLcij1ra5p9wo1_500.gif
  • iulia_maddie
    iulia_maddie Posts: 2,780 Member
    As I loaded the bar a guy walked by and said... "Nice rack".
    You said you'd let ME take care of that rack!
  • Lift_This_
    Lift_This_ Posts: 2,756 Member
    As I loaded the bar a guy walked by and said... "Nice rack".

    nice squat! :wink:
  • ScatteredThoughts
    ScatteredThoughts Posts: 3,562 Member
    Here's a better question: What do YOU think of yourself when you're in the gym? When you see yourself in the mirror do you think "Damn she's hot, good for her!" or "You shouldn't be here, you're a waste of space?"

    Not trying to be snarky...it's a legit question.

    Well said.

    I'm a terrible runner, and because of that I used to be afraid to run outside. I always felt like everyone was watching and judging how slow I am. Now I realize that they didn't get to being better just in one day. So, I keep at it, and work on my improving what I can do myself.
  • Alex_is_Hawks
    Alex_is_Hawks Posts: 3,499 Member
    I work out in a gym full of men....all the time....and I don't notice them unless they are acting like a Bro and/or trying to kill themselves.

    other than that I am head down focused on my routine, my form, my reps and my rest times.

    for the most part I notice that the guys are the same....Heads down, counting off their numbers, watching their times and clinking weight.

    I assume, they are focused on their work out.

    but that's just me.

    If they did notice a woman, they probably notice the same thing I do, that she's doing something bizarre or trying to kill herself.

    Just a guess.
  • rdjamis
    rdjamis Posts: 26 Member
    guys like girls that SMILE . seems interestingly different!
  • diodelcibo
    diodelcibo Posts: 2,564 Member
    I that guy at the gym who doesn't even know you exist unless your using something I want and to be honest I probably wouldn't notice or care if everyone just randomly got naked.

    *gets membership at his gym for 'scientific purposes'*
    *gets naked to see if he notices*

    During the workout nothing would stir but afterwards is a different story...
  • PattiBear85
    PattiBear85 Posts: 24 Member
    This post reminds me of Barney Stinson on How I Met Your Mother. "Investing" or paying attention to the less than fit girls so that when they are fit, they think the guy has a heart of gold. Then it. is. on!

    But as for me, the only girl I really pay much attention to at the gym is my wife.

    I saw that episode...
    And you my dear man are probably a sweet guy or your wife is nearby able to read this. lol
  • theCarlton
    theCarlton Posts: 1,344 Member
    I'm just going to come at you sideways with unsolicited advice.
    Do whatever it takes to stop wondering what other people think about you. It's the only way you'll ever really be at peace with yourself. The answers to this thread will both confirm and deny your fears that you're being judged in the gym by people you want to find you attractive. You truly have to stop caring and be about yourself. Good luck. :smile:
  • SpeSHul_SnoflEHk
    SpeSHul_SnoflEHk Posts: 6,256 Member
    Uh... Who says the bigger girls are a waste of space? That's just wrong.

    Also, what I think depends on the girl really. If she has swagger and confidence, I may be thinking, "She's hot" If she's shy and jittery afraid that someone is going to be telling her she is a waste of space, then I will think, "Poor girl. She is here doing a good thing for herself, why can't she see that she is worth so much more than what she looks like?" I have seen many a "heavy" girl at the gym that I would be interested in if I weren't busy getting my burn on.

    I really respect and admire anyone who comes to the gym to take control of their lives and try to improve themselves. There is a guy I see at the gym, and he walks the track every day. He can't even bend over to get his shoes on correctly, and has the back of the shoe mashed down with his heels. I think it is awesome that he is there every single day rain or shine improving his health, and I can't wait to see the day he can fix his shoes before he hits the track.
  • MidwestAngel
    MidwestAngel Posts: 1,897 Member
    Meh, who cares what anyone else thinks. Just do you.
  • Prettymisssparkles
    Prettymisssparkles Posts: 1,274 Member
    This post reminds me of Barney Stinson on How I Met Your Mother. "Investing" or paying attention to the less than fit girls so that when they are fit, they think the guy has a heart of gold. Then it. is. on!

    But as for me, the only girl I really pay much attention to at the gym is my wife.


    Haha! Same thought came to my mind when I read this post! Best show ever!
  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    I'm usually busy trying not to drop barbells on myself...plus, my weight room is in a completely different area of the gym than cardio...the only woman I usually see is my wife. Not too many women in the weight room of my gym.

Categories